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I realize that with most christian singles who have never been married and don't have children, we tend to look for the same in those we date. It makes sense actually, that you would prefer to date someone who feels the same way you that you do about relationships. After all, you have made numerous sacrifices to make yourself as uncomplicated as possible heading into marriage so it makes sense that one would like the same in return.
As for me, I've always wanted children. About ten years ago, before my walk with the Lord, I dated a girl who had a one year old daughter out of wedlock. When the relationship was finally over, I had a very hard time moving on because I had unknowingly become emotionally attached to little girl, possibly more so than I was to my ex. It was a really hard break up that took a couple of years to resolve. That's when I decided that I would never date another woman with children, at least little ones that are so easy to become attached.
However, and this could be age talking (*lol*), as I look at the world and how it has basically gone to hell in a hand basket over the last couple of decades, I'm really starting to doubt whether or not I really want to bring children of my own into this world. I mean... I love children and can't imagine starting a family without having children around but it is out of that same love for children that I'm beginning to realize that maybe this world is not the best place for them.
Anyways, keeping that in mind, I'm starting to reconsidering dating someone who may have children from a previous relationship (just as long as their previous relationship is in deed over and ended in a biblical manner and also the father isn't some sort of psychopath! *lol*). Also, I find myself warming up to the idea of adoption and would like to keep this option open for discussion with my future wife if / when I finally marry and settle down.
I'm interested in hearing other peoples opinion, especially those of you who are single and in your late 20's and into your 30's.
As for me, I've always wanted children. About ten years ago, before my walk with the Lord, I dated a girl who had a one year old daughter out of wedlock. When the relationship was finally over, I had a very hard time moving on because I had unknowingly become emotionally attached to little girl, possibly more so than I was to my ex. It was a really hard break up that took a couple of years to resolve. That's when I decided that I would never date another woman with children, at least little ones that are so easy to become attached.
However, and this could be age talking (*lol*), as I look at the world and how it has basically gone to hell in a hand basket over the last couple of decades, I'm really starting to doubt whether or not I really want to bring children of my own into this world. I mean... I love children and can't imagine starting a family without having children around but it is out of that same love for children that I'm beginning to realize that maybe this world is not the best place for them.
Anyways, keeping that in mind, I'm starting to reconsidering dating someone who may have children from a previous relationship (just as long as their previous relationship is in deed over and ended in a biblical manner and also the father isn't some sort of psychopath! *lol*). Also, I find myself warming up to the idea of adoption and would like to keep this option open for discussion with my future wife if / when I finally marry and settle down.
I'm interested in hearing other peoples opinion, especially those of you who are single and in your late 20's and into your 30's.