Does he like me or is he just being a gentleman?

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melita916

melita916

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umm. can we got back to the OP?
 
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Nice_Lady said:
Ok let me start again - when was the last time u saw or even heard of an muslim woman (with only her eyes uncovered) to work?
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A good Muslim woman isn't even allowed to work, at least back in their homeland. But what the hooly doolies does any of this have to do with anything?
 
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If a wife is also working then yes she needs to pay her fair share.

There is absolutely no reason that the husband should have to put his earnings towards the bills but the wife should keep all her earnings to herself. There is nothing right or just about that.
 
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Sirk said:
Your expectations of others will kill every relationship you ever enter into.
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Yes if the person refuse to improve himself. We need to grow spiritually daily. Remember Paul? "I beat my body into submission". I will not compromise.
 
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Nice_Lady said:
Not true. If i wanted to watch them suffer i would go into the army and shout commands at them all ;)
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Ok....

Nice_Lady, Sirk and Tintin...

What is with this arguing back and forth?

Why must this happen on any thread?
 
melita916

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my fiance and i take turns paying for meals. before we became an official couple, he paid, but we always went to places that weren't expensive.
 
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spunkycat08 said:
Ok....

Nice_Lady, Sirk and Tintin...

What is with this arguing back and forth?

Why must this happen on any thread?
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Because the tin man and I like to point out stinking thinking and help people grow.
 
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Nice_Lady said:
Yes if the person refuse to improve himself. We need to grow spiritually daily. Remember Paul? "I beat my body into submission". I will not compromise.
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Well maybe you should go to a bakery and let the bake you the perfect person as no one else is perfect and has flaws and as far as I know Men are the leading role and the head of the wife and not the wife of the man.. Last tie that was in the bible was Jezebel and Ahab and we see how that ended. Our job is to be a helper..not a general or commander
 
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Tintin said:
A good Muslim woman isn't even allowed to work, at least back in their homeland. But what the hooly doolies does any of this have to do with anything?
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"She isnt allowed" but i m forced to work so that we share responcibilities? It will be easier for me if i live in Dubai then.
 
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Nice_Lady said:
Yes if the person refuse to improve himself. We need to grow spiritually daily. Remember Paul? "I beat my body into submission". I will not compromise.
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Then your relationships will fail unless you find someone who prefers to live under the emotional tyranny of an emotional tyrant.
 
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Sirk said:
Because the tin man and I like to point out stinking thinking and help people grow.
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Why can't this be done with a personal message to the particular OP instead of putting it on a message board for everyone to see?

Do you like to hear someone argue about something out-loud when you are at the grocery store, at a restaurant, and so on?
 
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Why can't this be done with a personal message to the particular OP instead of putting it on a message board for everyone to see?

Do you like to hear someone argue about something out-loud when you are at the grocery store, at a restaurant, and so on?
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Do you think I am yelling? I have an even keel tone in my voice. Does conflict make your spirit restless and anxious?
 
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spunkycat08 said:
Why can't this be done with a personal message to the particular OP instead of putting it on a message board for everyone to see?

Do you like to hear someone argue about something out-loud when you are at the grocery store, at a restaurant, and so on?
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U r right. I m sorry.
 
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"She isnt allowed" but i m forced to work so that we share responcibilities? It will be easier for me if i live in Dubai then.
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Be careful what you wish for. Maybe life as a good Muslim woman is a picnic. But it's a picnic that often involves torture, beatings, rape and sometimes death.
 
Sirk

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A lot of people don't see how much the expectations they place upon a potential mate or a current one have on the relationship and the success of it. Healthy people have healthy boundaries and expectations and are able to express them without judgement or condemnation on the other person. Unhealthy people try to mold other people into their image with manipulation and an unnatural desire to control the actions and feelings of another sovereign human being. They steal, pillage and destroy another persons soul because theirs is in shambles. Avoid those type of people at all costs.
 
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And if two people don't honestly have similar interests and habits and aren't just faking or wishing that they like all the same things the other person does because they are "in love" and in the entry phase of a relationship...it probably isn't going to work out too well for them.
 
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Do you take them out to dinners one on one and pay for their food a lot?
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This is why I do not like mixed signals.

I would ask him exactly what his intentions are.

I would also explain to him how I feel about the entire situation.

I would tell him that he needs to figure out exactly what he wants, and when he is done, to then tell me what that answer is.

Once all of that happens, you can decide what you want to do regarding everything.
 
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This is why I do not like mixed signals.

I would ask him exactly what his intentions are.

I would also explain to him how I feel about the entire situation.

I would tell him that he needs to figure out exactly what he wants, and when he is done, to then tell me what that answer is.

Once all of that happens, you can decide what you want to do regarding everything.
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I want an answer and I want it now. Seems a little controlling. He might be feeling you out to see what your character consists of. Why not just let time reveal the answer?
 
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Sirk said:
I want an answer and I want it now. Seems a little controlling. He might be feeling you out to see what your character consists of. Why not just let time reveal the answer?
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Giving mixed signals is not fair to anyone no matter what your gender is.
 
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Nice_Lady

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Sirk said:
I want an answer and I want it now. Seems a little controlling. He might be feeling you out to see what your character consists of. Why not just let time reveal the answer?
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Cant believe i m saying this but i agree with u. Although that its nice to talk face to face and even eat sth tasty together, i prefer to know the person better by chating online. In both cases it requires time..
 
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