Hey Everyone!
So, a few different interactions I've had recently got me to thinking about what I'm presenting to you in this thread...
In relationships, being whatever they may (friendships, romantic partners, family, working, etc), each person tends to bring certain things to the table (symbolically) every time they interact. We all have varying personality types, moods, ways of seeing things (Point Of View), and experiences or understandings about what something is (Point Of Reference).
An example, for instance:
Let's say someone walks into the room (whatever setting), and says, "You look nice today."
Well, that can actually be taken several ways depending on your POV &/or POR. One person might see that as a compliment: "Oh, thank you!" while another sees it as an insult: "Do I not normally look nice otherwise?!"
Alternately, one might take it as being hit on while another may just hear it as a social courtesy without any particular significance. The list can literally go on and on...
So, with such a diverse field of interaction, how can we, in our relationships:
a) understand where someone else is coming from/what they're trying to say?
b) make our own POV & POR known to another in a non-abrasive way?
c) overcome different POV/POR or miscommunication in a Christ-like way?
I'd like to hear your thoughts, so...Dozo (please go ahead).
So, a few different interactions I've had recently got me to thinking about what I'm presenting to you in this thread...
In relationships, being whatever they may (friendships, romantic partners, family, working, etc), each person tends to bring certain things to the table (symbolically) every time they interact. We all have varying personality types, moods, ways of seeing things (Point Of View), and experiences or understandings about what something is (Point Of Reference).
An example, for instance:
Let's say someone walks into the room (whatever setting), and says, "You look nice today."
Well, that can actually be taken several ways depending on your POV &/or POR. One person might see that as a compliment: "Oh, thank you!" while another sees it as an insult: "Do I not normally look nice otherwise?!"
Alternately, one might take it as being hit on while another may just hear it as a social courtesy without any particular significance. The list can literally go on and on...
So, with such a diverse field of interaction, how can we, in our relationships:
a) understand where someone else is coming from/what they're trying to say?
b) make our own POV & POR known to another in a non-abrasive way?
c) overcome different POV/POR or miscommunication in a Christ-like way?
I'd like to hear your thoughts, so...Dozo (please go ahead).