If you want to keep this specific to ladies, you might want to post this in the ladies' forum. You should be able to see it. Otherwise we should let the guys in on it too. Some of their different ideas might be good in the discussion.
PS. It's want ( when there is something you wish to get) not wont (a rather old and rarely used word that refers to a habit of behavior) wont always makes me think someone is saying won't and refusing to do something