Want do you want to get out of a relationship?

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Danny_Night

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Guys this is my new thread.....Lets face it!
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Just cookies, thats it. Nothing else.
 

Lynx

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Somebody who can do what I cannot and who needs the abilities I have. Someone who can be strong when I am not and for whom I can be strong when she is not.

Also somebody of reasonable intelligence and literacy, so I won't have to stop and define a word every two sentences or dumb down what I say.
 
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Why would you not ask, instead.... "What do I hope to give to another in a relationship?" Much as Lynx just did.
 

Yeraza_Bats

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Love and affection from a most special best friend. Like that special person who wants to be with you everday, do things together with you, listen to you talk and share your interests together. Someone who understands how you feel and doesnt have expectations on what YOU have to be, too. Cuz Im not gonna be that person that some women may want : p

And I very much want to be that same person in return as well. It would be nice to have that person that I can say "I got your back" to : p
 

Born_Again

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Why would you not ask, instead.... "What do I hope to give to another in a relationship?" Much as Lynx just did.
Well, i get the OP, though.. relationships are a business transaction. You both want something from the other person. Its a trade. Quid pro quo, So, his question is completely valid.
 
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kaylagrl

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Well, i get the OP, though.. relationships are a business transaction. You both want something from the other person. Its a trade. Quid pro quo, So, his question is completely valid.
But a true relationship,one that lasts, is about what you are willing to give,selflessly,without reward. If you cannot do that, stay single. If you give to get you'll get divorce.
 

melita916

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when my boyfriend and i started dating, he asked me what i expected from him/the relationship.

now that i look back, i answered saying i want to be a constant encouragement and not a stumbling block.

so... i never answered his question. lol! :eek:
 
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Rosesrock

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A unlimited credit card, Roses every date night, and a starbucks waiting for me every morning...

I'm so kidding....but it's fun huh?

What I expect now? Nothing.... What I want and need are totally two different things sometimes and therefore my first prayer request.

My simple answer......great communication
 
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Tintin

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No, I don't want to get out of a relationship. I'm not even in one!
 
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That question, kinda is why so many fail today. What do we expect, or want out of a relationship. Expectations are dangerous. A relationship that lasts is to be 100/100 % to many want their mate to make them happy, or for sparks and fire works. when they die then so does the so called "Love" Love is a choose and a decision. It is not butterflies or emotions. I love, 1 Corinthians 13 definition of Love. Love is hard work, that can be very rewarding, but can also be heart breaking, sad, and tiresome at times.

That is the main thing I would look for. That my mate understood, God's definition of Love, and marriage. and that he has a true heart for the Lord. If so, even if an issue arises, I will have faith it can be resolved in love.
 

Lynx

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A unlimited credit card, Roses every date night, and a starbucks waiting for me every morning...

I'm so kidding....but it's fun huh?

What I expect now? Nothing.... What I want and need are totally two different things sometimes and therefore my first prayer request.

My simple answer......great communication
Starbucks? I'm not even a coffee drinker, yet even *I* know there are better things than Starbucks...
 
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Rosesrock

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Starbucks? I'm not even a coffee drinker, yet even *I* know there are better things than Starbucks...
Yeah, Well I'm sorry you believe that. I'll put you on my prayer list. :p
 

Born_Again

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But a true relationship,one that lasts, is about what you are willing to give,selflessly,without reward. If you cannot do that, stay single. If you give to get you'll get divorce.
It seem weird, though, looking for someone to give yourself to... When a guy sees a girl he likes does he say "I want to give myself to her"? No, he thinks... "I think shes pretty... Shes a nice this that and the other thing.... I WANT to be with her or just plain WANT her"

Be real, folks....
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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It's relative to the type of relationship. Assuming a romantic one: companionship, communication, empathy, strength.

Trying to forgo expectations is fine - healthy, even, but relationships entail give and take. There's nothing wrong with what the OP asked.
 

tourist

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But a true relationship,one that lasts, is about what you are willing to give,selflessly,without reward. If you cannot do that, stay single. If you give to get you'll get divorce.
I agree with what you are saying. I don't know a give or take type of marriage will necessarily end in divorce but one or the other or both will eventually be unhappy and full of regret. I speak from experience for both types of marriage.
 

JesusLives

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Someone to share life with....believe I found that....not disappointed either...
 
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Money, a free chauffeur with car, a free male nanny, dust sucker, cook, things like that and someone to yell at.