Subtle ways to let someone know you are interested

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JeniBean

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Call me crazy, however I like a man who can communicate and if I am HOPING he picks up on subtle hints of what I want and need then obviously my relationship is off to a bad start. COMMUNICATE the interest and see where it goes from there. MEN are NOT supposed to read our minds or pick up on every little subtle hint. If they did/could I think a lot more men and woman would be happier. Perhaps I am the odd ball out or perhaps growing up with all brothers has taught me a lot!
 
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coby

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JeniBean said:
Call me crazy, however I like a man who can communicate and if I am HOPING he picks up on subtle hints of what I want and need then obviously my relationship is off to a bad start. COMMUNICATE the interest and see where it goes from there. MEN are NOT supposed to read our minds or pick up on every little subtle hint. If they did/could I think a lot more men and woman would be happier. Perhaps I am the odd ball out or perhaps growing up with all brothers has taught me a lot!
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You can communicate it if you communicate. Lol first steps first. Last time I tried to talk with him I ended up talking with someone else because he walked the other way lol.
 
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coby

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Ah problem solved. He likes a woman's pic his age who's interested in men. How I love Facebook. No need to ask anything.
 
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coby

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Once I had a crush on a guy for almost a year and I got so sick of it, I said: Lord if he is the one he will come from the stairs first and there were like 20 people upstairs. So he came first and started to talk to me. His girlfriend this, his girlfriend that, the pastor was so stupid because he said they couldn't live together. After 10 minutes of this it dawned on me: he has a girlfriend. I have my answer. I put in my diary: Finally! I know! I was so happy. If there is one thing I hate it is this wondering if, maybe yes, maybe no.
 
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Hellooo

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coby said:
Ah problem solved. He likes a woman's pic his age who's interested in men. How I love Facebook. No need to ask anything.
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This is one reason why I don't have a Facebook account.

All this ambiguity, trying to interpret someone's feelings from posted lyrics and whether pictures and comments get liked.....NO THANKS.

I am probably an ornery, social Luddite on a lot of levels, but for me, I get so much more satisfying interactions by 'sussing' - for lack of a better term - feelings and thoughts out through conversation and body language, not by deciphering social media status updates.

Yessssssssss to karaoke. ..i hope you're going to participate anyway, it can be so much fun
 
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Hellooo said:
This is one reason why I don't have a Facebook account.

All this ambiguity, trying to interpret someone's feelings from posted lyrics and whether pictures and comments get liked.....NO THANKS.

I am probably an ornery, social Luddite on a lot of levels, but for me, I get so much more satisfying interactions by 'sussing' - for lack of a better term - feelings and thoughts out through conversation and body language, not by deciphering social media status updates.

Yessssssssss to karaoke. ..i hope you're going to participate anyway, it can be so much fun
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Exactly!!! I couldn't agree more! :)
 
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MollyConnor

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Just ask him this!

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melita916

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be like "hey. i like you. you should like me cuz... i'm awesome."
 
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agirlandherguitar

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Most men don't do "hints". I was always terrible at this! My current boyfriend and I struck up a friendship and mutually grew to care about each other the more we learned about each other. Before that I sucked at being subtle... to the point where I appeared to be not interested. Most guys would have been surprised I ever liked them. Being upfront without being aggressive would be best. Like, in a graceful and funny way so you're not totally destroyed if he rejects you. Also, don't crush on a guy for like six months and expect him to get it. Never drag out a crush. I beg you. Nobody should do it.
 
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Write "I <3 YOU" on your fingers like this, and then make sure you point to a lot of things that are behind him when you're together.

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Born_Again said:
Ohhhh, is that how that works? LOL
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I really don't know lol. God really did bring my boyfriend and I together. Jesus knew I didn't know how to let the guy know I liked him lol
 
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My_child

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Lol... you guys are funny! I mean that in a good sense - as in, I think many of these things myself.

I actually have been thinking about this lately, and I had decided (before I read these comments) that men are the ones that should do the chasing. And women have to be patient and try to let them know they welcome their advances.

But I got to thinking about it, and, man, it would be hard to be a guy. You have to show your interest - but only enough to where if you get close to the girl and decided she's not for you, you can back away without hurting her. Let her down easy you know.

Say whaaattt???

How in the world are you ever supposed to get it through to her that you are interested if you can't show it enough to make an impact..

