My two cents on love…

[shiningthrupain]

First off…I believe love is a CHOICE….not a FEELING….although many feelings go with love it’s a CHOICE. I really get annoyed when someone says “I can’t help falling in love with that person” because you so can!

I think a lot of people get so wrapped up into the dating and falling in love…..that when they say I Do….they don’t realize like the commitment they are making to wake up to that person every day and CHOOSING to or not to love them. They think everything was fine and dandy while dating it will just follow key during the marriage.

Example: I know a couple who dating for five years and ended up getting married, they now have a daughter, and the husband says “I’m not the father type or husband type.” Because he chooses not to be. He says he doesn’t like to stay home; he likes to go out and have a good time, so why not go out with his family? Then he uses the excuse they don’t have the money… yet he can go buy drinks and other things…this is such bull…he’s choosing to cop out…and he’s choosing not to love his wife and respect her.

And another thing….I’m so sick of people “falling” for people and leading them on and flirting when they defiantly know it’s not going to go anywhere…honestly….what kind of love is that? It’s not any kind of love…its lust…or an emotional immature high…of only getting attention when you need it and leading someone on to get short term pleasure that won’t stick around. I for one need to take my own advice here…because I get wrapped up in thinking I need someone…and believing it’s something when it’s not…I don’t want lust, emotional immature high, or whatever other lie the world wants us to believe.

This is what I have come to learn and believe….GOD is love, and love is a CHOICE. Think about it…God give us the choice to have a relationship with him and to love us…therefore it is OUR CHOICE to love someone…everyday. When you say I Do, you are making a commitment to wake up every morning and go through the day, choosing to love that person. It’s not going to be easy all the time, you will struggle, but if God is the center of your marriage and you are willing to fight and choose to love the person, it will be worth it.

 

[Angel_Armies]

You know I've always said and believed that we fall in Lust at first sight not Love the term Love at first sight should be throw out the window! Thank you for sharing this i enjoyed it!

 

[shiningthrupain]

Awww yay!!! AGREED lol

 

[blvp2145]

I Can agree with you on this topic. I feel that Love is a Choice as well. Too me I feel that Males & Females ( Christian & non ) are feeling more alone now then the past. But people today don't really care how they treat each other. Yes they may say I am soooooooooo deep in love with him/her. All people do have a void in there soul and that is Christ Jesus. People want too be Loved very much, some could say why do they need too be loved in the first place? For the Lord put in us that need for His Love that does not fall. I bet anyone who reads this does not like being alone at all. Yes lust something all Christian have to battle with each day and not give in. I just see males & females run too feeling safe or lie that is love, just so they can feel good for some time. I feel that most males ( Christian & non ) want play games and see what happnes. I said before they some males not all are not treating females in Christ like way or just being a Man and repcet them. And on the other hand I have seen that Fmales are just doing the same ( I know I'm going to get some hate mail on this one ). I wish people would stop useing each other for sinful lust and back stabbing.

 

[lonewolf]

First off…I believe love is a CHOICE….not a FEELING….although many feelings go with love it’s a CHOICE. I really get annoyed when someone says “I can’t help falling in love with that person” because you so can!

I think a lot of people get so wrapped up into the dating and falling in love…..that when they say I Do….they don’t realize like the commitment they are making to wake up to that person every day and CHOOSING to or not to love them. They think everything was fine and dandy while dating it will just follow key during the marriage.

Example: I know a couple who dating for five years and ended up getting married, they now have a daughter, and the husband says “I’m not the father type or husband type.” Because he chooses not to be. He says he doesn’t like to stay home; he likes to go out and have a good time, so why not go out with his family? Then he uses the excuse they don’t have the money… yet he can go buy drinks and other things…this is such bull…he’s choosing to cop out…and he’s choosing not to love his wife and respect her.

And another thing….I’m so sick of people “falling” for people and leading them on and flirting when they defiantly know it’s not going to go anywhere…honestly….what kind of love is that? It’s not any kind of love…its lust…or an emotional immature high…of only getting attention when you need it and leading someone on to get short term pleasure that won’t stick around. I for one need to take my own advice here…because I get wrapped up in thinking I need someone…and believing it’s something when it’s not…I don’t want lust, emotional immature high, or whatever other lie the world wants us to believe.

This is what I have come to learn and believe….GOD is love, and love is a CHOICE. Think about it…God give us the choice to have a relationship with him and to love us…therefore it is OUR CHOICE to love someone…everyday. When you say I Do, you are making a commitment to wake up every morning and go through the day, choosing to love that person. It’s not going to be easy all the time, you will struggle, but if God is the center of your marriage and you are willing to fight and choose to love the person, it will be worth it.

I agree with what you said. Everyone thinks marriage will be just liked dating but they don't think about what its really like to live with that person and have to put up with every little thing they do that might annoy them. Love really is a choice like you said.