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I've noticed that when someone has something on their mind or is hurting, different people respond to them differently largely based upon how they would prefer to be consoled if they were going through something.
For example:
- Some people's first response is to hug them and tell them it will be okay. (For some people, this is irritating because they want their space to process their feelings and thoughts - not a personal space invasion! How smothering! D= )
- Some people walk away - the other person probably just needs some space to think and maybe privacy if they're grieving. (For some hurting people, this is abandonment - they just wanted a hug! How could you just walk off like that!)
- Some people try to get them to talk to them and explain what's going on and work through it.
- Some people just sit there with them and say little or nothing. If they need to talk, fine. If they just need someone there, fine.
How do you process things and the feelings that accompany them? It can be as small as simply thinking about a decision, to dealing with some frustration, to after you've had a hurtful argument with someone, to something as big as the loss of a family member.
And how does your personal processing/grieving/thinking style effect how you approach others who are grieving, trying to process, or might need comforting?
If someone handles things differently than you, are you able to detect that and go against your natural grain in how you try to help them/show them your support? Or do you often accidentally end up "abandoning" or "smothering" them?
For example:
- Some people's first response is to hug them and tell them it will be okay. (For some people, this is irritating because they want their space to process their feelings and thoughts - not a personal space invasion! How smothering! D= )
- Some people walk away - the other person probably just needs some space to think and maybe privacy if they're grieving. (For some hurting people, this is abandonment - they just wanted a hug! How could you just walk off like that!)
- Some people try to get them to talk to them and explain what's going on and work through it.
- Some people just sit there with them and say little or nothing. If they need to talk, fine. If they just need someone there, fine.
How do you process things and the feelings that accompany them? It can be as small as simply thinking about a decision, to dealing with some frustration, to after you've had a hurtful argument with someone, to something as big as the loss of a family member.
And how does your personal processing/grieving/thinking style effect how you approach others who are grieving, trying to process, or might need comforting?
If someone handles things differently than you, are you able to detect that and go against your natural grain in how you try to help them/show them your support? Or do you often accidentally end up "abandoning" or "smothering" them?