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  • I've conquered anger like a boss

    4 11.76%
  • I hardly ever get angry about anything

    9 26.47%
  • I get angry only once or twice a WEEK

    3 8.82%
  • I get angry about once or twice a DAY

    6 17.65%
  • I get angry several times a day

    3 8.82%
  • I'm always angry about something

    4 11.76%
  • Other (explain in thread)

    7 20.59%
  • You need to get a life, zero!

    1 2.94%
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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    My issues are more with sadness rather than anger.

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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    I never get angry. That is because I EAT it into submission.

    To be honest, I do get annoyed and angry several times a day. It is usually for good reason - incompetent workers, my own mistakes, etc. Here are two tips that I follow to avoid a rash action whenever I'm angry -
    1. I think of the consequences of my action. What happens if I was angry for the right reason? What happens if I was angry for the wrong reason? Also, what is the cost I pay for my action? I also try to put myself in the shoes of the person I am angry at and try to understand why they did that.

    2. If I am typing an email out of anger, I usually save it in drafts. I divert my attention to something else until my anger subsides. Then I treat the email again. Many times I have simply deleted those drafts.
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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    Quote Originally Posted by SkittlePumpkin View Post
    My issues are more with sadness rather than anger.

    Precisely. There are so many things in the world that are hurting others it's really saddening, or if you struggle with your own personal tragedy in life, it can be very challenging. One of the things that in find helps brighten my day is i remember every one of God's blessings, everything i have to be grateful for, makes me smile immediately.

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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    Quote Originally Posted by Oncefallen View Post
    If a garbage truck woke me up I'd be.........................late for work.



    Nope.

    Typically anger is a secondary emotion, it is a response to a primary emotion. Frustration is typically considered to be a primary emotion. Anger would be a possible response (secondary emotion) to frustration (primary emotion).
    Frustration is actually more closely related to anger than it is a primary emotion. Primary emotions are, rejected, unloved, insignificant. etc. Anger can be useful when it is used to self realize that a boundary has been crossed or a core value violated.
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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    Quote Originally Posted by SkittlePumpkin View Post
    My issues are more with sadness rather than anger.
    I deal with that sometimes. Grief. I give it to Jesus over and over.

    Sometimes I just cry. rain.jpg

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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    Quote Originally Posted by zeroturbulence View Post
    Has anyone here conquered anger, or at least found a way to lessen it when it rears its ugly head??

    If you have any tips or stories about dealing with anger, please share them here..

    and don't forget to vote..
    I have sort of a "let the chips fall where they may" mentality so i don't get angry too often.

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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    Quote Originally Posted by zeroturbulence View Post
    Has anyone here conquered anger, or at least found a way to lessen it when it rears its ugly head??

    If you have any tips or stories about dealing with anger, please share them here..

    and don't forget to vote..
    How can anyone stop themselves from getting angry ????

    One can stop themselves openly expressing anger if they have a good level of self control..

    But i cannot see how anyone can stop themselves from feeling anger...
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    Anger is not the problem- it is the way we express it that is the problem. The Bible says "Be ye angry and sin not." And "Let not the sun go down on your anger." We sin when we lash out in anger against others. I still have this problem, but have been praying for God to help me.
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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    What? Anger, you say?

    Nah, never really got furious about anything for quite a long time. I am a very chill person.

    I have my father's temper. I get angry less than once in a blue moon but you REALLY don't want to see me when I am mad.
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    A person who never gets angry, probably doesn't care about anything.. God gets angry, Jesus got angry, nothing wrong with anger as long as we control it. Anger can be a positive emotion if we use it correctly.. If we never get angry, upset, or concerned, we'd just walk around all day with a stupid smile on our face.. jmo
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    I recently found myself looking up the characteristics of passive aggressive people for I am dealing with possibly the two most spot on people that suffer from this.. I have to say that I was very validated when it said that outbursts are natural and passive aggressiveness is not (nutshell).... anyway I voted "like a boss" because I have come so far and done so well with the anger outbursts and bagging, etc, and frustration, that I think I am now the most normal of normal... I am not saying that I do not passionately stress my point when needed (which is more times than not haha) but that the beast it chained... tahehehe.

