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When was the last time you felt protected?
-The other day.
What makes you feel protected?
-A number of different things, not quite sure how to simply answer this.*
Do you feel you are equipped to protect others?
-Physically, absolutely. Emotionally, and Spiritually? I hope so, and in some instances, I would say absolutely, but I'm not perfect, and still learning, especially in regards to a close relationship.
How important is it to you to feel protected within a relationship?
-Very important. I think this plays into trust, and if there isn't trust in a relationship, it probably won't last..
*complicated answer:
Let me start by saying, there are different areas of protected/feeling safe, which others have mentioned, if not in this thread, the other one that is similar. Below are some examples of how I've felt protected/secure/safe in each of the areas.
Physical - When I go out to eat in public I position myself to watch the exits, and have a defensible position. When I don't get the desired seating position, It makes me feel uneasy. The other day, when out to eat, I didn't get the seat facing the door. My girlfriend had that spot. I knew she would watch the exit for me, and should the situation arise, take action herself, or alert me to the situation. I felt safe/protected.
Spiritual - For me, this one is probably the most rare, and very few people make this list. Being able to discuss where I am at, and my shortcomings, without condemnation(but with judgment), is extremely valuable, and definitely makes me feel safe/protected.
Emotional. - A couple days ago, I shared something I was going through with my girlfriend. It is something I've talked to her about before, and I let her know what it was, but she checked to make sure that's all that it was. Her doing this, it made me feel safe, protected, and cared for. It wasn't anything large, just a small thing, but it meant a lot. Honestly, It is something I hadn't experienced in quite a while, and just thinking about it, is causing my eyes to water up.
* How can we, as Christians, raise young men to feel protected enough to feel confident about protecting their own families someday?
I was blessed with Christian parents that taught me about Jesus, God, and the Bible, and taught me to rely on him. This is probably the most critical thing. This gave me spiritual stability that I wouldn't have had otherwise.
My parents were supportive, and encouraging with the things that I went through, and were always there when I needed them. This created Emotional stability. Choosing and keeping good friends can be extremely valuable as well.
Finally, for the physical, my parents either trained me, or enabled me to learn on my own in the areas of self defense, but also engrained in me- the correct attitude towards physical violence and things of that nature.
This basis, and the process I've been through has enabled me to feel confident about protecting those I love, and I have no doubt that it is something I can do. I imagine, that I would probably try to repeat that process, since it worked well for me.
* What can we ladies do to help make the guys feel as if they're not alone, and that it's ok to lean on others when they need to?
I don't have a complete answer for this, but see the examples above. In addition to feeling protect, I also didn't feel alone in those situations.
* Ladies, what things do you do, or would you do, to make your boyfriend/husband feel protected?
I'm not a lady, but again I would point to the examples I gave above. While small, and just examples, I feel they are important. :]
When was the last time you felt protected?
-The other day.
What makes you feel protected?
-A number of different things, not quite sure how to simply answer this.*
Do you feel you are equipped to protect others?
-Physically, absolutely. Emotionally, and Spiritually? I hope so, and in some instances, I would say absolutely, but I'm not perfect, and still learning, especially in regards to a close relationship.
How important is it to you to feel protected within a relationship?
-Very important. I think this plays into trust, and if there isn't trust in a relationship, it probably won't last..
*complicated answer:
Let me start by saying, there are different areas of protected/feeling safe, which others have mentioned, if not in this thread, the other one that is similar. Below are some examples of how I've felt protected/secure/safe in each of the areas.
Physical - When I go out to eat in public I position myself to watch the exits, and have a defensible position. When I don't get the desired seating position, It makes me feel uneasy. The other day, when out to eat, I didn't get the seat facing the door. My girlfriend had that spot. I knew she would watch the exit for me, and should the situation arise, take action herself, or alert me to the situation. I felt safe/protected.
Spiritual - For me, this one is probably the most rare, and very few people make this list. Being able to discuss where I am at, and my shortcomings, without condemnation(but with judgment), is extremely valuable, and definitely makes me feel safe/protected.
Emotional. - A couple days ago, I shared something I was going through with my girlfriend. It is something I've talked to her about before, and I let her know what it was, but she checked to make sure that's all that it was. Her doing this, it made me feel safe, protected, and cared for. It wasn't anything large, just a small thing, but it meant a lot. Honestly, It is something I hadn't experienced in quite a while, and just thinking about it, is causing my eyes to water up.
* How can we, as Christians, raise young men to feel protected enough to feel confident about protecting their own families someday?
I was blessed with Christian parents that taught me about Jesus, God, and the Bible, and taught me to rely on him. This is probably the most critical thing. This gave me spiritual stability that I wouldn't have had otherwise.
My parents were supportive, and encouraging with the things that I went through, and were always there when I needed them. This created Emotional stability. Choosing and keeping good friends can be extremely valuable as well.
Finally, for the physical, my parents either trained me, or enabled me to learn on my own in the areas of self defense, but also engrained in me- the correct attitude towards physical violence and things of that nature.
This basis, and the process I've been through has enabled me to feel confident about protecting those I love, and I have no doubt that it is something I can do. I imagine, that I would probably try to repeat that process, since it worked well for me.
* What can we ladies do to help make the guys feel as if they're not alone, and that it's ok to lean on others when they need to?
I don't have a complete answer for this, but see the examples above. In addition to feeling protect, I also didn't feel alone in those situations.
* Ladies, what things do you do, or would you do, to make your boyfriend/husband feel protected?
I'm not a lady, but again I would point to the examples I gave above. While small, and just examples, I feel they are important. :]
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