Pretentious

[Grace-Like-Rain]

I own a few pair of heels, and once in a while I'll want to wear them with an outfit that they match really well, but I can never seem to get out the door in them because I just feel very pretentious in heels.

What sorts of things do you find pretentious pertaining to yourself or to others?

(Keep it polite!)

 

[Tinkerbell725]

I find it pretentious when some people show off their Iphone. I have nothing against Iphone btw.

 

[MollyConnor]

I find it pretentious when people (usually women) say "I don't shop at such and such store." I had a friend tell me (after I bought foundation at Wal-Mart) that she only buys her makeup at Mac and Sephora. We drifted apart with time. LOL but she was very pretentious with brands, stores, and expensive fashion.

Oh I also remember her telling me "I like the way you dress, that's how I pick my friends." This was in high school though, so maybe she's changed.

In college I knew a know-it-all. He was very pretentious because he literally knew just about everything and would let you know about it. This guy was a genius! I don't know how he did it to know everything, but he did. It was honestly kinda scary...and annoying because he always had the best grades and would even correct the professors sometimes. lol

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Molly your post reminded me of a friend who posted in her FB status all her activities like the name of the five star hotel where they stayed including the room no. Lol! She was also brand conscious and chose rich friends. I also know someone who would threaten her husband to divorce if he doesn't give her what she wants. Recently she asked for a new car. A mercedes particularly. I don't know if they are still together now but she already changed her last name on FB.

 

[Lynx]

Polysyllabic profundity. One should eschew rhodomontade bombast and endeavor to concatenate one's unpremeditated expatiations with intelligibility.

In other words you ought to say what you mean, mean what you say and don't use big words unless you need them, because it makes you sound stuck-up.

 

[seoulsearch]

Hey Grace,

If it's any consolation, I know there is absolutely NOTHING pretentious about you!! Wear those heels and work it, girl!

My Dad had only one splurge when I was growing up, and that was a membership at the local country club because golf is one of his passions.

Needless to say, between our family station wagon and my JCPenney/Kmart clothes, I definitely did not fit in.

But I always remembered what my parents told me... that a lot of people driving BMW's and wearing the most expensive clothes from the local downtown boutiques were living that lifestyle completely on credit, and didn't actually own a single thing they were showing off.

Paying things off as soon as possible is a very important rule in my family.

We won't impress you with what we have or how fancy/expensive it is, but our goal is to keep working and saving for what we have or need so that eventually, we won't owe anyone anything.

I have nothing against anyone who can afford nice things and has a humble attitude about it. But when I see people trying a little too hard to show off what they have or or just bought, the first thing I'm thinking about is how much their payments are, and how long they'll be a slave to them.

 

[Lynx]

Oh and about high heels, I think they're pretentious too. I also think they're silly. But if girls like them enough that they complain about how much the things hurt their feet all the flippin' time and STILL CHOOSE TO WEAR THEM, I guess let them wear the silly things.

 

[Lynx]

Hey Grace,

If it's any consolation, I know there is absolutely NOTHING pretentious about you!! Wear those heels and work it, girl!

My Dad had only one splurge when I was growing up, and that was a membership at the local country club because golf is one of his passions.

Needless to say, between our family station wagon and my JCPenney/Kmart clothes, I definitely did not fit in.

But I always remembered what my parents told me... that a lot of people driving BMW's and wearing the most expensive clothes from the local downtown boutiques were living that lifestyle completely on credit, and didn't actually own a single thing they were showing off.

Paying things off as soon as possible is a very important rule in my family.

We won't impress you with what we have or how fancy/expensive it is, but our goal is to keep working and saving for what we have or need so that eventually, we won't owe anyone anything.

I have nothing against anyone who can afford nice things and has a humble attitude about it. But when I see people trying a little too hard to show off what they have or or just bought, the first thing I'm thinking about is how much their payments are, and how long they'll be a slave to them.

Here's the guy you're thinking about Kim.
[video=youtube;PV_YAeXOSiw]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PV_YAeXOSiw[/video]

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Polysyllabic profundity. One should eschew rhodomontade bombast and endeavor to concatenate one's unpremeditated expatiations with intelligibility.

In other words you ought to say what you mean, mean what you say and don't use big words unless you need them, because it makes you sound stuck-up.

Yes its exasperating to listen to highfalutin words. I just needed to use that word for emphasis.

 

[Sonflower]

Oh and about high heels, I think they're pretentious too. I also think they're silly. But if girls like them enough that they complain about how much the things hurt their feet all the flippin' time and STILL CHOOSE TO WEAR THEM, I guess let them wear the silly things.

Hahaha...Ohhh Lynx. You're hilarious.

I used to wear shoes that hurt my feet, until I had a revelation that I didn't have to.

 

[Sonflower]

1 part pretentious and 1 part stupid.

The way women, in particular mothers, down each other. Women are the worst to each other. The worst. I cannot tell you how many fellow mothers have made me feel "less than" or I've seen them make others feel "less than" simply because they use the "wrong" brand of bottles or are not using reusable diapers or don't buy 100% organic. It's infuriating to me. Their is no one 100% right way to parent or to be a woman. I am blessed to have a close group of female friends who do not behave this way. I just wish all women could learn than we should be supporting each other not tearing each other down. That goes for everything, not just parenting. I used parenting as an example because that's where I've seen it the most. I know it happens in other areas too.

