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I chat online in another chat room on the net with Americans, and I am now fairly convinced that Aussies have a very different sense of humour. Not many of them seem to understand my humour, or where I am coming from. Strange, we speak the same language, and yet so many cultural barriers are still there.
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Asking out someone is arrogant? Are you kidding me?
Okay so Christians are not allowed to date, kiss, flirt and now ask out people? It's a wonder that Christians aren't all extinct. People this is rediculous to the core. What is wrong with you? Dont ever complain that God hasn't sent you someone because you wouldn't do anything anyway to spark their interest. I'm beginning to think this is just laziness and fear of the opposite sex.
Okay so Christians are not allowed to date, kiss, flirt and now ask out people? It's a wonder that Christians aren't all extinct. People this is rediculous to the core. What is wrong with you? Dont ever complain that God hasn't sent you someone because you wouldn't do anything anyway to spark their interest. I'm beginning to think this is just laziness and fear of the opposite sex.
LOL Dread.
I was thinking the same thing... I mean... so much for God's command to "Be fruitful and multiply..."
Apparently, all we're allowed to do is sit around and have intense Bible studies (gender segregated, of course) without having any contact with the opposite sex whatsoever...
"Sorry God, I can't get married and procreate, I'm too busy studying my Bible in my one gender-specific group... Aren't I just the good, pious, model Christian? Now, why won't you bless me with a spouse, dang nab it!"
I was thinking the same thing... I mean... so much for God's command to "Be fruitful and multiply..."
Apparently, all we're allowed to do is sit around and have intense Bible studies (gender segregated, of course) without having any contact with the opposite sex whatsoever...
"Sorry God, I can't get married and procreate, I'm too busy studying my Bible in my one gender-specific group... Aren't I just the good, pious, model Christian? Now, why won't you bless me with a spouse, dang nab it!"
In addition to fear of rejection, my main fear about asking a girl out is that I will be thought of as a sick twisted pervert. Then the girl will tell everyone she knows what happened, and everyone I know will find out, and they'll all think I'm a sick twisted pervert.
I just always think it would be inappropriate. I always think of girls saying to eachother, "can you believe that guy? He just asked me out!", "are you serious? what a loser!"
I just always think it would be inappropriate. I always think of girls saying to eachother, "can you believe that guy? He just asked me out!", "are you serious? what a loser!"
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I used to think that years ago but then I realised it's the same little voice of fear that girls deal with as well and you just have to block it out. Only nasty or immature people who aren't worth the date will behave that way, at which point they may say those things about you but it's you that dodged a bullet, not them.
I actually think being nervous is a good sign, as long as it doesn't stop you from speaking normally, if you're nervous it shows you're genuinely interested in her and not just after one more date with a beautiful girl, it can be charming in small amounts.
I actually think being nervous is a good sign, as long as it doesn't stop you from speaking normally, if you're nervous it shows you're genuinely interested in her and not just after one more date with a beautiful girl, it can be charming in small amounts.
Believe it or not, Sharp, us girls get scared of rejection and all the same things you do!! In fact, since I can never get a guy to respond to an email I write on the dating sites with more than 2 sentences, at most, I have all but given up trying to initiate contact!
And that's just online!! (Though I have done my share of asking guys out before... and was often turned down flat.)
I am not sure if they thought I am a pervert for asking them out... although... I guess that could explain why they screamed and ran? (Funny thing though... there are some guys that like that... guess I managed to target the squeamish ones!)
I mean, how would that line go, exactly? "Hi, I'm a Christian and a bit of a pervert... how about going out for dinner and a movie sometime?"
Knowing my luck, the guy would REALLY run. Probably a marathon, and in record time!
Just kidding, people!!
And that's just online!! (Though I have done my share of asking guys out before... and was often turned down flat.)
I am not sure if they thought I am a pervert for asking them out... although... I guess that could explain why they screamed and ran?
(Funny thing though... there are some guys that like that... guess I managed to target the squeamish ones!) I mean, how would that line go, exactly? "Hi, I'm a Christian and a bit of a pervert... how about going out for dinner and a movie sometime?"
Knowing my luck, the guy would REALLY run. Probably a marathon, and in record time!
Just kidding, people!!
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No offense but that's the lamest excuse that i've ever heard. What are you doing, asking out 5 year olds? But since we're speculating what could happen and not what actually does, in theory if you asked out one of these girls she could say yes because she wants to drag you in an alley and take your wallet, but not after calling her friends and talking about what a loser you are after you showed positive interest in her.
