Dating in todays age

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Faith-n-Christ

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Thank you Dino246, Tourist and AuntieAnt

All 3 seem sound advice.

AuntieAnt, I to am a low maintenance outdoors type of person. I enjoy the simplicity of life.

Tourist, I have not met anyone online. But if I do that sound wise. A bit leery about meeting face to face w/ someone I met online. I would be very cautious.

Dino246, I have spent the last 3 years healing and getting to know who I am in the Lord. I have also been learning what love is. So my values are the Lord's. I will settle for nothing less. Learned my lesson :) I will guard my heart thank you. Wise advice.

I have never flirted so not sure how to let a guy know I think he is nice. I will figure that out I reckon. I am a bit nervous, not dating in so long. I am also wondering if it is different dating after being married for so long? I am allowed to remarry biblically. I would not want to be a stumbling block for another. It is all so strange. Is there any issues that arise?

Again thank yall for answering my questions.
 
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Ultimatum77

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I should mention that you don't really want to judge your normallacy by me. I'm not normal myself.
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Lol the better question is what is defined as normal these days? And is anyone technically "normal"? What's the standard? :)
 
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Jeshuvan

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In all that we do,we do as onto the Lord,first.Courtesy and respect should be given to all.As for dating,i am married and we never dated,God just put us together supernaturally.Matthew 6:33 Seek God first,he will take care of all other things in your life,He always knows best.Just praise him,thank him, let peace and joy rule and reign in your life.also if u r truly and totally living for God,look for someone who is also,dont just listen to someones talk,watch their walk with God for a couple of years,it will do all the talking,amen.
 
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BurlyCarl

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Quite a bit has changed. You are I are close in age. I am dating and welcome back after 15 years. Manners still play a role in dating. No one wants to be around a jerk. Chivalry has died off tremendously. I live in a major city here in middle America. I have noticed when out on a date which I have been on two this past weekend. The amount of smart phone distraction is tremendous. So brace yourself if you find yourself talking to yourself lol. Usually these women don't get a call back from me. It just says to me they are not interested.

Don't do anything extravagant. Simplicity is best these days. Movies are Eh these days. Don't show up with flowers on the first two weeks because that is seen as creepy. I find that activities of excitement are the goal these days. So loose the flowers and stuff like that on the initial dates. The goal is to get to know the lady and without expectation. Repeat "EXPECT NOTHING" Think of it like I want to know them first. Genuinely just get to know her. Confidence still applies.

If anything really. Goal is to have fun and get to know someone. Their body language and conversation usually tells you everything you need to know. If they are a stick in the mud and non talkative... Move on.
 
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LiJo

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Faith-n-Christ said:
I have not dated in over 15 yrs. I am curious what dating is like today.

What do folks do on dates?

I am kinda old fashioned aswell as a southerner.
Do men still open doors for ladies?

I have seen our young folks and manners seem to be dead.
Is it still the same with dating?
or is chivalry dead?

Do women ask guys out now-a-days?

what are the new traditional norms?

When I last dated we, did not have text, online dating, or FB, and my mobile was in a vehicle. Pagers was the norm. So I am a bit out of date.
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-Things to do on dates....lunch and a walk in the park.....get ice cream. Doing an activity which allows you to talk and get to know each other works best for me.

-I'm old fashioned too and I live in the Bible Belt, most men do open doors for me when we go out either in groups or solo. My BF is very chilvarous and he's a Yankee!! :p

-I'm from the old school, so I would never ask a guy out on a date. But I understand it's acceptable now a days.

-I notice texting seems to be the norm in relationships. I prefer to talk on the phone rather than texting.

-I'm not a fan of online dating, I prefer to meet folks the old fashion way....just my preference.

Good of luck and happy dating!!
 
