How do I find if she has a boyfriend?

[Bangoo]

Hey guys
Can you help me how to see if she has a boyfriend? Ok, hold on a second, I know you have already the answers and so do I but ... This is a special case and could you please give some attention to it?
So, the girl has a FB account but she doesn't use it as I do, meaning she has no profile photo, only just a cover photo and a few info. Evermore she has no photos uploaded, just only a few, and these ones just by her sister.
I know maybe it's a bit weird for you, but not for me because she isn't the type of social media addicted.
Anyway, this gives me troubles because I can't figure out if she has or not a boyfriend and I don't know how to proceed.
She has a sister and I could try to contact her but I'm afraid and I don't know if she can keep her mouth closed and trust her.
I don't have her number because she changed it some time ago. Worse, we are not from the same church and to become worser I'm a student that studies abroad in Scotland and she lives somewhere in my hometown. Now, I myself am back home and try to figure out a way to contact her and ask her out but I have no options.
I want to ask you guys, would it be wrong to talk to her sister and see if I can find out if she has or not a bf am maybe if I can get her number?
Also, what if I talk directly to her, try to write her on Messenger and see if she answer or not?I thought that it could be an option firstly to talk normaly to her wereupon ask directly "Do you you have a bf". Is she says no, I can proceed further, but if it's a Yes I could move away, and if she asks why I could tell just that there was a guy interested in her but given the situation not anymore and protect his (my) id.

Note: I've tried to talk with some of her girlfiends that I knew but they didn't know nothing about her, mainly because they were also doing studies far from home and had no connection anymore with the girl I'm interested in.
Any advice? Thank You

 

[DaveTheRave]

I would just ask her directly if I were you. If she says she does have a bf, no harm done by asking.
Good Luck,
Dave

 

[Ugly]

Quit trying to be sneaky. If she already knows who you are, simply ask her out. If she has a bf she'll tell you no. All of this sneaking behind her back and going to her friends makes you look really bad. And I bet if she were to find out you would Definitely get a no. And if she does have a bf I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate how you're acting either.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Like Ugly said, stop trying to be sneaky about finding out if she has a boyfriend or not. Grow some courage and ask her directly. Girls don't like sneaky guys, they like guys who are honest. If I were this girl, and you went to my friends and family asking them stuff about me, I'd think you were a creepy stalker. :/ So quit creeping on her. If you can't be honest and go to her directly, then you probably should leave her alone.

 

[Nautilus]

wow...just ask. i swear its like people have lost all social skills thanks to new technology.

 

[Willie-T]

wow...just ask. i swear its like people have lost all social skills thanks to new technology.

AMEN to that! What foolishness.... feeling you don't know how to ask a simple question.

 

[Lynx]

But what if she says no? What if she has a boyfriend and the situation turns really awkward?

Has everybody forgotten how it felt to be young, uncertain and smitten? Man, I've never been on a date before and even I can sympathize with the OP.


Bangoo: They are right, the best way is to just ask her. I know it seems a perilous thing, but the alternatives really are all worse. Either ask her or forget about her. But I do know how you feel bro. Try to take the advice of the other people who have posted in this thread, however blunt they may have been. They may not be the most tactful or empathic but their advice was correct.

 

[CatHerder]

"I have no idea if you are seeing anyone, but if not, I'd love to take you to _________"

 

[Mo0448]

I feel being direct can be good...or downright awkward if you don't know them very well or if you barely talk to them...ultimately though if you did have a friendship with the gal...and you're looking to get to the convo without being so direct...then something as simple as asking or suggesting you guys should catch up and grab lunch is open and friendly enough where you could get to the subject in a less direct way... good luck fella

 

[Lynx]

"I have no idea if you are seeing anyone, but if not, I'd love to take you to _________"

Yeah, something like this.

 

[Nautilus]

But what if she says no? What if she has a boyfriend and the situation turns really awkward?

Has everybody forgotten how it felt to be young, uncertain and smitten? Man, I've never been on a date before and even I can sympathize with the OP.


Bangoo: They are right, the best way is to just ask her. I know it seems a perilous thing, but the alternatives really are all worse. Either ask her or forget about her. But I do know how you feel bro. Try to take the advice of the other people who have posted in this thread, however blunt they may have been. They may not be the most tactful or empathic but their advice was correct.

Young he is 20 years old, thats an adult. I would expect this out of a middle schooler. But he needs to man up.

 

[Lynx]

One can be 50 and still be young in some aspects.

But I suppose it does not matter anymore because he seems to have been scared off by the general callousness here.