Dating in todays age

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I have not dated in over 15 yrs. I am curious what dating is like today.

What do folks do on dates?

I am kinda old fashioned aswell as a southerner.
Do men still open doors for ladies?

I have seen our young folks and manners seem to be dead.
Is it still the same with dating?
or is chivalry dead?

Do women ask guys out now-a-days?

what are the new traditional norms?

When I last dated we, did not have text, online dating, or FB, and my mobile was in a vehicle. Pagers was the norm. So I am a bit out of date.
 

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wots a date
 

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And while manners seem to be dead in the general populace, I have observed the kids at church still have basic courtesy. Some folks at least are raising their kids right.
 
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And while manners seem to be dead in the general populace, I have observed the kids at church still have basic courtesy. Some folks at least are raising their kids right.
Thanks Lynx, I know there are still some. Mine are some of them. When moving here my children receive the most respectful awards their first month in the schools. Sadly they are the minority. I have also seen children at church w/ mouths worse than a drunk sailor.

I hear you on, whats a date. Not sure myself anymore. That's why I am asking. :)
 

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Actually I stole wisebeardman's line. He always comes in to threads like this and says "wots a date" so I wanted to beat him to it this time.

Though I also could legitimately use the line. Never been on a date in my life - not from an active aversion to dating, just from a lack of trying.
 
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Actually I stole wisebeardman's line. He always comes in to threads like this and says "wots a date" so I wanted to beat him to it this time.

Though I also could legitimately use the line. Never been on a date in my life - not from an active aversion to dating, just from a lack of trying.
I have seen where you have posted you have not been on a date. No worries, None of my business. Glad you had the chance to use the line. I have seen it before, just couldn't remember who posted it.

Kinda wondering if I even want to date. heard all the horror stories, and well seen alot of hurt in the family forum. kinda depressing.
 

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I think that it's similar to a fig.
Actually I think a date has something to do with a calendar.

At work we have to put expiration stickers on everything edible. One of my favorite lines: "Did you date those bun racks?" "I'm not gonna date them, I only just met them!"



Okay, that's enough of me derailing Faith-n-Christ's thread.

Faith-n-Christ please remember what you see in the forum is a collation of the worst-of. If people have a mediocre time they don't bother talking about it. Even if they have a good time they don't usually mention it on the forum, unless it was a GREAT time, like "he proposed to me!" or "she said yes!" But bad experiences, we all want to go to the nearest venting outlet and complain for a while. ;) Reading the forum is a good way to get a bad impression.
 
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Actually I think a date has something to do with a calendar.

At work we have to put expiration stickers on everything edible. One of my favorite lines: "Did you date those bun racks?" "I'm not gonna date them, I only just met them!"



Okay, that's enough of me derailing Faith-n-Christ's thread.

Faith-n-Christ please remember what you see in the forum is a collation of the worst-of. If people have a mediocre time they don't bother talking about it. Even if they have a good time they don't usually mention it on the forum, unless it was a GREAT time, like "he proposed to me!" or "she said yes!" But bad experiences, we all want to go to the nearest venting outlet and complain for a while. ;) Reading the forum is a good way to get a bad impression.
Dude you're killing it with the sarcasm! Gave me some good laughs. Date burn racks lol
 
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:eek: Dating the buns LOL,

yeah I thought the family forum would be about family and children. It is more about separation, divorce, cheating or bad things w/ a spouse. Shows how little I know about all this online stuff.
 

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:eek: Dating the buns LOL,

yeah I thought the family forum would be about family and children. It is more about separation, divorce, cheating or bad things w/ a spouse. Shows how little I know about all this online stuff.
You know quite a bit about this online stuff.
 

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It's not this online stuff in particular, it's people in general. Humans default to complaining about what they don't like.

Sit around in the local diner in the morning, eavesdrop on that one table full of guys drinking coffee and talking all the time. Most of what they talk about is complaining.
 
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I am confused, by that statement. All I know about this online stuff, I have learned in the last few months. What I have learned on here I have done so by asking. I still dont know how to work many functions on here, like posting a photo.
 
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It's not this online stuff in particular, it's people in general. Humans default to complaining about what they don't like.

Sit around in the local diner in the morning, eavesdrop on that one table full of guys drinking coffee and talking all the time. Most of what they talk about is complaining.
dont guess I have paid much attention. I hear enough of that at work. A hospital. Stressful environment.

question why when I type in here alot of times my wording will move up a line?
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Actually I stole wisebeardman's line. He always comes in to threads like this and says "wots a date" so I wanted to beat him to it this time.

Though I also could legitimately use the line. Never been on a date in my life - not from an active aversion to dating, just from a lack of trying.
Wow! Same here, never been on a legitimate date in my life either. Cool to find another person with the same! I always thought I was the anomaly lol :p.
 

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I should mention that you don't really want to judge your normallacy by me. I'm not normal myself.
 

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Recently I went on my first date in over twenty years. Sadly, the gal and I are not a good match, but I had a good time, and I think she enjoyed it too.

How to date? I'm not sure that the process has really changed all that much; just the technology. Assuming that you have made a connection (at church, or online, or somewhere), you encourage the man to pursue you; let him ask you. As long as the plans are acceptable, go with an open mind and a guarded heart. Look for the little things that are important to you, such as basic manners and gentlemanly behaviour. Encourage what's good, be honest and straightforward about anything which isn't. Dating is as much learning about yourself as finding a partner. Keep your values, and have fun!
 

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Men still open doors for ladies, at least I do. Before I physically met my wife we had exchanged many letters (snail mail) and talked on the phone everyday for a couple months. During the letters and phone calls we discussed our past lives and mistakes and sins. There were really no surprises as we knew each other quite well before our actual first time seeing each other.
 
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What do folks do on dates?
I don't know what other folks do, but I'd like to do something inexpensive, interesting and fun on a date. Maybe go to an art gallery or science museum... or an outdoor concert or festival... maybe meet at a bookstore/café... or play Frisbee golf or miniature golf.... or we can have a picnic in the public park.... Ya know, meet someplace where we can just relax, dress casually & comfortably, and just have an easy time getting to know each other. And if it ends up we only click as friends, that's way cool, too. Fun friends are awesome! :)