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I recently made new friends with a new employee. He is a younger guy. He was attending a local church. He has been struggling with dating. I have been coaching him on where he is messing up and doing what I can. After months of giving him advice. I asked what was he doin? He mentioned that the girls he was trying to date. Were telling each other rumors about him that were not true. Flocking together and throwing dirt on his reputation. I have asked him is he being rude or stalkerish. He said no. Which he is because he is buying complete strangers flowers. Its a nice gesture but its creepy at the same time. I told him to knock it off.
He explained that just because he asked a couple of people out at church. They are spreading rumors about him. Sayin "I love how church girls claim they are all holy holy holy. Then talk about me. Tell me straight at church that I am a fake and flirt". I asked him are you flirting or actually taking action? Are you thinking about it or are you actually doing something?
So here it is months down the road. With two more failed attempts and me telling him that he needs to work on presenting himself as more of a catch. Getting career in line, working out, stop worrying about locking someone down immediately. Love in such a way that the other person feels free. Love should flow and not be forced or restricting. Which he is doing all of this. I believe he is not even getting to know them. He is only thinking about it and not taking actions.
I asked him the other day. Do you love yourself? Uhhh No. I said well you need to do that first. How can you expect to love someone else or expect them to take the reigns. Its not on them to do it! Its on you to love you first. When a man is in his natural masculine state, successful, happy with a smile on his face. You present yourself more attractive to someone. I even criticized him on he never smiles and hangs his head. A good friend will be honest. I told him his presentation, goals as a man is completely a turn off and looking mad and sad is not gonna attract anyone.
So yesterday... He comes in. He said he had, had enough. He quit his church because of his failed attempts with and the gossip at his church. The girls calling him out. So I said look, you can come to my church. I gave him an invitation card for my church. I told him that if he comes its not for girls its for God. So I handed it over.
Out of all of this and actually praying for the poor guy. He is nice but needs a lot of work. Needs more exposure. Rookie.
I was thinking after reading bible study.
When is it OK for women to spread rumors about a guy that are not true within the Church? I understand that you can not make someone like you. But when is it ok in a manner of Christian stance to throw stones in a glass house? Push someone down? When he said this I got the thought of people who do this are hypocrites. And now the guy has left his church and they are chasing him on Facebook now. Come back and we love you.... After busting up a glass house.
Im sorry I would leave too.
When did this become ok to treat people like this? Its bullying and not every Christian like.
He explained that just because he asked a couple of people out at church. They are spreading rumors about him. Sayin "I love how church girls claim they are all holy holy holy. Then talk about me. Tell me straight at church that I am a fake and flirt". I asked him are you flirting or actually taking action? Are you thinking about it or are you actually doing something?
So here it is months down the road. With two more failed attempts and me telling him that he needs to work on presenting himself as more of a catch. Getting career in line, working out, stop worrying about locking someone down immediately. Love in such a way that the other person feels free. Love should flow and not be forced or restricting. Which he is doing all of this. I believe he is not even getting to know them. He is only thinking about it and not taking actions.
I asked him the other day. Do you love yourself? Uhhh No. I said well you need to do that first. How can you expect to love someone else or expect them to take the reigns. Its not on them to do it! Its on you to love you first. When a man is in his natural masculine state, successful, happy with a smile on his face. You present yourself more attractive to someone. I even criticized him on he never smiles and hangs his head. A good friend will be honest. I told him his presentation, goals as a man is completely a turn off and looking mad and sad is not gonna attract anyone.
So yesterday... He comes in. He said he had, had enough. He quit his church because of his failed attempts with and the gossip at his church. The girls calling him out. So I said look, you can come to my church. I gave him an invitation card for my church. I told him that if he comes its not for girls its for God. So I handed it over.
Out of all of this and actually praying for the poor guy. He is nice but needs a lot of work. Needs more exposure. Rookie.
I was thinking after reading bible study.
When is it OK for women to spread rumors about a guy that are not true within the Church? I understand that you can not make someone like you. But when is it ok in a manner of Christian stance to throw stones in a glass house? Push someone down? When he said this I got the thought of people who do this are hypocrites. And now the guy has left his church and they are chasing him on Facebook now. Come back and we love you.... After busting up a glass house.
Im sorry I would leave too.
When did this become ok to treat people like this? Its bullying and not every Christian like.
