Pressure

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Sweet_

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Brothers and sisters in Christ,I am 25 and my parents give me a lot of pressure now to look for a husband. Many of my classmates and my cousin have got married. My parents are worried every day about me.My parents are unbelievers and pressure me to go to a lot of blind datings with unbelievers.How I hate it!I want to find a very godly Christ-like man,a true believer, stronger in faith than I.I am still waiting that dear person to appear.I live and work in my hometown.Godly young single Christian man almost doesn't exist around me. Sometimes, I feel desperate and think maybe I have to be alone all my life. From my childhood to now I am always alone. Thank God that Jesus come into my life. There are times I think, well,it doesn't matter, as long as God loves me and is with me. Other times I do desire a dear person to appear.I lack faith.Though desperate, I will wait and say a million No to unbelievers.
 
My dad wife waited 27 years 4 a spiritual minded man, I'm not saying u will have 2 wait that long, but real spiritual minded men are 1/000 spiritual minded women are even more rare, almost out of this world rare, but don't be unequally yoked with anyone, obviously u can ask God 4 a husband, in the bible a man fasted 4 a wife ,so u can fast 4 a husband, go 2 god first and ask him then keep ur eyes open look for ur answer, :)
 
Yea, as tiresome as it can be, its best to wait on God. He will bring you the right person at the right time. Remember, its all in His time.

God Bless,

BA
 
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My dad wife waited 27 years 4 a spiritual minded man, I'm not saying u will have 2 wait that long, but real spiritual minded men are 1/000 spiritual minded women are even more rare, almost out of this world rare, but don't be unequally yoked with anyone, obviously u can ask God 4 a husband, in the bible a man fasted 4 a wife ,so u can fast 4 a husband, go 2 god first and ask him then keep ur eyes open look for ur answer, :)
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You have that backwards! Women are more likely to believe than men. The studies have been done. Research!
 
God bless your heart Sweet!

I know Jesus is sooo proud of you for being strong in the Faith.
I am in agreement with Born Again...it IS all in God's timing.
Please be strong as you can. I know it must be very stressful that your parents are non believers.
I am sorry for that.
But I do believe strongly in true love and patience.
And I do believe if you put everything in God's hands
You will be led to the love of your life
If this is what you want.
Never underestimate the power of love dear sister!
I will pray for you!
God bless Sweet the true love her heart desires

Amen
 
I am a single man, I've looked left I've looked right,I've looked up but have not found no single spiritual minded women.
 
Women believers may out number men but I'm talking about spiritual minded women
 
Friends and (forum) neighbors, please keep in mind the OP's nationality. China ain't like the USA and social pressure to marry is... different there.
 
Sweet_ said:
Brothers and sisters in Christ,I am 25 and my parents give me a lot of pressure now to look for a husband. Many of my classmates and my cousin have got married. My parents are worried every day about me.My parents are unbelievers and pressure me to go to a lot of blind datings with unbelievers.How I hate it!I want to find a very godly Christ-like man,a true believer, stronger in faith than I.I am still waiting that dear person to appear.I live and work in my hometown.Godly young single Christian man almost doesn't exist around me. Sometimes, I feel desperate and think maybe I have to be alone all my life. From my childhood to now I am always alone. Thank God that Jesus come into my life. There are times I think, well,it doesn't matter, as long as God loves me and is with me. Other times I do desire a dear person to appear.I lack faith.Though desperate, I will wait and say a million No to unbelievers.
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Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD. Psalm 27:14



I the LORD search the heart, and try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings. Jeremiah 17:10


My dear sister, don't give up and listen to erring voices around you. God is testing to see if you are really His and will you wait on the Lord to give you the desires of your heart. I am glad that you have said in your heart, that you will not commit this sin against God by going the way of your parents suggestion. Satan seeks to destroy us even through those who love us. They don't understand as yet the importance of your decision. I pray that God will give your parents eye salve to see what you see.


I would love to know how you came to know Jesus as your Savior. If you don't mind sharing your testimony. Welcome to Christian Chat.
 
Sweet_ said:
Brothers and sisters in Christ,I am 25 and my parents give me a lot of pressure now to look for a husband. Many of my classmates and my cousin have got married. My parents are worried every day about me.My parents are unbelievers and pressure me to go to a lot of blind datings with unbelievers.How I hate it!I want to find a very godly Christ-like man,a true believer, stronger in faith than I.I am still waiting that dear person to appear.I live and work in my hometown.Godly young single Christian man almost doesn't exist around me. Sometimes, I feel desperate and think maybe I have to be alone all my life. From my childhood to now I am always alone. Thank God that Jesus come into my life. There are times I think, well,it doesn't matter, as long as God loves me and is with me. Other times I do desire a dear person to appear.I lack faith.Though desperate, I will wait and say a million No to unbelievers.
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Why do you lack faith? If it isn't an idol why would God not want to give you someone or want you to wait another 10 years? Just start making friends. I started making them on Facebook.
 
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Sweet, you are adorable! I just prayed for you. God loves you dearly!
 
Hey Sweet, I'm an Asian myself (we're neighbours, you know ;) ) and I can relate to what you are going through. Many of my friends have been pressurised by their parents and other family members into getting married, by the time they turn 25. In the case of girls, it is even earlier, say 22 or 23. I can understand how difficult it must be to withstand the pressure from your family, and I salute your courage and determination to stand strong thus far. All I can say is that you should try to hold out for as long as it is possible. In I Corinthians 10:13, Paul says that God will not allow us to be tried beyond what we are capable of handling. He also adds that with the trial, He also provides for a way of escape so that we may endure it. Now, I do not know what that 'way of escape' is for you during this testing time, but I am sure there is a window that God has in mind for you. Please continue to stay strong and determined. Also be reassured that, should things go out of hand and you do succumb to your family's pressure, you are not at fault for it, so long as you continue to hold your faith in God.

My late paternal grandmother and her two sisters had been brought up in the Christian faith by one of her aunts. But when the time came to marry, they were all married to grooms whom their parents had picked. Like her sisters, my grandma was also married to a Hindu in a Hindu wedding. But, she continued to secretly believe in the Lord and she continued to go to Church whenever she could. When my dad and his siblings were born, she made it a point to bring them up in the ways of the Lord. It took a few years of struggle, but eventually, her husband came to the Lord in his death bed.

Alternatively, could you consider moving out of your parents' house and/or city? I know a few of my friends who have warded off the pressure by becoming independent and moving out of home. I know this may not be easy for all girls, but is that a possibility for you?
 
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