I've met this guy and I feel that he could be perfect for me. We've gone on a date and he has cooked me dinner. Things did get a little carried away and in afraid I may have runied me chances with him. We've only talked once since I have last seen him. But we don't text usually so I'm not sure if he's avoiding me or not. I've been praying every night and day that God blesses me with him. Or just he chance to get to know him more. I really think we could be good for eachother. I'm a Christian and he's not so sure what he wants. (Grew up Catholic though) I think we could go church together and grow closer to Christ. I'm just asking that if you reading this could you olease pray for me and that I can get the chance to know him better and maybe a relationship for the both us together. I just really had a good feeling about him. And I don't want to be lonely anymore. Thank you so much!
I really want him
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I know its a lot easier said and done to "forget" about the boy and focus on God. But I would encourage you to pray about it, and dont just pray that God gives you time to get to know him, but ask God to just let his will be done. Ive been there girl, after feeling so lonely and then you finally get a taste of a possible relationship and i know its hard to go back to your other lifestyle. But as a christian it is sooo important to find someone who loves God even more than he will love you. It's not impossible to date and grow togetehr but it might cause some other issues in the long run. Instead of moving so fast maybe just be friends first. Invite him to church for a few weeks and make sure he knows who he wants to live his life for. God has a plan for everyone and I believe that he also will provide you with the right people in your life, and when God gives you that person one day it will be well worth it. Praying for you!
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I'd say your priorities are a little [okay, a LOT] misplaced. You shouldn't even be considering a relationship with him until he has an established walk with Christ. Rather than praying that God will "bless" you with him (if he isn't a believer, it will be a curse, NOT a blessing!), pray that God will work in his life and he will get saved - and until then, wipe any hope or intent of a relationship with him from your mind. Entering into a relationship with someone who isn't a believer goes against the Word of God and will bring you nothing but heartache.
Stop wondering and just call him.. No reason to wait and see if he's lost interest, ask him. Don't be too disappointed if he doesn't feel the same way about you as you do him. And don't push the issue, sometimes women find someone who's right for them but don't understand that the guy needs more time to reach the same conclusion. One date isn't much time to decide; "This is the perfect person for me". Rushing someone can scare them away. He may be still trying to decide if he likes you, so keep it casual and don't rush it, be yourself, and he'll come around if it was meant to be... jmo
I understand your feelings, I've been in a similar position. One thing I'm going to make sure for future possible relationships, is to make a real effort to be friends first. I think it is so much better when you are friends first rather than jump straight into dating a stranger. Take it easy, take it slow. Don't rush into things. And especially seeing as he is a non-believer, I would not get your hopes up at all. It's not worth it. Pray for his salvation, but don't befriend him hoping he will turn into what you want later on. He has to come to terms with his relationship with Christ in his time, and you're just going to tear yourself waiting. Seek a friendship with him now, don't seek a relationship with him. Set your mind and soul on to God first and foremost rather than a dating relationship, and in time you will attract a Godly man (whether this fellow or another).
A sense of being lonely, without contacts with a friendship group, to jump straight into a deep personal
relationship is not good, too intense. You need to be able to know how you function with people
and then how you function at a deeper level. Loneliness cripples the soul and is also a denial of
what it means to be human. We are all alone in one sense, and also together in our common humanity.
Loneliness often comes from deep hurts, unresolved needs which if left unhealed and resolved suck
others in to just eat them up. It is hard to know God loves us, as we are, and to know He is with
us, but out of this reality comes streams of living water.
I hope this helps you, may God bless you, and you find peace and a place you can be yourself and
feel accepted.
relationship is not good, too intense. You need to be able to know how you function with people
and then how you function at a deeper level. Loneliness cripples the soul and is also a denial of
what it means to be human. We are all alone in one sense, and also together in our common humanity.
Loneliness often comes from deep hurts, unresolved needs which if left unhealed and resolved suck
others in to just eat them up. It is hard to know God loves us, as we are, and to know He is with
us, but out of this reality comes streams of living water.
I hope this helps you, may God bless you, and you find peace and a place you can be yourself and
feel accepted.
Thankyou everyone for your advice smd opinions. It was really an eye opener. You guys are right a relationship with him could never work of God isn't first. I guess I just wanted him so bad I was willing to take the bad that came with him. I'm going to pray for his salvation and work on myself because it's obvious that I'm just trying to fill a void. 
it still really sucks to feel alone. But as long as I have Jesus I can never be alone right? Thank you again guys. And more advice is welcome please!
it still really sucks to feel alone. But as long as I have Jesus I can never be alone right? Thank you again guys. And more advice is welcome please!
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Thankyou everyone for your advice smd opinions. It was really an eye opener. You guys are right a relationship with him could never work of God isn't first. I guess I just wanted him so bad I was willing to take the bad that came with him. I'm going to pray for his salvation and work on myself because it's obvious that I'm just trying to fill a void. it still really sucks to feel alone. But as long as I have Jesus I can never be alone right? Thank you again guys. And more advice is welcome please!
it still really sucks to feel alone. But as long as I have Jesus I can never be alone right? Thank you again guys. And more advice is welcome please!
And he doesnt try to contact you besides that one time? If he doesnt try to contact you within that amount of time i am sorry to say but, you must try to move on. I may be wrong, i hope for you i am, but if he felt the same i think he would have tried to see you again. Being that he isnt a Christian leads me to believe he had other motives behind cooking you dinner. I am just being honest in what you have told us. I will be praying for you.
