I need help when facing my dater

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ealltech

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I need some advice on how I should proceed with a current situation between me and a guy I met on Passfeed. We met over Halloween weekend. He lives in LA, me in SEA. He facetime/calls me every single day for the last 3 weeks, says he would like to know me better and that we have chemistry. We hit it off. Yes, we’ve already hooked up.

I had made plans to go to Lake Tahoe for NYE with another college friend of mine and the original plan was to meet up with my crush (since he would be there as well). That plan fell through and my friend is no longer going. I told my crush this last week and he said that’s ok, you can stay with me for a few days & that I had nothing to worry about. He made it sound that he did not want me to make other plans for NYE.

I want to buy my flight this week on black Friday. I talked to him last night about what dates should I fly in & reminded him I would be staying with him. He got kind of weird and said “well don’t put all of this on me, I won’t be able to hang out with you the whole entire time, I do have to work while im there. I don’t know the plan in full detail and that’s the truth.” (he is working some events happening for a couple days) my reply “well my biggest fear is you’ll drop the ball on me and I won’t see you at all” him “That couldn’t possibly happen I’ll be there for 5 days” me “I just need to 100% know that I have somewhere to sleep and put my bags” & after I said that I got kind of a not certain “sure”. Now I’m panicked since he was so for me being there to being kind of elusive. I think I may suggest I visit for 2 nights instead of 4 so it takes some of the pressure off but on the other hand Ive been thinking of just saying I decided to cancel the trip all together.

Help!
 

Lynx

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Aug 13, 2014
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I'm scratching my head here. You say your date is a he, yet your identity on this forum is male. Of course it is possible you forgot to set your gender as female when you joined this forum.


Of course if you ARE a guy, and your date is a guy... you're probably in the wrong forum.


But I'm going to proceed on the assumption you're a girl.
 

blue_ladybug

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Feb 21, 2014
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I'm scratching my head here. You say your date is a he, yet your identity on this forum is male. Of course it is possible you forgot to set your gender as female when you joined this forum.


Of course if you ARE a guy, and your date is a guy... you're probably in the wrong forum.


But I'm going to proceed on the assumption you're a girl.


His profile states he IS male. On that note, if he's getting all weird on you, maybe he's trying to give you the hint that he doesn't want you coming there at all. Sounds like he's more focused on work, rather than you. It also sounds like he doesn't really care one way or the other. I'd think twice before buying an expensive ticket, because it would be bad to get there and you can't stay with him, or he leaves you all alone in favor of work.
 
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First of all, I'm old..... What does "We've already 'hooked-up,' " mean?

Secondly, it sounds like you would be out of your mind to go.
 
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JeniBean

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First of all, I'm old..... What does "We've already 'hooked-up,' " mean?

Secondly, it sounds like you would be out of your mind to go.
Ahem....HOOKED UP in terms of your understanding to simplify...SEX!
 
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dalconn

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fleshpot

noun

  • often fleshpots A district or establishment offering erotic pleasures or entertainment.
  • fleshpots Sensual pleasure or sexual gratification.
 

JonahLynx

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This thread is all kinds of weird, but I'm going to say just don't go.