OP:
Your post makes me think of a former female friend of my husband and her mom.
My husband met her in 2011. She was a neighbor of his. She was born in 1983.
My husband is a Christian, and she told him that she was one as well.
She came from a very religious family. Her father was a preacher. Her mom wanted her to meet a nice Christian guy.
She knew all about the Bible and its teachings. She was very involved with her Church during the week and on Sunday's.
However, there were many red flag flags regarding her and her behavior.
According to my husband, when she moved into the apartment complex he lived at, she chose to do whatever she wanted to do and act however she wanted to act because she was away from her Mom, who was very controlling.
The two of them were neighbors at first, but it progressed into more on her end. However, he did not want the same thing she wanted.
All of this happened before and while while we were dating each-other.
She was involved in a dating situation with one my husband's male friends. According to my husband it was not a relationship. The two of them just hung out together at his place.
One day while my husband was getting his male, she saw him, and she asked him if he had time to come over to her place so she could talk to him about something. He went over to her place later that night.
Turns out while she and my husband's male friend were alone at his place, he sexually violated her. She was upset about that, and she wanted his help understanding why it happened. My husband agreed to help her but only as a friend. She said OK to that.
He gave her his phone number, and he showed her how to text.
But she wanted more.
She would call him or text him to help her with any problem she had
She invited him over to her place twice to have dinner, listen to music, watch a movie, or to help her with her homework. She was going to school at the time. According to my husband, he was never interested in her romantically because there was no connection between them. He did not feel any type of connection when the two of them spent time together at her place.
A specific incident which stood out was the time she invited him over to her place for dinner on a Saturday night. She also wanted his help with her homework. It was late at night, and so she suggested that he sleep on her couch while she slept in her bed. He agreed. But she had several kittens which kept him up, and so early in the morning he quietly left her place to go back to her place. The following day she knocked on his door demanding to know why he left her place. He told her because her kittens kept him up and he could not sleep. So he went back to his place. But she would not accept his answer. She was mad.
Whenever the two of them would spend time together, she would either invite him over to her place or she would go to his place because she wanted to watch a movie he had or play a video game he had.
A couple of times when she was at his place she told him that she had to use his bathroom, and each time this happened, she left her bra on the bathroom floor. He noticed that after she left his place. So he would call her and tell her that she left her bra on his bathroom floor. Her response was "I did not know that happened." There was also the time when she left her underwear on his bathroom floor smelling like perfume. He called her to let her know that she left her underwear on his bathroom floor. Same response from her. While she was behaving like this the two of us started dating. He told her that he had a girlfriend. Her reply was "Ok... whatever... I do not care." He even introduced me to her. She asked him if the two of us were dating. He said yes. She told him that I was not good enough for him. He told her that he already made the choice to date me.
There were times when the two of us were spending time alone together when she would call him or text him telling him that she needed to talk to him. He replied that he was busy. But that did not stop her from calling or texting.
According to my husband, their conversations were mainly about her. School, her complaints regarding his male friend whom she still spending time alone with despite the fact that he sexually violated her, what her day was like, and her faith.
Once my husband and I got engaged, I told him there needed to be some changes regarding their friendship.
No more spending time alone together
Group activities only
She was not happy. She insisted on things being the way they were before we got engaged, but they could not be if I would remain engaged to him. She would not take no for an answer.
Due to her behavior, my husband and she are no longer friends. All of this happened between 2011 and 2012.
Even though she told my husband she was a Christian, she would not make a good mate.
Your post makes me think of a former female friend of my husband and her mom.
My husband met her in 2011. She was a neighbor of his. She was born in 1983.
My husband is a Christian, and she told him that she was one as well.
She came from a very religious family. Her father was a preacher. Her mom wanted her to meet a nice Christian guy.
She knew all about the Bible and its teachings. She was very involved with her Church during the week and on Sunday's.
However, there were many red flag flags regarding her and her behavior.
According to my husband, when she moved into the apartment complex he lived at, she chose to do whatever she wanted to do and act however she wanted to act because she was away from her Mom, who was very controlling.
The two of them were neighbors at first, but it progressed into more on her end. However, he did not want the same thing she wanted.
All of this happened before and while while we were dating each-other.
She was involved in a dating situation with one my husband's male friends. According to my husband it was not a relationship. The two of them just hung out together at his place.
One day while my husband was getting his male, she saw him, and she asked him if he had time to come over to her place so she could talk to him about something. He went over to her place later that night.
Turns out while she and my husband's male friend were alone at his place, he sexually violated her. She was upset about that, and she wanted his help understanding why it happened. My husband agreed to help her but only as a friend. She said OK to that.
He gave her his phone number, and he showed her how to text.
But she wanted more.
She would call him or text him to help her with any problem she had
She invited him over to her place twice to have dinner, listen to music, watch a movie, or to help her with her homework. She was going to school at the time. According to my husband, he was never interested in her romantically because there was no connection between them. He did not feel any type of connection when the two of them spent time together at her place.
A specific incident which stood out was the time she invited him over to her place for dinner on a Saturday night. She also wanted his help with her homework. It was late at night, and so she suggested that he sleep on her couch while she slept in her bed. He agreed. But she had several kittens which kept him up, and so early in the morning he quietly left her place to go back to her place. The following day she knocked on his door demanding to know why he left her place. He told her because her kittens kept him up and he could not sleep. So he went back to his place. But she would not accept his answer. She was mad.
Whenever the two of them would spend time together, she would either invite him over to her place or she would go to his place because she wanted to watch a movie he had or play a video game he had.
A couple of times when she was at his place she told him that she had to use his bathroom, and each time this happened, she left her bra on the bathroom floor. He noticed that after she left his place. So he would call her and tell her that she left her bra on his bathroom floor. Her response was "I did not know that happened." There was also the time when she left her underwear on his bathroom floor smelling like perfume. He called her to let her know that she left her underwear on his bathroom floor. Same response from her. While she was behaving like this the two of us started dating. He told her that he had a girlfriend. Her reply was "Ok... whatever... I do not care." He even introduced me to her. She asked him if the two of us were dating. He said yes. She told him that I was not good enough for him. He told her that he already made the choice to date me.
There were times when the two of us were spending time alone together when she would call him or text him telling him that she needed to talk to him. He replied that he was busy. But that did not stop her from calling or texting.
According to my husband, their conversations were mainly about her. School, her complaints regarding his male friend whom she still spending time alone with despite the fact that he sexually violated her, what her day was like, and her faith.
Once my husband and I got engaged, I told him there needed to be some changes regarding their friendship.
No more spending time alone together
Group activities only
She was not happy. She insisted on things being the way they were before we got engaged, but they could not be if I would remain engaged to him. She would not take no for an answer.
Due to her behavior, my husband and she are no longer friends. All of this happened between 2011 and 2012.
Even though she told my husband she was a Christian, she would not make a good mate.