I'm not saying that doesn't happen, but it probably will. She might even be the local news anchor's daughter in which case she'll announce it on tv how much of a pervert you are for asking her out for coffee. Everyone knows coffee drinkers are the worst kinds of perverts. Hey, I'm not saying it happens all the time but its very likely to happen to you. So dont take your chances because there aren't many lonely women out there waiting to be asked out, and you wont regret it when you're 70 years old in a rocking chair with just a dog wishing you didn't waste your time being cowardly when you were young and beautiful.
No really, you dont want the local news thinking you're a pervert, right?
I'm not saying that doesn't happen, but it probably will. She might even be the local news anchor's daughter in which case she'll announce it on tv how much of a pervert you are for asking her out for coffee. Everyone knows coffee drinkers are the worst kinds of perverts. Hey, I'm not saying it happens all the time but its very likely to happen to you. So dont take your chances because there aren't many lonely women out there waiting to be asked out, and you wont regret it when you're 70 years old in a rocking chair with just a dog wishing you didn't waste your time being cowardly when you were young and beautiful.
No really, you dont want the local news thinking you're a pervert, right?
Yes I'm sad and lame. But I wouldn't feel like this if similar things hadn't happened before. I have a very awkward presence, and I bring awkward moments with me wherever I go. I have an amazing skill of making people feel uncomfortable. Asking someone out I feel would make her feel even more uncomfortable. That's why I like computers and telephones for communication with females.
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Oh yes, very arrogant. How dare you ask questions! I'm only teasing you.
From reading that I can tell you are not very confident in yourself. You really need to build up some self esteem there man! You seem to have taken that rejection rather hard; understandable, no one likes getting thrown to the curb. Perhaps you need to focus on your personal goals. When you accomplish things in your life it has a way of buffing you up inside. You said you are a brainless guy, I don't believe that. You wouldn't be pondering about it if that were true. Girls really love a guy who is content with himself. You don't want to start beating up on yourself when something doesn't go the way you planned. Just look at it as Gods way of keeping you on track.
When she (the girl you are looking for) sees how much you are enjoying life, she will want to be a part of it too. The best part is, you won't even have to ask her, it will be so obvious by the way she feels when she is with you, that she is in love with you.
You shouldn't need to ask any girl out, you will know if they want to; when they can't seem to get enough of you.
From reading that I can tell you are not very confident in yourself. You really need to build up some self esteem there man! You seem to have taken that rejection rather hard; understandable, no one likes getting thrown to the curb. Perhaps you need to focus on your personal goals. When you accomplish things in your life it has a way of buffing you up inside. You said you are a brainless guy, I don't believe that. You wouldn't be pondering about it if that were true. Girls really love a guy who is content with himself. You don't want to start beating up on yourself when something doesn't go the way you planned. Just look at it as Gods way of keeping you on track.
When she (the girl you are looking for) sees how much you are enjoying life, she will want to be a part of it too. The best part is, you won't even have to ask her, it will be so obvious by the way she feels when she is with you, that she is in love with you.
You shouldn't need to ask any girl out, you will know if they want to; when they can't seem to get enough of you.
I've had a couple women think of me as a creep: one before I got a girlfriend and another after I broke up with my girlfriend. The fact that women I respect have disappointed me in the past won't stop me from pursuing a relationship with someone I admire in the future. I think God may've led me to my ex just to show me that I am capable of getting along with someone and having a great time. That way I wouldn't start doubting myself because of another's arrogance or lack of an understanding heart. My ex and I may not have worked out, but that's not because we couldn't have a great time together when it was just the two of us.
Not everyone's perfect, and that includes you and I. We may screw up sometimes and others may be too judgmental or arrogant, but that doesn't mean that a fulfilling relationship with someone is beyond our grasp. Just steer clear of imposing, judgmental women and thank God that they turn you down. They have some major issues, one of which is likely a problem with their self-esteem or estimate of men.
Not everyone's perfect, and that includes you and I. We may screw up sometimes and others may be too judgmental or arrogant, but that doesn't mean that a fulfilling relationship with someone is beyond our grasp. Just steer clear of imposing, judgmental women and thank God that they turn you down. They have some major issues, one of which is likely a problem with their self-esteem or estimate of men.
You're not the only one who feels that way. (about prefering to communicate with women on computers & stuff like that)
I have been hurt/disappointed more times than I could ever hope to count.
I don't know why; but with me it seems like the women who just want to use someone to get what they want are the ones I seem to end up with. I don't see that until after the relationship is over.
So don't feel too bad, cause it's happened to other men too.
I have been hurt/disappointed more times than I could ever hope to count.
I don't know why; but with me it seems like the women who just want to use someone to get what they want are the ones I seem to end up with. I don't see that until after the relationship is over.
So don't feel too bad, cause it's happened to other men too.