I had this girl text me. The conversation went on to her saying we were friends...i dont like something she lied abput badly and i realized she was a hypocrite. I told her that it was time for us to part company. She said it sounds bad. I told her not to feel bitter aboit it and gbye. Idk how it will go now... i pray to God it goes fine. I mean i go to same class as her and i dont want it to end badly. Please help. Any reasonable advice helps a lot
feeling bitter about leaving so fast
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Hello Iamstuck,
I take it you're in high school (by your age). This is a time of life when people explore morals, values and ethics. I respect your position that you don't want friends who lie. However, the Bible says to go to a person who has wronged you, explain to them their wrong, and be open to reconciliation. Simply blowing off a friend (or even potential friend) over one apparent lie is judgmental. None of us is perfect.
I suggest you consider whether this girl is a professing Christian. If she is (and you are) then privately seek an explanation of the apparent lie... it may be a misunderstanding, or it may be a lie and she will take the opportunity to make things right. Only if it's really clear that she lied and she won't own it would I suggest distancing yourself from her. Even then, giving her a second chance is probably a better choice, and repeated failure still doesn't mean the connection needs to be severed. Rather, it means she needs to hear the Gospel.
I take it you're in high school (by your age). This is a time of life when people explore morals, values and ethics. I respect your position that you don't want friends who lie. However, the Bible says to go to a person who has wronged you, explain to them their wrong, and be open to reconciliation. Simply blowing off a friend (or even potential friend) over one apparent lie is judgmental. None of us is perfect.
I suggest you consider whether this girl is a professing Christian. If she is (and you are) then privately seek an explanation of the apparent lie... it may be a misunderstanding, or it may be a lie and she will take the opportunity to make things right. Only if it's really clear that she lied and she won't own it would I suggest distancing yourself from her. Even then, giving her a second chance is probably a better choice, and repeated failure still doesn't mean the connection needs to be severed. Rather, it means she needs to hear the Gospel.
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I think if you search your own heart, you'll know that you have been a hypocrite at times, too. You should talk to her. If you can not find it in your heart to forgive her, and do not want to reconcile, then you should be honest with her and tell her you no longer wish to be friends. If you are a Christian, you should at least forgive her, even if you don't want to be her friend anymore.
I personally don't think lying is enough to sever ties with people I care about, but you must decide your own path.
I personally don't think lying is enough to sever ties with people I care about, but you must decide your own path.
I suppose this is when valuable lessons are either learnt or lost. How you choose to handle matters like this one will help shape the man you grow up to be. So... don't be rash or rush to ditch her as a friend. Take time to discuss the matter with her. Then you you can make a decision. Forgiving someone is not a bad thing especially when you realise that we all need it and often too.