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SapphireNat

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Hi everyone. I am a pretty new Christian. but I love God more than anyone and would never give up my Christian life. anyway I met a guy more than one year ago and I fell in love, he is a Christian too. Because I was a new Christian he decided to procrastinate our relationships. He promised that he will be back one day. so I keep paying for him more than one year, my patience is slowly dying... I can not give up hope at the same time I can not do it any more. I know "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. [SUP]5 [/SUP]It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. [SUP]6 [/SUP]Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. [SUP]7 [/SUP]It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 but it is easy to say then to fulfill it.


PS Please do not reply focus on God, do not think about the guy. I am pretty focus on God right now.
 
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Ultimatum77

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Hi everyone. I am a pretty new Christian. but I love God more than anyone and would never give up my Christian life. anyway I met a guy more than one year ago and I fell in love, he is a Christian too. Because I was a new Christian he decided to procrastinate our relationships. He promised that he will be back one day. so I keep paying for him more than one year, my patience is slowly dying... I can not give up hope at the same time I can not do it any more. I know "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. [SUP]5 [/SUP]It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. [SUP]6 [/SUP]Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. [SUP]7 [/SUP]It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 but it is easy to say then to fulfill it.


PS Please do not reply focus on God, do not think about the guy. I am pretty focus on God right now.
Ask him if he's still interested in being your boyfriend and for an honest answer. If he isn't just move on I guess....don't waste your prime youth behind some dude who may be just messing around with your emotions.
 

Fenner

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I agree with Ultimatum. But honestly making you wait a year? Are you friends or have you not talked to him in a year? Just because he wants procrastinate in his life does mean you have to.
 
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SapphireNat

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I agree with Ultimatum. But honestly making you wait a year? Are you friends or have you not talked to him in a year? Just because he wants procrastinate in his life does mean you have to.
He talks to me about everything except our relationships. I think he thinks that I am not ready for a relationship and he wants to graduate from the university.
 
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SapphireNat

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I agree with Ultimatum. But honestly making you wait a year? Are you friends or have you not talked to him in a year? Just because he wants procrastinate in his life does mean you have to.
He does not talk to me often I thought that I am not spiritual enough to him. that was the main reason.
 
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Ugly

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He talks to me about everything except our relationships. I think he thinks that I am not ready for a relationship and he wants to graduate from the university.
Sounds as though he's flashing some red flags. If he feels you are not ready, then he should be talking to you about it regularly, not ignoring the subject and leaving you dangling.
Even if he wants to finish school first, that is still something he should be willing to discuss with you.

It's often good to look at someones behavior and realize if they're doing this now, they will do it in other areas, in the future. If you did get with him, chances are he will utilize this non-communicate as a way to exact control over you in the future as well.
Or it could possibly suggest he is simply not a good communicator, which if that is the case, then you will always have the issue of never having anything resolved with him.
No matter the reason for the behavior what he's doing is a bad sign. There is no valid excuse for not communicating with you. Sounds to me like you need to give serious thought about this whole situation being a mistake, but one that can be rectified by you, instead of you being strung along by an insensitive, possibly controlling, jerk.
 

Fenner

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Do you mean praying and not paying?

You have to decide what you want to do. Don't let him dictate your life.
 
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BurlyCarl

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Hi everyone. I am a pretty new Christian. but I love God more than anyone and would never give up my Christian life. anyway I met a guy more than one year ago and I fell in love, he is a Christian too. Because I was a new Christian he decided to procrastinate our relationships. He promised that he will be back one day. so I keep paying for him more than one year, my patience is slowly dying... I can not give up hope at the same time I can not do it any more. I know "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. [SUP]5 [/SUP]It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. [SUP]6 [/SUP]Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. [SUP]7 [/SUP]It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 but it is easy to say then to fulfill it.


PS Please do not reply focus on God, do not think about the guy. I am pretty focus on God right now.
Lets be realistic for a moment. "He will be back one day?" "He will remember me" Really? This isn't Brave hart....That sounds really swell doesn't it? That is disrespectful to yourself. I know you like the guy or loved him. Its been a year... and you are paying him? You are obsessed and need to let go. No it doesn't not sound like you are focused. Men and Women who actually want to be with someone judge with their feet. If they are with you guess what. They are standing next to you daily. Those who are not interested walk away. Where is his feet?....

You are placing him on a pedestal. That's the reason you have not placed God into the focus. You shouldn't do that. God comes first. He has literally said without saying it like this. ah hem "Please wait right here. Because I am moving on. I may or may not be back one day. Who knows? So I am going to go now and do what I want. And you can stay here." I am not joking. Its been one year. He is off the Map.

I was in the same situation recently. Held on for too too long. You patience is slow ending because the truth of the matter is sinking in. You could be having fun, meeting new people, dating and all that Jazz. I recently got educated on this. When a woman tells me that I will be back one day. Wait for me. What it really says? Wait here while I go and see other men. Now switch it. He is saying wait here while I go and see other women.

Don't do that. Time to move on.
 
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SapphireNat

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Sorry I want to say "praying for him". I needed to move on a long time ago.
 
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BurlyCarl

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Sorry I want to say "praying for him". I needed to move on a long time ago.
That's the spirit! Yes its time to find yourself someone that will be coo coo for coco puffs about you. Now isn't it nice to know that someone phenomenal is waiting for you. What we are seeking is often times seeking us too. Ask God to send you someone light years beyond.
 
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SapphireNat

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That's the spirit! Yes its time to find yourself someone that will be coo coo for coco puffs about you. Now isn't it nice to know that someone phenomenal is waiting for you. What we are seeking is often times seeking us too. Ask God to send you someone light years beyond.

I think after that experience I want to stay single for a while
 
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SapphireNat

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Does anyone know how to delete this thread? thank you
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Does anyone know how to delete this thread? thank you
It might be useful to someone else if you leave it up, but if you'd like to have it taken down, you can request so by contacting a Moderator. Hang in there, Sapphire, and good luck with things. :)

That's the spirit! Yes its time to find yourself someone that will be coo coo for coco puffs about you. Now isn't it nice to know that someone phenomenal is waiting for you. What we are seeking is often times seeking us too. Ask God to send you someone light years beyond.
Joel Olsteen... is that you??
 
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Ugly

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Does anyone know how to delete this thread? thank you
Threads can only be deleted by mods. And they rarely delete threads except under special circumstances. But you can still ask.
 
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BurlyCarl

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It might be useful to someone else if you leave it up, but if you'd like to have it taken down, you can request so by contacting a Moderator. Hang in there, Sapphire, and good luck with things. :)


Joel Olsteen... is that you??
Friends let me tell you lol
 

Fenner

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Sapphire girl, please don't be embarrassed or feel bad. If I could show you a movie lf my life at age 26, I put probably more than one guy on a pedestal and waited around. I think many have done that. God bless you.
 
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Ugly

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Yeah, and guys do the same thing sometimes.