 

[Lynx]

Sonflower: Wait, what? You don't buy 100% organic? Well bless your heart, you poor dear, you must be so poor that you live in a shack BEHIND the trailer park and you get what you can find from the dumpster behind the grocery store.

For the record my mother used those cloth diapers with my youngest brother. Guess who got to rinse diapers out! I'm a big fan of disposables.

 

[AbigailZeke]

Grace! I think heels are alright. I wear heels because I hate getting my feet dirty and I hate wet shoes. Especially when it's sunny and rainy every day where I live. Also, for me, short girl problems.

I never use flip flops cause I think they're too thin and don't really provide the much needed protection for feet. xD

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Back to topic.

What I consider pretentious are people who jump in offering unsolicited advise to someone they barely know about. People who don't take the time to consider the issue. They seem to be more concerned with the opportunity to correct others than actually helping the person in need.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

Grace! I think heels are alright. I wear heels because I hate getting my feet dirty and I hate wet shoes. Especially when it's sunny and rainy every day where I live. Also, for me, short girl problems.

I never use flip flops cause I think they're too thin and don't really provide the much needed protection for feet. xD

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Back to topic.

What I consider pretentious are people who jump in offering unsolicited advise to someone they barely know about. People who don't take the time to consider the issue. They seem to be more concerned with the opportunity to correct others than actually helping the person in need.

I know right. Mr/Ms know it all. I've had a few servings of unsolicited advice myself and it was awful. Some people just have this insatiable need to be heard even if you don't ask for their opinion.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

This is good stuff! I'm taking notes on things to avoid ever doing, haha.

I'm in the party entertainment business, so I see a whole lot of what you're talking about, Seoul and Sonflower. It actually kind of makes me sad. I believe that wealthy mothers have an enormous pressure to "fit in" and one-up their friends in giving fancy birthday parties, their clothes and hair, their kids being perfectly dressed, their homes and decorations... So much unnecessary stress. I've never been a victim to anyone (that I knew of) looking down on me for not being that way, but some mothers... you can just see the panic in their eyes as they host their parties. They are killing themselves to achieve this lifestyle that doesn't even make them happy.

Others seem to wear the lifestyle very well, and be relaxed and comfortable about it, which I don't find pretentious. I think the difference is how well it "sits" on you, and how much you THINK about it. The level of desperation.

Speaking of birthday parties and rich children... I find monogrammed baby clothes pretentious. They will outgrow that outfit after wearing it one time, and then you can't pass it down to anyone since your son's name is on it. Also, it makes him look like a girl.

 

[Hellooo]

Maybe it's just because of my personal lack of interest in rearing children, but I find that sometimes pregnant ladies/mothers can be a little smug...like life doesn't truly begin until you've brought a baby into the world, or going on and on about baby's milestones. I don't dislike children, I just don't share the obsession. Growing up in a large family has kind of put me off the whole thing. (I'll gladly listen to people ramble on about their dogs anytime though. And look at all their dog pics)

When comedians name drop other comedians during their sets. Especially at open mics.

Talking about being vegan.

Men wearing fedoras.

 

[Yahweh_is_gracious]

For myself, I refuse to wear sleeveless shirts even though I have the shoulders and arms...and chest...to make them look good. I find them overly showy and "try too hard".

Also, I avoid things like talking like, dressing like, or associating with other people who also have graduate degrees. Snobbish. Ick. I don't walk around in military memorabilia just because I served. I don't hang out with gun-nuts even though I am one. I generally just try to keep a very low profile because I think drawing attention to anything is pretentious. Either a person wants to get to know me without all the social constructs or "important/interesting" things or they don't.

 

[Sonflower]

Ok. Seeing as how this is a Christian site, and most of us are Christians...I'm just gonna say it.

The holier than thou, I'm better than you because I sin WAY less types. I used to think it was people who are "overly spiritual". No, that's not what it is. It's the Christians who use their spiritual status as a way of feeling superior to others.

My pastors are some of the most down to earth Christians you will ever meet. They know God, they pursue God and could easily tell me how awful I am in comparison. They don't. They are humble and draw attention to their own sins first. They always share the truth in love, never out of superior knowledge of the bible.

Its SO easy for us to fall into the prideful Christian trap, to somehow think we are superior to others simply because we know Christ.

There I said it.

 

[wwjd_kilden]

When I see people this time of year wearing short skirts..... are they TRYING to get sick?

I can't wear fancy clothes because I feel so awkward in them that I end up being all clumsy
(Like when my dress partially tore in my sisters wedding, and we had to fix it with a kingpin to keep me from showing off my back to everyone

 

[NewWine]

I feel uppity when I wear perfume. I know that sounds strange, but I live on the farm we are building, I play in the dirt all day, I play with the dogs while training them, and I currently sleep in a garage (complete with a concrete floor and a HUGE garage door next to my futon) until we finish the house, so wearing perfume just seems like something I would do only when trying to impress someone. It makes me feel like I want everyone to know I am coming, when in fact I prefer being furniture to being in the spotlight.