Divorced?

[JosephsDreams]

First wife left me after 9 years, left me with with our 3 kids. I was not the model husband, very immature and selfish. I would have left me too. Became a Christian about 4 years after she left.
Remarried many years later, it lasted 9 years. She died a year and a half ago. Raising two girls, a 7 and 9 years old. Been seeing my ex wife on and off lately.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Divorced after 16 years of marriage. I've definitely learned a whole lot about marriage by going through a divorce.

 

[Dino246]

Divorced after 16 years of marriage. I've definitely learned a whole lot about marriage by going through a divorce.

Ditto to the second sentence!

 

[WarriorForChrist]

Divorced, was married for one year. Married again and it is great.

 

[CatHerder]

Divorced after being married 16 years.

 

[azlightsout]

Divorced married 10 years

 

[Shelena]

Just wondering how many other divorced Christian Chatters are here

I called myself divorced but we never married. We lived together for 15 years. We split last year. My biggest problem is share our 13 year old daughter. I feel Very uneasy when she is with him. She doesn't like to spend much time with him. But I know it's important for her to have good relationship with her father but I feel very lost when she's over his house.

 

[biblerahel]

I'm not sure if I should answer this thread or be in it, but I'm widowed after 9 years of successful marriage but single for 17 years now. I don't know which is worse being divorced or being widowed. I have two adult kids from my 9 years of marriage.

 

[PhoenixSong1778]

Not to diminish the loss of your spouse, but while both situations hurt, from what I'm hearing when I attend Divorce Care, divorce hurts worse. In death, your spouse didn't choose to leave you. Divorce is entirely different, a series of choices. My uncle has experienced both divorce, and then the death of my aunt, and he says the divorce was worse.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

I'm not sure if I should answer this thread or be in it, but I'm widowed after 9 years of successful marriage but single for 17 years now. I don't know which is worse being divorced or being widowed. I have two adult kids from my 9 years of marriage.

So sorry for your loss biblerahel. You are welcome here. Losing a spouse hurts, whether it's from abandonment or from death. Both are, I am sure, very different types of grief, and both terrible. Divorce deals betrayal and a slew of other feelings, while death is a solid wall of grief that cannot be surpassed... watching your children grow up without one of their parents must be very hard. My heart is with you.

 

[Sac49]

Going thru second divorce now. No fun but not as nasty as my first. This one is a no contest as it was mutual and we are on good terms...so far.

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

Divorced. Twice. No children. Married for about 3 years each time. I'm what people call a slow learner.

 

[RickyZ]

Personally, I think couples should be required to sit in on 2 weeks worth of divorce court proceedings before being issued a marriage license

 

[JesusLives]

Personally, I think couples should be required to sit in on 2 weeks worth of divorce court proceedings before being issued a marriage license

Now there's a thought.....

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

Personally, I think couples should be required to sit in on 2 weeks worth of divorce court proceedings before being issued a marriage license

That would have been very useful in my situation. Going through 2 divorces is about enough to destroy a man, emotionally, financially, and confidence-wise. But like they say, divorce is so expensive because it's worth it.

 

[RickyZ]

You know what the no. 1 cause of divorce is?

Marriage

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

You know what the no. 1 cause of divorce is?

Marriage

Indeed. Most true.

 

[Telcobilly]

Same here, challenging road to travel to be in a place to open your heart up again.

 

[Shelena]

My Biggest concern with divorce are the kids. In my case, my 13 year old doesn't want to spent time with her dad, but she did it until his girlfriend moved in with him without our daughter knowing. shortly after a left the house. He blames me now. He wants me to tell our daughter to go to his house. Honestly I don't think it is my place to force her to go spent time with him. But I don't want my daughter to have a bad relationship with her father. I don't know what to do

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

My Biggest concern with divorce are the kids. In my case, my 13 year old doesn't want to spent time with her dad, but she did it until his girlfriend moved in with him without our daughter knowing. shortly after a left the house. He blames me now. He wants me to tell our daughter to go to his house. Honestly I don't think it is my place to force her to go spent time with him. But I don't want my daughter to have a bad relationship with her father. I don't know what to do

All you can really do is encourage her to continue spending time with him, and pray about it. Perhaps he can come pick her up for lunch a couple of days a week, to spend time with her. It's a start.