This is a hard job you guys have - I gotta hand it to you.

Of course, now that I've read all this new information... I'll have to rethink some things I suppose... haha.
 
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NowIsee

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Well if I talk to you normally I'm probably not interested. If I studda a little I'm kind of interested. I get this stupid look on my face and can't put two understandable words together I'm heads over heels in love with you.
I like a girl/lady I met at church and we were at the new years eve service a year ago. I just got my nerve up to ask her out and she was coming my way when a friend of mine came up from behind. After I talked for a minute with him she had gone. I never asked her and now she is engaged to someone else.
 
Born_Again

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My_child said:
Lol... you guys are funny! I mean that in a good sense - as in, I think many of these things myself.

I actually have been thinking about this lately, and I had decided (before I read these comments) that men are the ones that should do the chasing. And women have to be patient and try to let them know they welcome their advances.

But I got to thinking about it, and, man, it would be hard to be a guy. You have to show your interest - but only enough to where if you get close to the girl and decided she's not for you, you can back away without hurting her. Let her down easy you know.

Say whaaattt???

How in the world are you ever supposed to get it through to her that you are interested if you can't show it enough to make an impact..

This is a hard job you guys have - I gotta hand it to you.

Of course, now that I've read all this new information... I'll have to rethink some things I suppose... haha.
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See, this is why I generally wont say anything to a girl if I like her. Its almost too much effort. lol And im too dense to pick up if a girl likes me anyway. lol its a lost cause.
 
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My_child

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Ok so... I'm not sure if this will help or not, but the most successful guys that came into my life were straight forward. I mean they knew exactly what they wanted and came after it. One of them even sat me down the first night we met and said, "you're going to be my girlfriend, you just don't know it yet." lol. And that night I was thinking this guy is crazy. Then I was with him for 7 years.

Of course then again there have been a number of guys that have tried to be straight forward but they just got shot down :-( I guess in the end perhaps the risk-takers have more of a chance but also more of a chance of rejection?

Omgosh... it's like gambling. Haha.
 
Born_Again

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My_child said:
Ok so... I'm not sure if this will help or not, but the most successful guys that came into my life were straight forward. I mean they knew exactly what they wanted and came after it. One of them even sat me down the first night we met and said, "you're going to be my girlfriend, you just don't know it yet." lol. And that night I was thinking this guy is crazy. Then I was with him for 7 years.

Of course then again there have been a number of guys that have tried to be straight forward but they just got shot down :-( I guess in the end perhaps the risk-takers have more of a chance but also more of a chance of rejection?

Omgosh... it's like gambling. Haha.
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Yea, Im not sure if that was much help. LOL It seems that either way, I would have a 50/50 shot. LOL Hmmm. Yea, im hopeless lol
 
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coby

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My_child said:
Ok so... I'm not sure if this will help or not, but the most successful guys that came into my life were straight forward. I mean they knew exactly what they wanted and came after it. One of them even sat me down the first night we met and said, "you're going to be my girlfriend, you just don't know it yet." lol. And that night I was thinking this guy is crazy. Then I was with him for 7 years.

Of course then again there have been a number of guys that have tried to be straight forward but they just got shot down :-( I guess in the end perhaps the risk-takers have more of a chance but also more of a chance of rejection?

Omgosh... it's like gambling. Haha.
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Yes my ex just called me all the time with excuses and then asked if I wanted to go evangelizing with a group. Then asked if another guy and me wanted to come over, later if I wanted to go on a date. He asked a few others from church out before me and didn't want to get rejected again so he played it cool, but he did effort. If this guy liked me he could just take the same bus and talk for an hour but he takes his bike. The first time when he just worked there I walked up to him in the train, he lives around the corner, and we had a great talk. Next day he walked with me to the bus and we had a great talk again. But then his bike functioned again so he bikes to the train station so he has another train always. I thought: oh well not interested and let it go. Then no response with the Facebook message but now it turned out he didn't see it. It was weird though. I was chatting with another guy, already thought oh well he's not interested, but then I said: Lord if this is not the one can You please tell me now. And then all of a sudden he started to Facebook chat that he had never seen it and he has real personal stuff on Facebook, me too. So there was a slight chance. I don't know. I think he's just not interested but well if I'm wrong God can tell me.
 
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