How do I come up to girls and start talking to them?

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May 4, 2009
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Okay, now that anxiety is starting to go down a bit. I'm starting to remember how lonely I am. So yeah basically I'm no good with girls, and I need some help. There's one girl that looks really interasting to me. She's a girl that goes to this Bible class I goto. I don't know, there's just something about her that makes me want to talk to her and stuff. So how do I do it with out freaking her out?
 
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Okay, now that anxiety is starting to go down a bit. I'm starting to remember how lonely I am. So yeah basically I'm no good with girls, and I need some help. There's one girl that looks really interasting to me. She's a girl that goes to this Bible class I goto. I don't know, there's just something about her that makes me want to talk to her and stuff. So how do I do it with out freaking her out?
Now it's feeling like home again :)

It's really quite simple, you walk up and say 'Hi I'm <insert name>, how are you today?' then you make a new question from her answer and 2-3 minutes later you will experience revelation! conversation with a female.

If the girl isn't receptive to that approach then odds are there's an alien inside working the controls and you should quickly move away and be grateful she didn't melt your brain. :p
 
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sportygirl

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Now it's feeling like home again :)

It's really quite simple, you walk up and say 'Hi I'm <insert name>, how are you today?' then you make a new question from her answer and 2-3 minutes later you will experience revelation! conversation with a female.

If the girl isn't receptive to that approach then odds are there's an alien inside working the controls and you should quickly move away and be grateful she didn't melt your brain. :p
Thats actually not bad advice, especially if you are ina group together, just saying hi, is always a good idea! I mean if they are interested they will continue talking to you and if not than you know they aren't intrested. I know the guy I currently like did that to me, he just turned around and said hi my name is...it may throw the girl off if your sudden about it, but if they are interested in talking to you they recover.
 
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there's many, many ways that i know to start a conversation. ive done it many times (something am not proud of)
see advices, there can be many i.e: dont be afraid, act calm, relax, be cool!
But i will advice u first of all PRAY

why pray??
from own experience, talking to a girl u seem attracted to and just that, can bring problems later on. especially in a Christian life.
If u wanna start talking to someone like that! do it because u wanna start "dating with a purpose" or "courtship" not for fun.
now am not saying dont talk to her for fun!
but if it is just for friendship let it pass and whatever needs to happen will Happen

So again PRAY,then if its God's will he will show u the rite time, will give u the words and help u.

Hope it helps!
 
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try to get comunication with her,somethng like,hello,how r u,etc.
n try to see her eyes deep when u talk.
give her sign from eyes that u wana know her more.
it will work,cause i have tried it bfore:D
 
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Mands

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Now it's feeling like home again :)

It's really quite simple, you walk up and say 'Hi I'm <insert name>, how are you today?' then you make a new question from her answer and 2-3 minutes later you will experience revelation! conversation with a female.

If the girl isn't receptive to that approach then odds are there's an alien inside working the controls and you should quickly move away and be grateful she didn't melt your brain. :p



Bahahahahaha! This is the BEST advice you will ever recieve! Girls are really more worried about what we will say to you than what you will say to us. We're just hoping we don't get tounge tied and sound like idiots -- we don't pick up on every little mistake or detail (well, some of us dont......lol or maybe it's only me) Just take a deep breath and find a moment to approach. She'll probably welcome the communication. Just ask her how she is, how her day was (you said she's doing a Bible class you're going to) ask her how she likes it, if God is doing anything in her life...get the conversation going and then maybe ask her to go grab some coffee and talk about the class or just to hang out. :) Some of us really are very approacheable (not all of us are aliens :p)
 
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Okay, now that anxiety is starting to go down a bit. I'm starting to remember how lonely I am. So yeah basically I'm no good with girls, and I need some help. There's one girl that looks really interasting to me. She's a girl that goes to this Bible class I goto. I don't know, there's just something about her that makes me want to talk to her and stuff. So how do I do it with out freaking her out?

Oh! And girls don't automatically start thinking you like them just because you talk to them! So don't think that just by saying "Hey whats up" you're going to freak her out. It's just one person approaching another. You sound like a nice guy, I don't think you'll freak her out in the least :)
 
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Everyone is giving you some good advice, but it's pretty simple starting a conversation. Finding the right thing to talk about is what will make or break the conversation. Here are some pointers:

First off, do not be negative. Don't let a negative thing pass your lips, she could misunderstand you and you can come off as a critical person.

Second, say something most people would not say- like an original joke, or a personal compliment. You want to know why people talk about the weather are boring? Because everyone talks about the weather. It's a forgettable, lame topic.

Don't talk about yourself too much. Let her have a chance to talk about herself. It's easy when you're nervous to start throwing out all this information about yourself.

Ask her questions. Show her you're interested in her. This is great because if you run out of things to say you can build question upon question.

Those are just a few things I've learned that make a smoother conversation. :) Good luck.
 
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Okay, now that anxiety is starting to go down a bit. I'm starting to remember how lonely I am. So yeah basically I'm no good with girls, and I need some help. There's one girl that looks really interasting to me. She's a girl that goes to this Bible class I goto. I don't know, there's just something about her that makes me want to talk to her and stuff. So how do I do it with out freaking her out?
I am no expert but I don’t think you should be “good with girls.” You should be a considerate person.

Discuss the matter with the Lord. Decide with him what you are trying to accomplish. Discuss with him how to go about accomplishing that. Take it one step at a time.
 
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try to get comunication with her,somethng like,hello,how r u,etc.
n try to see her eyes deep when u talk.
give her sign from eyes that u wana know her more.
it will work,cause i have tried it bfore:D

Yeah, i wouldnt do any creepy eye thing if i was you. I dunno, maybe guys where ever shes from like this, but uhhh yeah, no creepy eyes :eek: <---- Walking up to a girl and doing this... a BIG no no
 
Aug 2, 2009
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there's many, many ways that i know to start a conversation. ive done it many times (something am not proud of)
see advices, there can be many i.e: dont be afraid, act calm, relax, be cool!
But i will advice u first of all PRAY

why pray??
from own experience, talking to a girl u seem attracted to and just that, can bring problems later on. especially in a Christian life.
If u wanna start talking to someone like that! do it because u wanna start "dating with a purpose" or "courtship" not for fun.
now am not saying dont talk to her for fun!
but if it is just for friendship let it pass and whatever needs to happen will Happen

So again PRAY,then if its God's will he will show u the rite time, will give u the words and help u.

Hope it helps!
great advice! ..and others have good advice too.
 
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Jan 8, 2009
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I am sure there are some lovely ladies around who do like talking about the weather. If you can hold a good conversation with someone with a topic as boring as the weather, then they'd be a good catch.
 
May 4, 2009
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I'd rather talk about something important. If I'm just doing small talk, it feels like I'm not getting anywhere.
 
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I like talking about the weather myself.
 
Jan 8, 2009
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Hey, maybe those who don't like talking about the weather are the boring ones? :p.
 
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I think the weather is very important, it is one of the few things that is there every day.
 

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I heard it might rain today.
 

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There's a few cumulonimbus clouds where I am. Any minute now and we should see some precipitation....