Hey everyone,
"Traditional" seems to be a big word in the Singles forum these days... lots of talk about people wanting a "traditional" spouse, but what exactly does that mean?
From what I've read in the forums, most people define "traditional" as having old-fashioned manners and wives who look to men as the head of the household in a Godly union.
But one thing I never see clearly defined, as I've asked this question before in the traditional threads but never seemed to get an answer...
Do two people who want a "traditional" spouse and marriage also expect to carry out the "tradition" of men going to work and women staying at home to raise the kids? I am genuinely curious about this.
I come from, what many are describing in these threads, a very "traditional" family, with the dad working and the mom staying at home to raise the kids, and that is how my siblings went on to raise their own families as well (dad providing for the entire household; but when the kids were older, the moms went to work again.)
I realize that in today's world, this kind of "tradition" often isn't possible due to economic standards and hardships.
So when people talk about "tradition" today, do they mean they want traditional "values", but NOT traditional roles when it comes to work and income?
* Ladies, do you expect your "traditional" man to provide for yourself and the children? Do you want to stay at home and raise the kids while he goes to work?
* Gentlemen, do you want your "traditional" wife to stay at home with the kids? Or do you feel that in today's world, a "traditional" woman should work outside the home as well?
* In past eras, the definition of "traditional" meant that it was unheard of (and practically forbidden) for women to work. In today's modern definition of the term "traditional", is it now just expected that men will be the head of the household but not its sole provider?
I hope we can have a peaceful discussion about this and NOT a heated debated.
A young teenage co-worker asked me about my parents and when I told her about my family, she said, "Wow, what's it like to have parents who are actually married?" I felt really sad that broken families so often seem to be what's "normal" to most people.
I am genuinely interested in what people today see as a "traditional family unit" and what it looks like.
"Traditional" seems to be a big word in the Singles forum these days... lots of talk about people wanting a "traditional" spouse, but what exactly does that mean?
From what I've read in the forums, most people define "traditional" as having old-fashioned manners and wives who look to men as the head of the household in a Godly union.
But one thing I never see clearly defined, as I've asked this question before in the traditional threads but never seemed to get an answer...
Do two people who want a "traditional" spouse and marriage also expect to carry out the "tradition" of men going to work and women staying at home to raise the kids? I am genuinely curious about this.
I come from, what many are describing in these threads, a very "traditional" family, with the dad working and the mom staying at home to raise the kids, and that is how my siblings went on to raise their own families as well (dad providing for the entire household; but when the kids were older, the moms went to work again.)
I realize that in today's world, this kind of "tradition" often isn't possible due to economic standards and hardships.
So when people talk about "tradition" today, do they mean they want traditional "values", but NOT traditional roles when it comes to work and income?
* Ladies, do you expect your "traditional" man to provide for yourself and the children? Do you want to stay at home and raise the kids while he goes to work?
* Gentlemen, do you want your "traditional" wife to stay at home with the kids? Or do you feel that in today's world, a "traditional" woman should work outside the home as well?
* In past eras, the definition of "traditional" meant that it was unheard of (and practically forbidden) for women to work. In today's modern definition of the term "traditional", is it now just expected that men will be the head of the household but not its sole provider?
I hope we can have a peaceful discussion about this and NOT a heated debated.
A young teenage co-worker asked me about my parents and when I told her about my family, she said, "Wow, what's it like to have parents who are actually married?" I felt really sad that broken families so often seem to be what's "normal" to most people.
I am genuinely interested in what people today see as a "traditional family unit" and what it looks like.
