How to be beautiful and attractive in God's eyes

[Spiritualpixie]

1Peter 3:3-4
Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty that depends on fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should be known for the BEAUTY that comes from WITHIN, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

....... the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God...... To GOD.

Not man.

Only to God is it precious. So Says the WORD.

When we are quiet and gentle in Spirit, we who are created in His Image, glorify Him,become more like His Image,through Christ.

I have no idea why people take this verse and think it's all about how to be beautiful in MAN'S EYES.

God gave us the ability to adorn ourselves with anything we wish, but unfortunately, this world is obsessed with vanity... I believe that what the whole verse is saying is, don't make what you look like or how others perceive you a priority in our lives.

Because, God DOES NOT CARE WHAT WE WEAR OR WHAT WE LOOK LIKE.

He only cares about who we are from within.

As for clothes, make up, etcetc?

It's beautiful to take care of your body and the way you look, behave and treat others.

Vanity is UGLY, and a vain person is only concerned about the way they look and what other people think of what they look like ......shallow People, lovers of themselves....

God bless you all who read this ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

 

[dalconn]

...well said

 

[Magenta]

Only to God is it precious. So Says the WORD.

It says it is precious to God, not to God only. People do value such things also

 

[Spiritualpixie]

Yes, some people do appreciate a gentle and quiet spirit.

But let's stay with what the BIBLE says ok?

It is precious to God. Man is not God.

 

[Lenardzw]

I couldn't agree with you more. Thanks for sharing this. It's good to get our focus adjusted from time to time so we are not looking at our lives and our environment through the wrong lens. God bless!

 

[zeroturbulence]

I don't care. I want to look hot! I'm tired of being overweight and unattractive. I have plenty of inner beauty, but it's not getting me anywhere... except the friend zone.

 

[Spiritualpixie]

I don't care. I want to look hot! I'm tired of being overweight and unattractive. I have plenty of inner beauty, but it's not getting me anywhere... except the friend zone.

I can't figure out if you're joking or being serious... But, just in case you are being serious...

1: quit feeling sorry for yourself and be grateful that you have food to eat

2: invite a homeless person to eat 50% of what you eat

3: either go on a diet or accept your weight

4: to look hot, one must believe they are

5: most importantly of all...thank God for you.

And don't forget to s m i l e.... You Never know if someone is watching you and fall in love with your smile
And hot too ??????

 

[Spiritualpixie]

I couldn't agree with you more. Thanks for sharing this. It's good to get our focus adjusted from time to time so we are not looking at our lives and our environment through the wrong lens. God bless!

Thanks for your comment

There's so much pressure in the world to look beautiful.......Everyone can look fantastic, it's just a matter of knowing WHAT looks good on you....Some might say but aren't you being shallow now?... My Answer is, when you decorate and renovate your house, don't you do exactly what I just suggested?

 

[Spiritualpixie]

I couldn't agree with you more. Thanks for sharing this. It's good to get our focus adjusted from time to time so we are not looking at our lives and our environment through the wrong lens. God bless!

Thanks for your comment

There's so much pressure in the world to look 'beautiful' .......I Absolutely hate the fashion industry, telling people dictating to people what they should wear each season, how thin, tall, etc we should be...... Everyone can look fantastic, it's just a matter of knowing WHAT looks good on you....Some might say but aren't you being shallow now?... My Answer is, when you decorate and renovate your house, don't you do exactly what I just suggested ? Hehe........But Seriously though.... Without God's spirit within us, we would /will never be beautiful......Love is Always Beautiful.

 

[PinkDiamond]

I don't care. I want to look hot! I'm tired of being overweight and unattractive. I have plenty of inner beauty, but it's not getting me anywhere... except the friend zone.

