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I don't know if they are happy marriages or not. They are more successful than ours. I would define success as not ending in divorce. Doesn't mean they are happy. I'm sure we all know unhappy people who are still married that chose it. I would even argue marriage doesn't imply happiness for either system.
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Thanks so much for all of your comments! I see that some people don't believe that you actually have to prepare for marriage. I would have to disagree. The same way you prepare before you take a test is the same way that you should prepare for one of the greatest life changing decisions of your life. I think that's the problem a lot of the times. We go into something not prepared or ready but then we wonder why it fails. One of the ways that I'm preparing is by allowing God to heal me completely and make me completely WHOLE before sending the one to find me. A lot of people say that it's two halves coming together to make a whole but I believe it should be two WHOLE people coming together. How can I be of any help to my man of God if I don't even know who I am? For me, it starts with HEALING and DELIVERANCE!
Tiarra La'Sha
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Tiarra La'Sha
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Being ready for marriage is absolutely vital even if it means very few would get married if we are rash and jump into it without being prepared for it well... why do you think divorce is so common among marriages? I would consider the reason for getting married, yes the main reason is because you love them but how far will you go for them?
When you are getting married the vows are normally this - I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. everyone says these vows but the vows don't always stick do they? When people say these vows at their weddings I don't think they really understand what they are promising I mean marriage is a sacred ceremony in which two people who are deeply in love become on being in mind heart and soul it isn't to be taken lightly and when you make these vows you need to say them as if they are written in stone you have to be prepared to hold to these vows even through the harshest of hell even if you have to end up taking care of the person like a small child who cannot get out of bed because in sickness and in health sometimes unforeseen things happen and may make the spouse unable to even move out bed.
When you get married are you prepared to go that far for them? are you prepared to have take care of them like that or have to deal with severe illness and having the bills rise insanely for medication to keep your spouse alive? are you prepared to see the darkest side of them even if you don't think such a darkness exists in them are you prepared to go through stress anger and the harshness and unfairness life deals us and love them just as much as you did at your wedding?
If and when Steph and I get married when I see her in that gown although that is already how I see her I have no doubt life will be harsh and I am prepared to deal with all of this and more it may not happen things may never get that bad but I am prepared to go that far and to deal with all of this and yet I will still only see her as I saw her in her wedding gown.
True love is blind to any physical features and true love is able to see the darkest side of the person yet still love them the same if not more true love will go through ninth circle of hell for the one they love.
When you are getting married the vows are normally this - I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. everyone says these vows but the vows don't always stick do they? When people say these vows at their weddings I don't think they really understand what they are promising I mean marriage is a sacred ceremony in which two people who are deeply in love become on being in mind heart and soul it isn't to be taken lightly and when you make these vows you need to say them as if they are written in stone you have to be prepared to hold to these vows even through the harshest of hell even if you have to end up taking care of the person like a small child who cannot get out of bed because in sickness and in health sometimes unforeseen things happen and may make the spouse unable to even move out bed.
When you get married are you prepared to go that far for them? are you prepared to have take care of them like that or have to deal with severe illness and having the bills rise insanely for medication to keep your spouse alive? are you prepared to see the darkest side of them even if you don't think such a darkness exists in them are you prepared to go through stress anger and the harshness and unfairness life deals us and love them just as much as you did at your wedding?
If and when Steph and I get married when I see her in that gown although that is already how I see her I have no doubt life will be harsh and I am prepared to deal with all of this and more it may not happen things may never get that bad but I am prepared to go that far and to deal with all of this and yet I will still only see her as I saw her in her wedding gown.
True love is blind to any physical features and true love is able to see the darkest side of the person yet still love them the same if not more true love will go through ninth circle of hell for the one they love.
The uncertainty and the worry of the unknown is natural it's human but that doesn't mean you aren't ready for marriage I bet if on our wedding day you see me as you walk up there you will feel both uncertainty yet excitement you will say to yourself I can't believe this is really happening you will say to yourself how we will have a life together and knowing you you will probably check to make sure your hair looks perfect and your gown is great and you will probably wonder if you will be a good enough wife and maybe(hopefully ;b) you will stumble little and while you feel embarrassed and even fell bad about it my heart will leap inside me because of how adorable your clumsiness is.
But even with all this when you and I make those vows and kiss all those worries and fears will disappear and you will know you made the right choice.
But even with all this when you and I make those vows and kiss all those worries and fears will disappear and you will know you made the right choice.
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So a successful marriage is one where, even if the people hate each other, they stay married? I don't see success in two people forced into a situation neither are happy in. And that perhaps neither Wanted to be in to begin with. I would find that a failure on the part of the culture that forced people into marriage that didn't want it. That's more like disgruntled roommates who have to live together because neither can afford to move than a successful marriage.
