Singleness, Blessing or Curse?

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Fromdomlove

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Hello. I Know singleness is a gift as same as marriage, but i see some christians, even leaders christians, who treat singles as if we are rare. It is like saying: " you are losing a big thing". They treat us like second class christians. It is like being singles is has nothing to do with God`s will. That`s my perception.

Singles cant say anything about anything. Singles cant be pastor. Singles are bad examples for young christians.

for all above, i said: It bad or good to be single. Im not going to heaven if remain single? What if choose to die single?
 
blue_ladybug

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Whether you're married or single, if you're saved, you're going to heaven. I was blessed with singleness and I love it.. :)
 
JosephsDreams

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Shouldn't God be the one who determines that in out lives? If He wants us single, and we are, it is a blessing. When or if the time comes to marry, someone He has set for us, if we don't, then maybe it is not the blessing it once was.
 
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The Bible has a list of people who should not be pastors. For example people who are fornicating, worshiping idols, or getting drunk. Being single isn't on the list. The Apostle Paul himself was a single man. whether you're called to be single or be married, God bless you in all your pursuits.
 
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Fromdomlove

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The part who says: Man of one spouse"..is interpreted as must be married.
 
MsSuzanna

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Oh quit whining! Embrace your singleness and carry on. geezzzzzzzzzzzzz
 
Lynx

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MsSuzanna: Please consider the country in which the OP lives. Some cultures place a heavy emphasis on getting married.



Fromdomlove: There is nothing in the Bible that says you have to get married. And (speaking for myself) being single rocks! If I happen to find a girl that I want to marry then YAY! But until then I'm having fun being single.

Regardless of what anyone around you tells you, you should enjoy life and not get stuck on the one thing you don't have that everyone says you need. If you do get married, you get married. But if you don't, you shouldn't let your whole life pass by unused because you were waiting for that one thing.
 
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Both and neither.

Or as one author put it: Maybe instead of seeing singleness as a problem, churches should start seeing that just like married people can have marriage problems, singles can have singleness related problems.

And demographically singles, especially older never married singles, are rare in the church, but maybe the church should see that as a problem with itself (that it's not doing a good job of being relevant to singles) instead of a problem with singles.
 
zeroturbulence

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Its a blessed curse.


or a cursed blessing


Depends on how you want to look at it..





..The same thing can be said about marriage!!

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It is what you make of it.
 
zeroturbulence

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[video=youtube;M7fchtEJpy8]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M7fchtEJpy8[/video]
 
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You have two options, either embrace it or do something about it. And it also depends on who you ask. If your marriage is based on Ephesians 5, it is an absolute God given blessing. If your marriage has a weak biblical foundation, then it will be a curse is essence. There will not be the mutual respect and love between the partners and you tend to keep score. Not good.

Now, singleness. Its quite simple. Live for Him everyday. If it is God's will, then you will meet who you are supposed to establish the afore mentioned biblical marriage. But it is in His time. Not a moment sooner. Be the man God created you to be. Keep your eyes on Him and His kingdom. When God feels you are ready, then He will bless you according to His will.
 
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coby2

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Fromdomlove said:
The part who says: Man of one spouse"..is interpreted as must be married.
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Yes some interpret it like that, but Paul and Jesus were single.
We have one pastor in Holland. God gave him the gift of singleness. He enjoyed it, he traveled the world as a missionary for years. Then he had a church here and when he was late in his fourties God had a wife for him. Poor thing had to wait 5 years, because he didn't want to.
He worked together with pastors from Brazil or something who said that he couldn't be a pastor because he had no wife then. Unbelievable. Wonder if they let a widower quit pastoring a church too.
 
zeroturbulence

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I like the original version better :)

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Remain where God has called you so you won't go astray. Single or married just be contented wherever you are and don't let your heart wander anywhere else.
 
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coby2

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If I weren't single I would never have found my rabbits who so cutely pee and poop all over my apartment.
 
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GraceRevelation

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Fromdomlove said:
Hello. I Know singleness is a gift as same as marriage, but i see some christians, even leaders christians, who treat singles as if we are rare. It is like saying: " you are losing a big thing". They treat us like second class christians. It is like being singles is has nothing to do with God`s will. That`s my perception.

Singles cant say anything about anything. Singles cant be pastor. Singles are bad examples for young christians.

for all above, i said: It bad or good to be single. Im not going to heaven if remain single? What if choose to die single?
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Ya in the church singleness can be looked at as a bad thing. I will say being married once before i understand completely about not wanting to marry just to be married. I don't care how anyone sees me I refuse to marry anyone that isn't the right fit for me. That's a prison in my opinion if that person hasn't been introduced to you by God the father then continue on in your singleness. Don't worry about anyone in the church trying to make singles feel pressured into marriage, that's not God don't worry about it. They can act like being married is some kind of Holiness but be married to the wrong person and see how holy that is behind closed doors. Anyway i could go on and on. Ignore it :)
 
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