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    Patient endurance is the perfect work.

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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    Quote Originally Posted by zeroturbulence View Post
    Has anyone here conquered anger, or at least found a way to lessen it when it rears its ugly head??

    If you have any tips or stories about dealing with anger, please share them here..

    and don't forget to vote..
    Yes, I have. And I taught classes in this for decades.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Galatea View Post
    Anger is not the problem- it is the way we express it that is the problem. The Bible says "Be ye angry and sin not." And "Let not the sun go down on your anger." We sin when we lash out in anger against others. I still have this problem, but have been praying for God to help me.
    And I might take it a bit farther by saying it is more the way we understand the circumstances or situations we perceive to be the source of our anger.
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    Oh boy, lol me 10-15 years ago, would clear a room with my short temper (or Donald Duck would say = it's not a bad temper, it's a quick reaction to BS! Haha something I've seen on FB)

    i would have to say, it's all God in His soothing water consently washing over me! Every thing from anger to lust ! My sobriety and walk have been in and out so many times since 2003, I wonder how I changed!The Son has shine on me and the Holy Ninga (Spirit) was watered and the Father has pruned me went I wasn't looking/paying attention. His Word says He will finish what He started and for that I am at awe and Thank Him with tears in my eyes.
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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    I have high tolerance so I seldom get angry because it takes a lot of energy to be angry. But sometimes I am surprised with myself (i blame it on hormones) when I get angry at people who act like jerks specially those who refuse to apologize when they know they have to and instead justify their bad behavior. We need to teach people how to treat us so it's ok to be angry to let people know its not right to cross our boundaries.
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    I rarely get angry anymore. For many reasons.
    Raising 10 and 8 year girls are one of them.
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    Default Re: Have you conquered anger? Or tried to beat it into submission?

    Quote Originally Posted by zeroturbulence View Post
    Has anyone here conquered anger, or at least found a way to lessen it when it rears its ugly head??

    If you have any tips or stories about dealing with anger, please share them here..

    and don't forget to vote..
    During my separation and subsequent divorce I had extreme emotions. Anger being one of the more evident ones. I hated how I felt most of the time. I hated feeling angry, hurt, betrayed, abandoned, unloved. The way my then husband looked at me was less than loving. I saw seething hate in his eyes towards me. I was so angry for a long time. In addition, I still had to take care of our children, work a full-time job, attend church and by the end of the day I would collapse into a heaping pile of snot & tears (I cried THAT hard). Eventually, my situation continued to worsen because of things he kept doing or flaunting in my face. I got to a point where I gave up. But not in the way you would think.

    I gave up having expectations that because I served God things had to fall into place. I realized that I would serve Him either way. Good or bad. I gave up expecting respect from a person who obviously had such disdain for me. I gave up waiting for a grand moment that my heart would be healed in one fell swoop. I gave up thinking that the other woman would have enough sense to give me space and time to process things. I gave up feeling like I couldn't support my kids or raise them on my own.

    I gave up but not the way the world thinks that giving up means. I gave it all to God. It took time. Everyday. Deliberately. Conversations on the bathrom floor with unintelligible sobbing telling God I give up. Kneeled beside my bed 5 times a night because the pain and anger was so deep, I gave up. Screaming my prayers to God that I couldn't take the pain and pressure, I gave up. Sobbing and praying with my daughter while she sobbed too, trying to explain what was happening, I gave up. I chose to daily give up anger. And I would give it to God in small bits and pieces.

    The process broke me. But sometimes broken is a good thing. Brokenness simply means that you are in need of repair and when our creator is invited into our anger, into our struggles, into our brokenness, He begins to repair and make new what was in such need of a caring and skilled hand. Through all of this I was changed. I still have daily struggles I deal with. I still have conflicts in my life that arise but now the circumstances don't dictate my feelings because I recognize I have a choice. Stay angry or take my anger to the one who can help transform it into fuel that will draw me closer to Him.

    Is it easy? No. Never will be. The Christian walk was never meant to be easy. If anyone told you so, they lied. It's tough but so worth it.
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