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How well do you like to know them?

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BruceWayne

BruceWayne

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How long do you like to or have to know someone before you would consider dating them? Do you only date friends? Good friends? Mutual friends? Are you the type that likes blind dates? lol... and why?

Personally, I've never dated anyone that I had known longer than 3 months. I guess I like the mystery and fun that comes with getting to know someone along the way. Otherwise, it would be far less exciting to me. Yeah, it's a risk, but I like that. :p

Anyway, I don't know if this thread has been done... I didn't find it, but it was a question that I was asked recently. Feel free to share your thoughts/preferences if you want to.
 
tourist

tourist

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My feeling on dating is that I wouldn't date anyone that I would not consider marrying. How long would I consider? That's hard to say, maybe an hour, a day or a month. The consideration would most likely not extend beyond a year. For me, it's sort of like getting hit by lightning, like a flash. It can happen suddenly.
 
Lynx

Lynx

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*Lynx channels the spirit of wisebeardman once again.

wots a date?

Wait, can you channel his spirit before he is dead? Oh well.

Anyway I've never been on a date - not for lack of interest, just for lack of anybody in whom I'm interested - so I'll get back to you when I've been on a date and tell you how long I knew her before dating.
 
BruceWayne

BruceWayne

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Lynx said:
*Lynx channels the spirit of wisebeardman once again.

wots a date?

Wait, can you channel his spirit before he is dead? Oh well.

Anyway I've never been on a date - not for lack of interest, just for lack of anybody in whom I'm interested - so I'll get back to you when I've been on a date and tell you how long I knew her before dating.
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I think so, but only on Anything Can Happen Thursday.
 
BruceWayne

BruceWayne

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tourist said:
For me, it's sort of like getting hit by lightning, like a flash. It can happen suddenly.
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True. You never know when you could stumble upon Mr/Miss Right lol. Some of the best relationships are the ones that just happen.
 
Willie-T

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I'm not sure, I'd have to ask my wife.
 
Tinkerbell725

Tinkerbell725

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I heard men fall in love faster than women. I don't know how true is that. For me as long as a level of trust has been established and I feel comfortable and I enjoy his company then I can date him. And like what tourist said dating for me also means I consider marrying the guy.
 
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SkittlePumpkin

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My husband and I started dating almost immediately after we met. We were engaged nine months later, and married almost exactly a year to the day after we met.
I texted him three weeks after we started dating and told him that I felt like we would end up getting married.
it scared him, but evidently not too much for him to stick around; we'll be celebrating 7 years this August :)
 
BruceWayne

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SkittlePumpkin said:
My husband and I started dating almost immediately after we met. We were engaged nine months later, and married almost exactly a year to the day after we met.
I texted him three weeks after we started dating and told him that I felt like we would end up getting married.
it scared him, but evidently not too much for him to stick around; we'll be celebrating 7 years this August :)
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Haha I bet XD That's awesome though. Congrats! :)
 
Lynx

Lynx

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Sorry wisebeardman I beat you to it.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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tourist said:
My feeling on dating is that I wouldn't date anyone that I would not consider marrying. How long would I consider? That's hard to say, maybe an hour, a day or a month. The consideration would most likely not extend beyond a year. For me, it's sort of like getting hit by lightning, like a flash. It can happen suddenly.
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Isn't that what the date is for? Deciding whether or not you would consider marrying the person?

I've changed my viewpoint on dating over the years. At this point, I think casual dating to get to know people before forming any attachments or commitments is a good thing. I simply cannot go on a first date with someone ALREADY thinking about what it would be like to be married to that person. It's just jumping way too far ahead, and would freak me out, and the whole thing would implode before it even had a chance. I would need to start out getting to know them with no pressure, no expectations, no commitments, and then gradually take things from there. This way, there's a "back door" to gently ease out of if one of you doesn't feel a connection. No hurt feelings, no rejection. Just one date, thanks it was fun, and move on.

I have to wonder... if more people viewed dating as CASUAL, more people would go on dates more often, not be so intimidated, and eventually find their life partner much sooner than if they took it really serious and therefore rarely did it. Just my thought on things at this stage in my life.

I don't know that I'd be comfortable doing a blind date with someone I've never even spoken with, but if it's really just a date (no pressure to form a relationship at this point, just eating a meal together and talking for an evening), I'd say that knowing them even a little bit is enough.
 
AsifinPassing

AsifinPassing

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BruceWayne said:
How long do you like to or have to know someone before you would consider dating them? Do you only date friends? Good friends? Mutual friends? Are you the type that likes blind dates? lol... and why?

Personally, I've never dated anyone that I had known longer than 3 months. I guess I like the mystery and fun that comes with getting to know someone along the way. Otherwise, it would be far less exciting to me. Yeah, it's a risk, but I like that. :p

Anyway, I don't know if this thread has been done... I didn't find it, but it was a question that I was asked recently. Feel free to share your thoughts/preferences if you want to.
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Um, answer J) All of the above. I've dated girls who I didn't know from Adam or whom I'd been friends with for years. I suppose it's more of a mixture between our feelings, decisions, and prayers.
 
JosephsDreams

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Anywhere from 10 minutes to a year or more.
 
shineyourlight

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All my past boyfriends have been guys I've known for a short time before we started dating. I mean, I don't have a rule of, "I'm not dating anyone after 3 months of knowing them," but it just happens that I date a guy after knowing him for a short time before we start up a romantic relationship.
 
Faith-n-Christ

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I think I would rather know someone a little bit atleast before considering dating them.
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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I like to take the time to read at least 10-15 posts that a person makes here before officially deciding I'm going to stalk him.

I know... I'm kinda slow and indecisive (compared to typical stalkers these days.)

I keep waiting to find Mr.-- "You Had Me... At Your Very First Post..."

*dreamy eyes*
 
Tinkerbell725

Tinkerbell725

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seoulsearch said:
I like to take the time to read at least 10-15 posts that a person makes here before officially deciding I'm going to stalk him.

I know... I'm kinda slow and indecisive (compared to typical stalkers these days.)

I keep waiting to find Mr.-- "You Had Me... At Your Very First Post..."

*dreamy eyes*
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Lol! Get a life or something seoul...

My advice about your posts so you will get that kind of CC guy you want is KISS (keep it short and simple but dont add one more S to that because it would mean stupid) because real men hate reading long posts. :rolleyes: :p :D
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Lol! Get a life or something seoul...

My advice about your posts so you will get that kind of CC guy you want is KISS (keep it short and simple but dont add one more S to that because it would mean stupid) because real men hate reading long posts. :rolleyes: :p :D
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For anyone familiar with the threads I used to write...

Yup.

THIS would definitely explain why I'm single.
 
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