(#3) List of dating mistakes that should be avoided by the Christian woman

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pete13

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Please note that there is a difference between a girl wanting more time to know a man fully and playing hard to get. i can tell when a girl wants more time and when she is playing hard to get. ladies, if you want more time to consider dating a man when he asks you out please say so literally instead of saying no whilst expecting the man to figure out that you need more time without you telling him so. when you get asked out, say YES or NO or I WILL CONSIDER AND GET BACK TO YOU. If you say NO to me, i will take it for a NO and don't expect me to come back to you. if you say you need time to consider, don't take too long trying to decide, try to get back to him with a yes or no not more than a week from the day he asked you out. he may find another woman in the time you are trying to decide.
 

Sonflower

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There I go spam liking all things Lynxy and giggling the entire time.
 

melita916

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#44
*waits for mistake #4*
 

88

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Going out with losers who God told you were not worth wasting your time on...Love Always...
 

Jeshuvan

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dont date,just completely trust God.This way u eliminate mistakes
 

Lynx

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Er... isn't that like killing the patient and saying "the illness is cured"? If you eliminate mistakes by just avoiding the thing you are afraid of making mistakes in, that kind of defeats the whole purpose.
 

88

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Don' t killum ---- send then to God's E R...
 

Fenner

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I saw a commercial today for E Harmony they said it's free to browse and communicate until next Tuesday.
 

Lynx

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Oh joy! Better start finding a girl for me right now, while I have time!

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Nah, too much effort.

*Lynx goes back to playing Wasteland 2.
 

Desdichado

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Samson, Samson protect me
Raise your hammer for all to see
Blazing bright throughout the night
Keep me safe 'til morning light




Oh joy! Better start finding a girl for me right now, while I have time!

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Nah, too much effort.

*Lynx goes back to playing Wasteland 2.
 

zeroturbulence

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[video=youtube;SiNOYO6ZBsU]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SiNOYO6ZBsU[/video]
 
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GODisLOVE7

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(#3)PLAYING HARD TO GET IN ORDER TO TEST A MAN’S HUMILITY

Playing hard to get may be the norm in the non Christian world but please don’t copy what you see on TV. Some “Christian” relationship books even advise women not to reply suitors on their initial times of asking, instead they should make the man prove his humility and desire for them through persistence…a.k.a “playing hard to get” Some women play hard to get because they wrongly believe that the man will see them as cheap if they say yes to him on his initial time of asking and they believe that the man that keeps on chasing after them despite their several rejections of him is the true man for them since he has shown humility. How can they be so wrong? They really believe that the man that will be faithful is the one that chases them the most. A man that keeps on chasing you despite your several rejections probably has nothing to offer you and he will probably be unfaithful to you.

Here is what happens when a woman plays hard to get:
A “bad” man will be filled with a grin if a woman plays hard to get for him because her “playing hard to get” attitude erases his guilty conscience. He has a guilty conscience because he knows he will be unfaithful when he marries you, so when you play hard to get and relish to watch a man crawl to get you it cancels out his own evil which is the fact that he will be unfaithful to you. Therefore he gets happy and he is full of smiles when you play hard to get as his guilty conscience has been erased and he will then pretend to humble himself by begging the woman for a date persistently. She then sees this as a sign of humility and she will be like “wow, this guy keeps coming back to me despite my several rejections of him, he is really humble and he has to be the true man for me” but he is not the true man, no man that has high value to offer will tolerate that.
A “good” man is excited and full of a good heart when he approaches you because he is eager to give you care, love and faithfulness. If you play hard to get for him, he will see it as an act of betrayal; he may assume that you are a false Christian woman and he may not seek you again. I know you rate yourself high because you believe you have a high value and any man will be lucky to have you and I know you want to give yourself to a man that appreciates your value. But please, playing hard to get; unnecessarily delaying to reply or stalling is not the way to test a man’s humility, instead it will make the true man for you to believe that you are not humble yourself. Try other ways to test his humility and his appreciation of you. The same way you check to see if a man regards you cheaply, the man also checks to see if you have any trace of bad attitude, ungratefulness or sassiness in you. Don’t chase away good men just because you want to test their humility.
…………………….To be continued
Its just a bunch of mental mind games... Which is deceitful, manipulative, and is not LOVE.

I have a serious dislike for stuff like this and would point out that both women and men play these games.

I am very direct. I don't like to read into things. Nor do I want people to read into anything I do (usually we get it wrong when we assume things anyways).

Why base a relationship on hidden, unsaid, and presumptuous thoughts?

That being said, Im single and usually this is a sticking point with the men I get to know.

Best to say it like it is... tactfully tho :p
 
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(#3)PLAYING HARD TO GET IN ORDER TO TEST A MAN’S HUMILITY

Playing hard to get may be the norm in the non Christian world but please don’t copy what you see on TV. Some “Christian” relationship books even advise women not to reply suitors on their initial times of asking, instead they should make the man prove his humility and desire for them through persistence…a.k.a “playing hard to get” Some women play hard to get because they wrongly believe that the man will see them as cheap if they say yes to him on his initial time of asking and they believe that the man that keeps on chasing after them despite their several rejections of him is the true man for them since he has shown humility. How can they be so wrong? They really believe that the man that will be faithful is the one that chases them the most. A man that keeps on chasing you despite your several rejections probably has nothing to offer you and he will probably be unfaithful to you.

Here is what happens when a woman plays hard to get:
A “bad” man will be filled with a grin if a woman plays hard to get for him because her “playing hard to get” attitude erases his guilty conscience. He has a guilty conscience because he knows he will be unfaithful when he marries you, so when you play hard to get and relish to watch a man crawl to get you it cancels out his own evil which is the fact that he will be unfaithful to you. Therefore he gets happy and he is full of smiles when you play hard to get as his guilty conscience has been erased and he will then pretend to humble himself by begging the woman for a date persistently. She then sees this as a sign of humility and she will be like “wow, this guy keeps coming back to me despite my several rejections of him, he is really humble and he has to be the true man for me” but he is not the true man, no man that has high value to offer will tolerate that.
A “good” man is excited and full of a good heart when he approaches you because he is eager to give you care, love and faithfulness. If you play hard to get for him, he will see it as an act of betrayal; he may assume that you are a false Christian woman and he may not seek you again. I know you rate yourself high because you believe you have a high value and any man will be lucky to have you and I know you want to give yourself to a man that appreciates your value. But please, playing hard to get; unnecessarily delaying to reply or stalling is not the way to test a man’s humility, instead it will make the true man for you to believe that you are not humble yourself. Try other ways to test his humility and his appreciation of you. The same way you check to see if a man regards you cheaply, the man also checks to see if you have any trace of bad attitude, ungratefulness or sassiness in you. Don’t chase away good men just because you want to test their humility.
…………………….To be continued
Hmm, now this is a hard one to ponder on. Indeed the woman or the man that plays hard to get might not find a spouse very easily.

At the same time though, there is little bit of fun in the chase, in the courtship, in the flirting. I think both men and women like the idea of their mate pursuing them, and loving over them as a prize crown jewel, as a desired gift from God. Then again that old romantic idea of love at first sight is pretty nice as well. Not bad thoughts though this is a hard one to judge for one that is as single as I am lol. I do agree mostly with the idea of not testing your lover all the time or with-holding from them. So many cases of where a spouse or a lover or a longtime relationship gets one-sided and unreciprocated leads to infidelity and all sorts of things as testified innumerably on many daytime talk shows.