I agree with your sentiment. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be physically attractive and fit. Inner beauty and outward attractiveness are not mutually exclusive. I might be at odds with the majority in my opinion, but we do have to focus some of our attention on our personal appearance if we are going to be healthy and attractive. Fitness takes a lot of discipline and hard work. It's impossible to achieve that if you don't have a solid plan or focus. Having a good plan is half the battle We should try to be the best version of ourself that we can be. People do usually feel happier when they are healthier and feel more confidence in their appearance. It's only wrong or vanity if we are so focused on our appearance that we neglect our spiritual life or if we value others based solely on outward appearance

 

[Spiritualpixie]

I agree with your sentiment. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be physically attractive and fit. Inner beauty and outward attractiveness are not mutually exclusive. I might be at odds with the majority in my opinion, but we do have to focus some of our attention on our personal appearance if we are going to be healthy and attractive. Fitness takes a lot of discipline and hard work. It's impossible to achieve that if you don't have a solid plan or focus. Having a good plan is half the battle We should try to be the best version of ourself that we can be. People do usually feel happier when they are healthier and feel more confidence in their appearance. It's only wrong or vanity if we are so focused on our appearance that we neglect our spiritual life or if we value others based solely on outward appearance

Yup and like I wrote in my main post "It's beautiful to take care of your body and the way you look, behave and treat others. *

However.... Seek ye first the kingdom of God.... All else follows after that .. Right?

 

[zeroturbulence]

I was actually serious. I don't know if any of you have ever tried to lose a significant amount of weight, but it is virtually impossible and I know a lot more about fitness and nutrition than the average person. I used to be very fit and healthy, but then I fell into a deep depression that lasted a couple years and gained a lot of weight. I've been trying to lose it for years now and I'd lose some, then gain it back, lose some then gain it back... Did you know that your body can make new fat cells as you gain weight but never loses fat cells when you lose weight? That's one reason why its easy to gain it back and why maintaining a weight loss is tricky. I'm not trying to be negative. I know one has to "change their lifestyle", "change the way they think about food", but that itself can be very difficult for some, like me. Yes, I post a lot about eating donuts and loving ice cream and stuff but that's just me joking around. I don't really eat that stuff all the time.

Anyway, I just had to speak up because I tried to tell myself for years that its inner beauty that really matters but the scourge of being significantly overweight and out of shape is just way more than people who haven't been there can imagine. When I was fit and healthy, people treated me so much differently. They were friendly, interested in whatever I had to say, never ignored me or treated me rudely... Now it's the complete opposite. People give me the impression that they don't really want to associate with me, when I say things I'm often ignored, people treat me like I don't exist and/or are sometimes rude to me. I feel like I don't even have a chance of attracting someone. When I do try to make a connection, I end up in the friend zone. This is the reality. Sure there are overweight people who have bf's and gf's and get married, and from what I've seen, those folks have great personalities in real life. They are usually easy-going, and charming. I think I am only that way online. It's easy online because you can take all day to come up with a funny, witty response....

One can say that inner beauty is what really matters, and technically it really is more important, but if the outer beauty is not up to par, then I've found that most people won't care how much inner beauty you have (in real life).

 

[Magenta]

Yes, some people do appreciate a gentle and quiet spirit.

But let's stay with what the BIBLE says ok?

It is precious to God. Man is not God.

So far you have only showed that it says it is precious to God, not to God only. You are not God that you can add to the Word, right? Right. Thanks!

 

[zeroturbulence]

Sorry... I didn't mean to bogart the thread.

 

[Spiritualpixie]

I was actually serious. I don't know if any of you have ever tried to lose a significant amount of weight, but it is virtually impossible and I know a lot more about fitness and nutrition than the average person. I used to be very fit and healthy, but then I fell into a deep depression that lasted a couple years and gained a lot of weight. I've been trying to lose it for years now and I'd lose some, then gain it back, lose some then gain it back... Did you know that your body can make new fat cells as you gain weight but never loses fat cells when you lose weight? That's one reason why its easy to gain it back and why maintaining a weight loss is tricky. I'm not trying to be negative. I know one has to "change their lifestyle", "change the way they think about food", but that itself can be very difficult for some, like me. Yes, I post a lot about eating donuts and loving ice cream and stuff but that's just me joking around. I don't really eat that stuff all the time.

