What kind of single are you?

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What kind of single are you?

  • Too young/not ready for love

    Votes: 3 3.4%

  • Love is not the priority/breadwinners

    Votes: 8 9.2%

  • Workaholics/no time for love

    Votes: 6 6.9%

  • Looking for mr perfect/high standards

    Votes: 18 20.7%

  • attracts no one/attracts the wrong one/always friendzoned

    Votes: 22 25.3%

  • Brokenhearted/afraid to love again

    Votes: 15 17.2%

  • Desperate/ready to marry anyone

    Votes: 4 4.6%

  • Happily single and not afraid to be single forever

    Votes: 24 27.6%

  • Others

    Votes: 20 23.0%
  • Total voters
    87
Tinkerbell725

Tinkerbell725

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Chey60 said:
Scripture says "he who finds a wife finds a good thing"...never does it say 'she who finds a husband"... we are told also that woman was made for man not man for woman..therefore, there is no need for us to pursue a man....but a man may pursue us...
all that comes from a woman pursuing a man or making a man pursue them is control....

I tell all my single guy friends, if a woman is pursuing you, run and I have never been wrong.

We are the treasure ladies, We are called a gift to men....
a men know how to hunt treasure...

I once met a woman in a restaurant when I used to be a server and she , a stranger took one look at me (she didn't know me.. I never spoke to her...and though I had never actually chased a man, I tried to make things happen with a couple of them...)....she said to me "honey... never ever pursue a man... you are the treasure, the gift.. let them pursue you!" .
Men were made to be hunters...they don't need help knowing how to do that...
if a shy man wants you...he knows how to make his desire known... and you can let him know you are interested..if need be..but since the men are to be the leaders, let them lead..

Even Ruth...though her mother in law told her to go put herself in the line of site for Boaz, and she was only obeying what she was told, never did it on her own..
and since Boaz , an old man didn't think Ruth would be interested in him, God knew this and knew she would obey Naomi...

Its very important we leave things in order...:) and remember who we are...and the role we need to be in... :)
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That is not the kind of pursuing that is meant by the line everyone wants to be pursued. Generally, everyone wants to feel valued. A woman who pursues a man that way is usually taken advantaged by men who have no integrity. But a good woman knows how to pursue a man the Godly way.
 
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Galatea

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#65
Tinkerbell725 said:
Lol! You will get your money's worth there. My device is state of the art. It can detect the subject from miles and miles away. ;)
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If I get an el cheapo off brand, I'll have to be content with just my small town, and it might not beep at all. :(
 
JesusLives

JesusLives

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Tourist & I are a married single.... as in two shall become one....
 
OneFaith

OneFaith

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Its either he's not good enough for me spiritually, or I'm not good enough for him physically (not just in body, but things like money). I lowered my standards a couple times- that turned out disastrous. Kelly Clarkson's song matches me- "What doesn't kill me makes me stronger, I stand a little taller, it doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone." I am content, I have freedom. I would much rather be alone than to be with Mr. Wrong, BUT I would much rather be with Mr. Right than to be alone.
 
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Tintin

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I'm a Kraft Single(TM).

But seriously. I was brokenhearted for a long time (in my first ever and last relationship I was dumped without warning). The fallout from that was messy. I'm open to having a relationship in the not-too-distant future, but I'm content being single for now. Also, I need to find a job before I can go looking again and the economic climate in Australia is not good.
 
tourist

tourist

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Galatea said:
As a Christian, I don't mind telling people I am looking for a husband. I believe I was created to be some man's Eve. There's a rib inside me that isn't mine. I'm just looking for its owner. Too bad it doesn't have a homing device on it that can 'ping' whenever I get close to him- that would make things easy.
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Maybe the homing device is when your heart beats faster when you meet that special one for you.
 
tourist

tourist

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Chey60 said:
Ive been single a long time. I am a mom and a grandmother...plus I work full time..I am usually busy there, or with the grandchildren or my adult sons one of whom moved home 2 years ago (after being gone 10 years, in other states)
Odd that the last time God even allowed a man in my life was almost 4 years ago.. before that there was always a guy I was talking to..but not dating..really.
My life is so full with my church and hanging with my grandkids and kids that I haven't even thought about dating again until recently..
I often think it would be wonderful to be married again but this time in theLord since I haven't had that blessing in the past...
and spend the rest of my life with a man of God to serve with...
but if I have to be single the rest of my life I won't freak out or die..
I just get that little twinge now and again that it would be nice to be held, or have someone to share things that happened during the day with , someone to hold up..and pray with...someone to cuddle with that isn't my grands though they are great little cuddlers:) ..My son who lives with me is a good ear now and again and he is so kind and respectful to me... but it isn't the same as having a companion that is not your child. :)

At my age, I am 56.. I often think it's too late...
but I don't think it is..I know that if a man of God comes into my life and we are both not only attracted to one another but have the same goals and values in Christ, I would be more than willing to marry again.

for now? its work , church and the children :)
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It's never too late to fall in love with that special person that God presents you with.
 
AbigailZeke

AbigailZeke

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The kind who dreams of celebrity crushes.

True story, though, last night I dreamt of Fantastic Beasts, MACUSA, Sherlock and Matthew Goode.
 
HaydenC

HaydenC

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Unlucky in life, unlucky in love, 23 and still trying. Hope fading.
 
DiscipleDave

DiscipleDave

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Tinkerbell725 said:
What kind of single are you?
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Been Single
Been Married
Been Divorced
Now Celibate for over 10 years. Never been happier. Praise God!!!

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††† In His Holy and Precious Name, Jesus Christ †††

DiscipleDave
 
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jeremyPJ

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Galatea said:
I am the searching single. At first, I thought maybe this is a bad thing. So many people say "God will send him, don't worry, no need to look." The pragmatic part of my brain said "no, you need to be proactive." My mother gave me a book called The Sacred Search by Gary Thomas. I'm not finished reading it, but he's been right on in my opinion. This is what he writes about searching

"When it comes to choosing a mate, God will bring the right person to me at the right time. I'll just sit back and wait." That sounds so spiritual, so trusting, so... holy. But consider this attitude in virtually any other aspect of life. For instance, how "holy" and wise does this sound: "I don't plan to apply to any colleges. I figure if I am supposed to go to college, God will make sure the University of Texas will send me a letter, complete with dorm key, that will be my sign."

If someone spoke like that, you'd think the person was a verifiable religious fanatic. But we put the language of dating and finding a mate into similar "Christianese", and it sounds so noble "Don't worry about finding someone to marry. If you just focus on God, He'll bring someone along at just the right time. There are some very disappointed people in their thirties who lived by this philosophy, and now fight resentment toward God because they still aren't married. After all, wasn't He supposed to bring their future spouse to their doorstep?"

That was my philosophy for a long time, but now I am looking, and there's no shame in that, it's practical.
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I hear ya...I was raised with this principle. It doesn't work!
 
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