Whirlwind romance

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Will it work for you? Why? For marrieds, did it work?

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Tinkerbell725

Tinkerbell725

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Whirlwind romance. Do you think it will work for you? For marrieds, did it work? Why?

I have heard many stories about people who broke up with their long time bf/gf and end up marrying someone they just met and their marriages are going great, some even lasted for many years. Many say fools rush in to marriage but many of those fools actually have successful marriages. Well I dont really know the success rate/statistics of those who didnt rush into marriage. What is your opinion on this?
 
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coby

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Whirlwind romance. Do you think it will work for you? For marrieds, did it work? Why?

I have heard many stories about people who broke up with their long time bf/gf and end up marrying someone they just met and their marriages are going great, some even lasted for many years. Many say fools rush in to marriage but many of those fools actually have successful marriages. Well I dont really know the success rate/statistics of those who didnt rush into marriage. What is your opinion on this?
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Guess it depends if you're lucky and smart enough to meet the right person. My sister broke up with her boyfriend years ago and her friend said: oh I will comfort him. They're still happily married 20 years later.
I think with marriage, well in my case I still believe it was a sin to look for someone else. My it was a disaster, not that weird, we met in the local mental institution. Asked him to marry me 2 days after I got dumped and he said yes immediately, lol but I guess only real fools do that.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

Grace-Like-Rain

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I just read something randomly the other night about the "infatuation stage" lasting as long as 2 years for some people. I think that it might be wise to wait those two years just in case your feelings are based on infatuation with not anything more substantial underneath. After 18-24 months, apparently most infatuation has leveled off and you're dealing with your true feelings and thoughts about someone.
 
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Hellooo

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I'm open to the possibility, but seems highly improbable for me.
 
seoulsearch

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Unfortunately, I seem to run into a lot of wind (hot air :p, whether spoken by him or by me when I'm being sarcastic :D), but not enough whirl...

I think I could use a little whirl in my world.
 
Tinkerbell725

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
I just read something randomly the other night about the "infatuation stage" lasting as long as 2 years for some people. I think that it might be wise to wait those two years just in case your feelings are based on infatuation with not anything more substantial underneath. After 18-24 months, apparently most infatuation has leveled off and you're dealing with your true feelings and thoughts about someone.
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Its the wise thing to do but for some people they feel so sure that they can't wait to start their life with the person they found. They could'nt wait for two years that they take a leap of faith. And who knows if we will still be around in two years.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Its the wise thing to do but for some people they feel so sure that they can't wait to start their life with the person they found. They could'nt wait for two years that they take a leap of faith. And who knows if we will still be around in two years.
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That's definitely true. And, it works out great for lots of people. Thinking TOO much is just as bad as not thinking enough.
 
Tinkerbell725

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Hellooo said:
I'm open to the possibility, but seems highly improbable for me.
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seoulsearch said:
Unfortunately, I seem to run into a lot of wind (hot air :p, whether spoken by him or by me when I'm being sarcastic :D), but not enough whirl... I think I could use a little whirl in my world.
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You can fly a hot air balloon with all that air. Btw which one do you prefer? Hot wind or mistral wind?;)
 
PoetMary

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My parents met on a blind date in June, were engaged in July, and married in November. They've been married 50 years.

My sister and her husband had their first date the Friday after Thanksgiving, were engaged by New Year's Eve and married in September. They've been married now for 10 years.

In some ways I think that we've made marriage a terribly complicated business. Of course, people have enormous expectations of their partners that haven't always historically been there. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with whirlwind...depending on the people involved. I also think that sometimes looooooonnng dating relationships or engagements can tempt people to sin.
 
Dan58

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Whirlwind romance. Do you think it will work for you? For marrieds, did it work? Why?
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When you find what your looking for, why wait? Maturity plays a hand, and your counterpart must be as sure as you are, but if all that is in alignment, and its a compatible coupling, then there's no reason to procrastinate.
 
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Ugly

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Dan58 said:
When you find what your looking for, why wait? Maturity plays a hand, and your counterpart must be as sure as you are, but if all that is in alignment, and its a compatible coupling, then there's no reason to procrastinate.
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Of course Every relationship feels like that in the beginning. And most of those relationships dissipate in less than a year.
 
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I really don't know.....my first marriage we were engaged after within 3 months of dating but waited another 18 months before we married. My second marriage we dated 2 1/2 years before we got engaged and married 6 months later. Both ended up in divorces. Maybe a whirlwind romance is the way lol :rolleyes:
 
Tinkerbell725

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LiJo said:
I really don't know.....my first marriage we were engaged after within 3 months of dating but waited another 18 months before we married. My second marriage we dated 2 1/2 years before we got engaged and married 6 months later. Both ended up in divorces. Maybe a whirlwind romance is the way lol :rolleyes:
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Lol! Right! And it sounds so thrilling. Just be ready for a possible whirlwind divorce also. Haha...
 
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LiJo

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Lol! Right! And it sounds so thrilling. Just be ready for a possible whirlwind divorce also. Haha...
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No....I'm determine to look to God for guidance and doing things according to his will.
 
Roh_Chris

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I would never support a whirlwind romance. I am not a person who would make such a significant commitment without thinking through and being absolutely sure about it.
 
Lynx

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Old quote: "Hey honey, we've been going together for a few weeks now. Let's get married and see how long we can stand each other." :rolleyes:


As for myself I have yet to have a romance, whirled or not. I'll let you know when it happens.
 
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HonestlyHumbled

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We're all individuals.. We're all unique.. Therefor all relationships are unique.
I was visiting a friend the other day, I know her brother had been married recently and I asked her about it.
Long story short he had only known his wife for 6 months before marrying. My friend said that if I met her I'd understand. They're exactly alike.
I figure when you find that special one... and you're sure of it... Time is irrelevant.
Now relationships can and many do fail, but I do feel 99% of the cause is a person not being whole.
 
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JeniBean

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Whirlwind romance. Do you think it will work for you? For marrieds, did it work? Why?

I have heard many stories about people who broke up with their long time bf/gf and end up marrying someone they just met and their marriages are going great, some even lasted for many years. Many say fools rush in to marriage but many of those fools actually have successful marriages. Well I dont really know the success rate/statistics of those who didnt rush into marriage. What is your opinion on this?
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Hey if you have two god loving and fearing people who click on every level and have had horrible relationships prior. I think it could work.
 
melita916

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my 1st relationship was in my early to mid 20s. we dated for almost 5 yrs. we were sure that we were to marry. but nope. i'm glad we didn't lol.

i've been dating my boyfriend now for 3 months, and we have talked about getting married. :eek:
 
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