Thanks. No that thing works in the States. I live in Holland. My ex is Indian and he pursued and stuff but I read some tips from an English guy on how to date Dutch guys because they were never interested in me and I was always shy. Dutch guys want women to bluntly tell them they like 'em. Serious. When I was married a guy from school turned out to have been interested. I never noticed because we were both shy. And in general Dutch people are really blunt. It's a culture shock really. I don't want to go after someone but this guy showed interest, great conversation, then he said nothing for a week. Ehm okay what do you expect? Should I now contact you? My. So I thought well I'll never know since I'm not gonna respond. Then he posted a song on Facebook, it was something like you ignore me. So ehm was that meant for me? No idea, but then I just said something random and then he started talking again. Lol I now just said I didn't want to chat anymore because I was too clingy for most guys. He said no not at all but I can't always respond. He chats with a lot of guys, he's evangelizing on Facebook and has a lot of Facebookfriends he chats with and they also need his attention. Oh okay, well I said maybe you can say hm hm then next time if I send you something. My brother does that too if I talk too much. I don't expect you to chat for hours if I just say something. It gives me the impression that it's interesting what I say lol. But I got the idea he just chats with everyone just for friendship and that's perfectly fine, but I just told him since he's 38 and I'm 45 and feel like an old cow that he can't just chat so much with those old cows since I saw another 55 year old posting a lovesong on his wall. I just said yeah sorry but that's what you get when you do that. Then he said who's an old cow? And then that it was up to me if I wanted to chat. So I said no it's up to you. Friendship is fine, no problem if you also chat with all your male Facebook friends for hours but with just friendship you can't chat so much with me, not chat one night for hours and with Christmas you say nothing, sorry and I told him about that other guy that apped the whole day though and it was just friendship and then I had to shut up. That doesn't work with me. So blunt and clear in your face. Lol he gave me his phone number and said I could call him. Unfortunately I'm only blunt if I type and way too chicken to call lol. So he got no response. I know him from a Dutch forum from years ago.
