Long Hair and Earrings for guys and girls

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ManiaStar

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I know it's widely acceptable and society "believes" women should have long hair and men should have short hair and same w/ earrings.

I just have a friend the other day tell me he is thinking about getting earrings in both ears and a bull ring for his nose. For me, personally, I can't see him with either however, Some guys can easily pull off the earrings look.

What's your thoughts on guys wearing earrings whether it be 1 or 2 earrings? I remember when I was younger, they said if guys wear only one earring and if it' in their left ear, they're straight, but, if they only wear 1 earring in their right ear, that means they're gay and if they wear them in both ears, they're a punk or they're "normal". I never really paid much attention to those stereotypes growing up and it was the same w/ guys w/ long hair. They said if guys have long hair they're looking for trouble. So, if they can say that about guys w/ long hair and/or w/ earrings, then howcome they never said girls w/ short hair are looking for trouble, etc.?

I know this isn't a huge issue but, am just curious as to your opinions.

For me, if a guy has earrings or long hair, it doesn't matter. In my opinion, it's personal preference and if that's what they like, let them be.

However, guys that choose to wear their pants, half way down their legs, now that's another story. I have never understood why that became a trend or how that can be comfortable to walk in. I know if i forget to wear a belt, and my pants just start to slide down slightly, i'm always pulling them up.
 
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LaurenTM

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I like men to look like men...period

no earrings...and I don't mind longer hair if neat but ponytails down their backs? no thanks

don't like big bushy beards...but I like the 'I forgot to shave look' which my husband wears proudly because he knows I likes it :)

isn't it mostly young guys that wear their pants falling down? and don't talk about the plumber's crack either LOL!

and don't get me started on tats...yuck

yup...I have opinions
 

Huglife

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I like men to have long hair like they did in the 80s:)
I don't like it when they have better hair then me though lol
 
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HisHolly

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My son got both his ears pierced when he was 4or 5. He still loves them and that's been yrs ago.. I think he looks fantastic..

Like you said, some can pull it off and some can't.. whether it's right or not idk.. I suppose if it matters God would tell me.
 

Huglife

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I like men to have long hair like they did in the 80s:)
I don't like it when they have better hair then me though lol

Now, it's just dumb when they think it's cool to walk around with their pants all the way down. They must think that we want to see there fancy underwear
 
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wwjd_kilden

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I think that ultimately it's up to each individual what they wear

I'm not a fan of nose rings or "hundreds" of piercings, but I wouldn't really think anything (neither bad nor good) about it if seeing a guy with an earring or two.
 
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Ugly

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I had long hair as a teen.
Waist length. I tried hang ear piercings but had trouble with them. But a lot of the Christian concerts I went to had people with all kinds of piercings. Long hair. Shaved heads. Mohawks. Dyed in various colors.
Being a Christian teen with long hair was difficult in some ways as there were always times when both Christians and non-Christians rejected me.
I am not a fan of piercings off of the war or too many on the ears. Just a personal preference. That goes for men and women (Hate belly button piercings on women). Also tend to not find short hair or tats on women attractive. Again, just personal preference.
Now im waiting for the Jesus juker to jump in with his condemnations over this whole topic.
 
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I like men to have long hair like they did in the 80s:)
I don't like it when they have better hair then me though lol

Now, it's just dumb when they think it's cool to walk around with their pants all the way down. They must think that we want to see there fancy underwear
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shrimp

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I know I'm not single but I'd like to say: If my husband came home with a piercing, there would be a problem. I can let the hair slide. On the other hand, I love a beard on my man. I think that all men should have beards if they want and long hair. It's all optional, but personally I think piercings on men is weird.
 
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LaurenTM

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I know I'm not single but I'd like to say: If my husband came home with a piercing, there would be a problem. I can let the hair slide. On the other hand, I love a beard on my man. I think that all men should have beards if they want and long hair. It's all optional, but personally I think piercings on men is weird.

haha

if mine came home with any sort of body alteration, I would say 'ok...who are you and what have you done with my husband?'
 
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There's this kind of earrings for men (and some women) that I can't stand looking at. But the best way to describe it is showing you an image of it: It just scares me.

 

Lynx

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There's this kind of earrings for men (and some women) that I can't stand looking at. But the best way to describe it is showing you an image of it: It just scares me.