Anyway, I just had to speak up because I tried to tell myself for years that its inner beauty that really matters but the scourge of being significantly overweight and out of shape is just way more than people who haven't been there can imagine. When I was fit and healthy, people treated me so much differently. They were friendly, interested in whatever I had to say, never ignored me or treated me rudely... Now it's the complete opposite. People give me the impression that they don't really want to associate with me, when I say things I'm often ignored, people treat me like I don't exist and/or are sometimes rude to me. I feel like I don't even have a chance of attracting someone. When I do try to make a connection, I end up in the friend zone. This is the reality. Sure there are overweight people who have bf's and gf's and get married, and from what I've seen, those folks have great personalities in real life. They are usually easy-going, and charming. I think I am only that way online. It's easy online because you can take all day to come up with a funny, witty response....

One can say that inner beauty is what really matters, and technically it really is more important, but if the outer beauty is not up to par, then I've found that most people won't care how much inner beauty you have (in real life).

Thank you for your lovely reply
Firstly, please accept my apologies for my tongue in cheek reply which can seem to be rude. But yes, I so totally understand what it feels like to feel ugly.
I've always been told that I'm pretty etc.... I Used to hate myself in my younger days. So much so that I self harmed.

Self love is so important and what we think about ourselves, reflects on others in the same measure.
There's a saying in England, " a man is apt to despise in others and very thing he hates about himself"
Jesus said "love your neighbour as yourself"
And His first commandment is, love God with all your heart body mind and soul.
I have found that, the more I concentrate in how I treat others, the less I am concerned in how I look.
Yes, I have been overweight, in in fact I have recently been so.
I took a good look in the mirror and hated what I saw. I saw a fat, ugly, overwight,greedy umpa lumpa lol
I am 4'11 aka 150cm....4 months ago I was a size 12-14,I am now a healthy size 8-10.
I did not ask God to make me lose weight.
I took a boot camp attitude towards myself, I disciplined myself.
I have found cleaning is excellent for loss weight, I sometimes dance when I clean, because I am happy and praising God for the ability to be able to still move physically when so many people cannot use their arms and legs.
I eat very healthy foods but I still 'pig out' every now and then. My motto is = moderation in everything.
When we feel happy inside FIRST, then we are able to outwardly portray it.
For me personally, disciplining myself is so very hard. So, once I had my 'plan' my goal of what I wanted to look like and HOW i was going to achieve it, , I put my plan in the back of my mind and concentrated on God and how I treat others.

Now, when I look at myself I am satisfied.

Ask God to help you to find a motivation in WHY you should lose weight. Then ask yourself WHY you want to lose weight. Make a fun plan. Be kind to yourself.

And have lots of fun doing it.

FUN

 

[Spiritualpixie]

Good grief... Such arrogance and assumptions.

Let me explain in baby English so that this misunderstanding can stop.

... I Was using the word 'only' as in.... "This sentence only says..."

I would never add to God's Word.

Next time I suggest that you pray before you accuse an innocent 'prey'

 

[zeroturbulence]

I don't know what that last post is referring to, but I already know about loving oneself. That was lesson #1 in all the self-help books I've read over the years, and it's something God has tried to tell me to do recently, but I'm just not at the point where I can do that. I have my reasons, just as I have my reasons for not trusting God right now. I know the scriptures, I've given my all in being faithful in the past and that is one reason why I can't trust God now. It's a long story and not something I care to share. I'm not here for help. I was just pointing out that inner beauty isn't the answer to low self-esteem or attracting someone (at least it hasn't been the answer for me). If anyone disagrees with that, then so be it.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I do appreciate you trying to help though. Thank you, Spiritualpixie.

 

[Spiritualpixie]

I do appreciate you trying to help though. Thank you, Spiritualpixie.

You're welcome....Thanks for your honest input....And Not attacking me or trying to find fault. Like some other people do i enjoy a good honest discussion where malice doesn't exist, but unfortunately, some people come into threads looking to find fault so that they can be considered right. Silly people lol..... You Are not one them btw

 

[tourist]

Because, God DOES NOT CARE WHAT WE WEAR OR WHAT WE LOOK LIKE.

He only cares about who we are from within.

I believe that God cares very much about every aspect of our lives including physical appearance. After all, He formed and knitted every person from inside the womb of the mother.