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Faith-n-Christ

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Thank yall,

I also do not care for all the texting. I prefer looking into their eyes, or hearing their voice. As far as phones. If I am with someone, I give them my full attention. Phones off at my dinner table. I grew up w/o cell phones. I am not attached to mine.
Personal touches seemed to have gone out the window. All these texting and emails and social media. Little human interaction. LOL I miss getting a card in the mail. I was never big on flowers. They wither and die. I respect a persons attention and time. We called that respect, or common decency.
I am not sure about all this online dating stuff. A person can hide behind empty words, being someone they are not. I am not going to try to go out of my way to find "him" If it is right the Lord will cross our paths. I have just seen so much change around me, wasn't sure if dating has changed too. Guess it kinda depends on our age.
 
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Lynx

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Faith-n-Christ said:
I have just seen so much change around me, wasn't sure if dating has changed too. Guess it kinda depends on our age.
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*Lynx bops Faith_in_Christ on the head with his walker before shuffling off to yell at the kids playing on his front yard. :p



In all seriousness, it probably does depend on age. A friend of mine is a teenager and he broke up with his girlfriend via text message. Seemed a bit cowardly to me - especially as I also know the girl and she is not one who is given to biting people's heads off.
 
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Electronic dating seems to be more common as of late, at least when first starting something new.

Here's a nice site to give you some ideas on this.
Over 130 Things to Do Together Online & in Real Time! - LDR Magazine

One of my favorites is Wavelength.fm where you can share and listen to music together in real time while chatting.

There's a YouTube room here on CC which does the same thing.

Oh, and it's easier to stalk a person now than 15 years ago. ♥

Good luck!
 
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BurlyCarl

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Faith-n-Christ said:
Thank yall,

I also do not care for all the texting. I prefer looking into their eyes, or hearing their voice. As far as phones. If I am with someone, I give them my full attention. Phones off at my dinner table. I grew up w/o cell phones. I am not attached to mine.
Personal touches seemed to have gone out the window. All these texting and emails and social media. Little human interaction. LOL I miss getting a card in the mail. I was never big on flowers. They wither and die. I respect a persons attention and time. We called that respect, or common decency.
I am not sure about all this online dating stuff. A person can hide behind empty words, being someone they are not. I am not going to try to go out of my way to find "him" If it is right the Lord will cross our paths. I have just seen so much change around me, wasn't sure if dating has changed too. Guess it kinda depends on our age.
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You are right your phone or computer should be only used for setting up a date. Not spending hours talking about yourself and herself. My logic is that if you do this. Then when you have talked about everything on social media, texting, emails. When when you actually get together. You will have nothing to talk about.

"You can not have a relationship with your electronic devices"

Online dating is not bad. Prepare yourself for what I call the 70%/30% Ratio. What I mean by this ratio is that about 70% of the people you will meet are telling the truth. While the other 30% are not who they claim they are. I currently use one of the Christian dating sites. I have met a few women who are not Christian at all. Just be aware. It comes with the territory. Don't spend a lot of time here chatting as you will give up all of who you are and when you meet. You will have nothing to talk about. Same with social media, text and emails. Sure someone can hide who they are. However thats why we date. To see who we are truly compatible with and not.

Still I feel in person interaction and meeting someone at singles group at church, though friends, or even the occasional meeting someone while you are out is a decent way to meet someone. Yes I agree depending on the age level its gonna vary in advice.
 
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Faith-n-Christ

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Lynx said:
*Lynx bops Faith_in_Christ on the head with his walker before shuffling off to yell at the kids playing on his front yard. :p



In all seriousness, it probably does depend on age. A friend of mine is a teenager and he broke up with his girlfriend via text message. Seemed a bit cowardly to me - especially as I also know the girl and she is not one who is given to biting people's heads off.
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HaHa Lynx, You better shuffle fast. Faith-n-Christ bops back :)

That is sad how that young man did that. Lack of a back bone and or compassion to me. I get how some can't do conflict. But man, should have had the heart to tell her himself. My heart goes out to the young lady. I really don't get this world. Too many have a fake idea of what love is. Both men and women. Porn, TV, romance books, all false and fake love. Rather sad really. The devil found a good weapon.
 
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