Guy at work has this. I can't help wishing I could run a trace chain through both holes and steer him like a horse.
 

Lynx

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I personally can't stand my hair past my ears. It itches and gets really hot (sure, call me a hot-head) and is just unpleasant. And my left ear looks like it was pierced - in fact I get asked about it all the time - but it's really a dimple + birth mark. I can prove it too, I can turn it around and show you it doesn't go through to the other side of the ear lobe. But I'm not going to get any piercings because I don't want to wear stuff in my body. I already have enough body to haul around, I don't need MORE to haul around.

But that's just me. Other people are not me and what they do is neither my business nor my problem. If they do something that is wrong they will not be answering to me, nor would I want to be responsible for anybody but myself.

About the hair, I will mention the Bible is very specific about hair length for men and women. But again, what other people do is their business and perhaps their problem.
 

seoulsearch

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It's funny how times have changed.

Back when I was in school, guys were just starting to get earrings, and yeah, the good church folk especially said in a not-so-hushed whisper that any man who got an earring--at all--was someone who liked other men. Now I live in an area where almost everyone has tattoos (including pastors) and what used to be considered "punk" piercings.

I personally think different looks suit different people.

I've always been drawn to alternative, artsy, or "different-looking" people--mostly because I admire people who are willing to be themselves despite all the social flak they get.

I'm really drawn to tattoos and piercings because each one is a story for the wearer to tell. However, I don't have any tats myself and only have the "standard" singular piercing in each ear, but I rarely wear jewelry. Just my own preference. But I love seeing it on other people, both girls and guys. And there are some tattoos and piercings I don't find attractive at all, but the person who has it might have a very meaningful tale behind it.

As for having one's behind and their skivvies fully covered--yes, please, at all times, no matter what gender you are.
 
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LaurenTM

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I'll just mention that my preferences are MY preferences

nothing to do with religion, church or what anyone thinks I should like

and that is what the thread was about? opinions? ;)

that's the outside....don't care how pretty someone is on the outside, if the inside does not match
 

Nautilus

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I had two earrings in each ear for a long time and an industrial bar. No one ever said anything negative about it. I took them out as I got older just out of a lack of desire to keep them.
 

Yeraza_Bats

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I have somewhat long hair, I do so because Ive always had long hair, its comfortable and it makes me feel good, and my face is reeeeaaaalllly round and the long hair helps frame it better, which makes me feel more comfortable about myself.

I try to avoid letting it get too "feminine", though. I keep boyish hair styles, and I usually dont let it get down past my shoulders. If someone doesnt like it then *phbbht* on them : p

As for my opinions on the other gender (this thread is about opinions, right?) Ive actually never been real big on the super long hair thing, I mean Ive never found real long hair to be all that attractive I guess.
I do like short hair on girls, I think it can be a very cute look when pulled off right. It all just depends on how its done.

And piercings are okay if theyre simple, I dont mind earrings if they are small and simple, big hoops are ugh, though : p Nothing dangling. I dont like fancy-ness in general so I wouldnt like anything gaudy : p

Anything outside the ears, though, I wouldnt really be fond of : p

Of course I wouldnt tell my partner how they could or could not look or anything ridiculous like that, is just my opinion : p
 
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A man trying to look like a woman will always simply look like a man trying to be a woman.
 

Lynx

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Yay for thread necromancy!

Most Holiness standards are situational, an application of biblical principles in reaction to the environment around us. As such they can change from area to area and from time to time. The Bible specifically addresses hair length though, both for men and for women.

As for earrings, that's up to you. I'm allergic to pain, so no thanks! If you want to poke holes in your body and hang metal hoops through them that's your pain and your choice. I never have understood the attraction, but then I never have understood why men wear strips of fabric tied in elaborate knots around their necks either...
 
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Ugly

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I also like men who look like men. But the hairstyle is a way of self-expression, so if someone feels more confident with a long hair and earrings, it is ok for me. Nowadays trends show that there are a lot of men who like long hair, there even exist special hairstyles for them like on https://therighthairstyles.com/20-cool-looks-with-braids-for-men/19/ . But personally I don't want my son to look this way, maybe I'm behind the times :)
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