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Siberian_Khatru

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#21
Ok serious answer time...

Infatuation is simply a very strong attraction to someone. It might be triggered by their physical appearance, personality, quirks, status, their knowledge of a certain subject/s, or a combination of those things..

Love is something that is built on a foundation of trust, caring and support. When love is true, it can overcome trials and differences that would break other relationships apart.

I've found that infatuation only persists as long as the image of the person remains intact. Once you realize that the person is just as imperfect as everyone else, the infatuation subsides.
"You must spread some reputation around before giving it to zeroturbulence again." - Just so you know I tried. :D

So to get past an infatuation you have to recreate them as horrible? I don't see that as healthy. Why not just allow things to happen more naturally?
I'm inclined to agree.
As to differentiate the difference between the two I would say use what I use as the tool if I would really want to continue dating an individual. EXAMPLE - I do not hang well with throwing up - so if I could see myself cleaning their puke up, or holding their head as they do it...then it is something deeper.
Lol! As gross as that might be, that illustrates a very good point.
 
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Abing

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#22
How do you, personally, differentiate between infatuation and something deeper (whatever you want to call it)?
Infatuation is more like, just loving the 'idea' of someone. I think.

Bonus round: Have you ever been infatuated (especially with a person) - and if so, how did that go/how did you deal with it?
Do celebrity crushes count? :rolleyes:
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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#23
Infatuation is more like, just loving the 'idea' of someone. I think.
That seems to be the prevailing notion here. I'm not sure what I think about it other than it seems like a valid view.

Do celebrity crushes count? :rolleyes:
Is it a person...? Haha. Is it CUMBERBATCH? 'Cause heck, even I am infatuated with him. Lol.
 
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Abing

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#24
That seems to be the prevailing notion here. I'm not sure what I think about it other than it seems like a valid view.


Is it a person...? Haha. Is it CUMBERBATCH? 'Cause heck, even I am infatuated with him. Lol.
Lol you would know! Welcome to Benedict's CumberCollective!
 

Roh_Chris

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I personally have never been infatuated with an individual. Sadly I have been to many times to count on the receiving end of infatuations...they tend to turn stalker-ish. As to differentiate the difference between the two I would say use what I use as the tool if I would really want to continue dating an individual. EXAMPLE - I do not hang well with throwing up - so if I could see myself cleaning their puke up, or holding their head as they do it...then it is something deeper.
Extrapolating what she said, if you see yourself being with that person through thick and thin, through poverty and wealth, through health and sickness, through joy and sorrow, then it is love. On the contrary, infatuation is a fairweather attraction, where you can only think of the person during your happy moments.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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#27
Extrapolating what she said, if you see yourself being with that person through thick and thin, through poverty and wealth, through health and sickness, through joy and sorrow, then it is love.
It's also a matter of will.

Do you think an infatuated person wouldn't believe they'd go to lengths for someone? (Whether they actually would or wouldn't might be what demonstrates the difference between love and infatuation, but I'm wondering what your opinion is on that still).