Hey Everyone,
There always seem to be two predominant stereotypes about men and women that even Christians throw around frequently:
1. All men care about is beauty/sex.
2. All women care about is money.
As a woman, I certainly appreciate the gentlemen here who are living proof that the first stereotype isn't true. I know this is going to sound biased, but I've often tried to express gratitude for this and believe I've seen some of the other ladies express admiration for the Godly men here as well.
On the flip side, I constantly see references to men believing that all women have shopping addictions, and despite the times I've seen here in which women talk about their own financial responsibility, I don't recall any of the men here expressing that they're glad to know not all women are out for money.
I'm certainly NOT looking for a pat on the back for any of us. But what I'd like to know is, does the CC community of women really seem like "all the others"? Do most of the women here seem to feed into that cash-grabbing stereotype, and is that why it's so frequently mentioned? I am not saying this in a condemning tone at all--I'm genuinely curious to make an attempt to better understand what men go through.
I would also like to ask: have the women you've encountered who used you for money been Christians? I'm just curious because I'm puzzled as to where so many men who have spoken about being used for money are meeting these women. Am I unaware of the fact that most women in the church are greedy gold diggers? Maybe there's something I don't know, because I obviously don't date women.
All my female friends are very independent, often single mothers, and have always worked, with some exceptions being those who were stay-at-home moms but then went back to work when their kids were older. Many have careers such as accounting, teaching, and hospital administration. Some never went to college, but they've always worked.
I was honestly trying to think of women I've known who were obvious cash-mongrels, and I could only think of one or two. One had gone out on a date and complained that if the guy "had been a real man, he would have given me money to fill my gas tank and to spend on my kids." I remember thinking, "WHOA!!! Leave that poor cash cow back at the barn, sister!!!" That is NO way to treat a guy, but that's just my own opinion. But this girl was never without out a suitor, and often had several at once.
She was also exceptionally beautiful. Is that why so many men asked her out, and apparently put up with her antics? (But my hard-working friends are exceptionally beautiful, too.)
One day when I was at work and about 32 years old, a man, probably about 70, told me that "My day would go a lot better if you followed me home like a little puppy..." and, "I could buy you clothes, cars, jewelry..." I told him, "Sir, as you can see, I have a JOB. Anything I need or want, I can buy myself." Sorry, but I'm not for sale. I don't mean that in arrogance, but rather, the fact that I have parents who taught me responsibility instead of reliance. Now, if I got into a relationship, we would have to work that out as a couple. But because I've read posts from so many guys who've been hurt here on CC, I always try my best to insist on keeping things even.
In fact, sometimes if a date goes well and I really like the guy, I'll offer to pay for HIS meal, as well as my own. The LAST thing I want a man to be able to say about me is, "She's just like all the others... She used me for a free meal!"
I would love to hear from the ladies out there (single or married) who AREN'T after a man's money--maybe we can encourage our gentlemen here and let them know that there are women out there who will be interested in who THEY are, not what's in their wallet.
And gentlemen (single or married), could you please go into further detail as to how you met women who used you (are the women I see faithfully ministering to people on Sunday going on to to use men for money by Friday?) What attracted you to them, and have you never met women who aren't like this?
There always seem to be two predominant stereotypes about men and women that even Christians throw around frequently:
1. All men care about is beauty/sex.
2. All women care about is money.
As a woman, I certainly appreciate the gentlemen here who are living proof that the first stereotype isn't true. I know this is going to sound biased, but I've often tried to express gratitude for this and believe I've seen some of the other ladies express admiration for the Godly men here as well.
On the flip side, I constantly see references to men believing that all women have shopping addictions, and despite the times I've seen here in which women talk about their own financial responsibility, I don't recall any of the men here expressing that they're glad to know not all women are out for money.
I'm certainly NOT looking for a pat on the back for any of us. But what I'd like to know is, does the CC community of women really seem like "all the others"? Do most of the women here seem to feed into that cash-grabbing stereotype, and is that why it's so frequently mentioned? I am not saying this in a condemning tone at all--I'm genuinely curious to make an attempt to better understand what men go through.
I would also like to ask: have the women you've encountered who used you for money been Christians? I'm just curious because I'm puzzled as to where so many men who have spoken about being used for money are meeting these women. Am I unaware of the fact that most women in the church are greedy gold diggers? Maybe there's something I don't know, because I obviously don't date women.
All my female friends are very independent, often single mothers, and have always worked, with some exceptions being those who were stay-at-home moms but then went back to work when their kids were older. Many have careers such as accounting, teaching, and hospital administration. Some never went to college, but they've always worked.
I was honestly trying to think of women I've known who were obvious cash-mongrels, and I could only think of one or two. One had gone out on a date and complained that if the guy "had been a real man, he would have given me money to fill my gas tank and to spend on my kids." I remember thinking, "WHOA!!! Leave that poor cash cow back at the barn, sister!!!" That is NO way to treat a guy, but that's just my own opinion. But this girl was never without out a suitor, and often had several at once.
She was also exceptionally beautiful. Is that why so many men asked her out, and apparently put up with her antics? (But my hard-working friends are exceptionally beautiful, too.)
One day when I was at work and about 32 years old, a man, probably about 70, told me that "My day would go a lot better if you followed me home like a little puppy..." and, "I could buy you clothes, cars, jewelry..." I told him, "Sir, as you can see, I have a JOB. Anything I need or want, I can buy myself." Sorry, but I'm not for sale. I don't mean that in arrogance, but rather, the fact that I have parents who taught me responsibility instead of reliance. Now, if I got into a relationship, we would have to work that out as a couple. But because I've read posts from so many guys who've been hurt here on CC, I always try my best to insist on keeping things even.
In fact, sometimes if a date goes well and I really like the guy, I'll offer to pay for HIS meal, as well as my own. The LAST thing I want a man to be able to say about me is, "She's just like all the others... She used me for a free meal!"
I would love to hear from the ladies out there (single or married) who AREN'T after a man's money--maybe we can encourage our gentlemen here and let them know that there are women out there who will be interested in who THEY are, not what's in their wallet.
And gentlemen (single or married), could you please go into further detail as to how you met women who used you (are the women I see faithfully ministering to people on Sunday going on to to use men for money by Friday?) What attracted you to them, and have you never met women who aren't like this?
All I want is God in my life. God is enough for me. 
