Looking For a Foreign Wife? May I Humbly Submit Some Realities to Consider...

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Oh, I'm not stereotyping.

In the original thread, I state that I was commenting on a thread I saw here, and the thoughts I've seen that echo those same sentiments.

But, at no point did I ever say all men, American or not, believe in or subscribe to those beliefs.
Lol "the thoughts I've seen that echo the same sentiments" Kek, that's the fanciest way to say stereotyping that I've ever seen.

So the stereotypical Christian male wants:

1. A woman that respects traditional family values
2. A woman that is not a nag (feminazi or SJW)
3. A woman that is not promiscuous
4. A submissive wife
 
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Eloseus,

I have a real problem with people who look like political trolls...

even if they're on my side of the aisle.



This is a Christian forum, not a personal echo chamber for the RNC.



The RNC doesn't own this forum, and they don't get an automatic pass.
Lol aw don't be so triggered now. We have a real leader now. It's pretty biblical for young men to follow after the real leader's example in the ways of marriage and dating.

Judges 21:16-21

[SUP]16 [/SUP]Then the elders of the congregation said, How shall we do for wives for them that remain, seeing the women are destroyed out of Benjamin?
[SUP]17 [/SUP]And they said, There must be an inheritance for them that be escaped of Benjamin, that a tribe be not destroyed out of Israel.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]Howbeit we may not give them wives of our daughters: for the children of Israel have sworn, saying, Cursed be he that giveth a wife to Benjamin.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]Then they said, Behold, there is a feast of the Lord in Shiloh yearly in a place which is on the north side of Bethel, on the east side of the highway that goeth up from Bethel to Shechem, and on the south of Lebonah.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]Therefore they commanded the children of Benjamin, saying, Go and lie in wait in the vineyards;
[SUP]21 [/SUP]And see, and, behold, if the daughters of Shiloh come out to dance in dances, then come ye out of the vineyards, and catch you every man his wife of the daughters of Shiloh, and go to the land of Benjamin.
 

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Lol "the thoughts I've seen that echo the same sentiments" Kek, that's the fanciest way to say stereotyping that I've ever seen.

So the stereotypical Christian male wants:

1. A woman that respects traditional family values
2. A woman that is not a nag (feminazi or SJW)
3. A woman that is not promiscuous
4. A submissive wife
Nope. I most certainly did not say that every Christian male falls into a stereotype, or that this what they all want.

But you are correct in that, in the nearly 8 years I've been on this forum and throughout my regular life, the things you have listed do seem to be the main reasons men state that they are interesting in seeking foreign wives.

Again, I am NOT saying that all Christian men mold into a stereotype or that this is what they seek in a woman.

But I AM saying that OF THE MEN WHO STATE THAT IT WOULD BE BETTER TO SEEK A FOREIGN WIFE, these are most often their reasons for doing so, and this entire thread was simply addressing some of the challenges they might find on their quest.
 
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Nope. I didn't say every Christian male is stereotypical.

But you are correct in that, in the nearly 8 years I've been on this forum, I've seen the things you have listed over and over again as being the main reasons men state that they are interesting in seeking foreign wives.

I am NOT saying that all Christian men fall into a stereotype or that this is what they want.

I AM saying that OF THE MEN WHO STATE THAT IT WOULD BE BETTER TO SEEK A FOREIGN WIFE, these are most often their reasons for doing so, and this entire thread was simply addressing some of the challenges they might find on their quest.
Lol hey I'm not disagreeing. Sometimes stereotypes are pretty true.
 
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What about American women becoming foreign wives whenever marrying somebody from another country and then settle down there?:)
 

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Hey Everyone,

One of the recent threads here had me thinking about all the times I've heard men (usually from the USA) talk about how much better it would be to seek a wife from another country, usually because they are frustrated with what they see as a loss of traditional values in the women around them in their own country.

While I can certainly understand their perspective, it often seems to me as if some men see foreign brides, particularly from Asia, as the "last unicorns" of marriage. From the many accounts I've read or heard, it's almost as if many men honestly believe that a submissive wife from another country will fulfill their dreams of wedded bliss, just like a woman waiting to be rescued by her knight in shining armor.

A few years ago, we had a regular poster in Singles who would often sing the praises of men finding wives from the Philippines. I couldn't help but find it amusing that when some of the women here gave some realistic accounts of what a man might run into in his search, he completely ignored anything they had to say and didn't even acknowledge their posts. Apparently, he was looking for a wife who was not only young (he was in his mid-50's), beautiful, and submissive, but also silent and devoid of any thoughts of her own. :rolleyes:

Although I grew up in a small, non-diverse Anyville town in the United States, I've had the privilege of knowing a few families in which the man had married a foreign bride. Going back through my memories, I was thinking of about 10 such marriages in which I knew one or more people involved, and in maybe half of those cases, I was close enough to someone that I could ask a few questions about what really went on behind the scenes.

I'd like to share a few pf the things I've observed. To make this easier to read, I'm going to break this up into multiple posts to start off this thread (I'm sorry if that makes it seem a little choppy.)

Now, as I always say, I am, by NO means, an expert. I'm just thinking of what I've seen and heard... AND, this is where you all come in as well--I would love to hear your thoughts, observations, and experiences.

There are probably many people out there who have much more experience with this than me, and I'm hoping they'll share. :)

And so, to kick this off, I'd like to start by talking about those "traditional family values" that are always cited as a prime reason for seeking a foreign wife (please see next post.)
Aren't all woman foreign??
 

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Only if the men are dull...
 

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What about American women becoming foreign wives whenever marrying somebody from another country and then settle down there?:)
That definitely counts, Jenny!

C'mon, girl.

You best gets to edu-ma-cating the rest of us. :p
 
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What about American women becoming foreign wives whenever marrying somebody from another country and then settle down there?:)
Lol if they want to lose all their freedom to marry the huns then so be it. Get em outta here.
 

seoulsearch

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Aren't all woman foreign??
As are all men, in that case.

Hmm.

I didn't think it would be this hard for people to understand what I meant? :(

But, there I go assuming again. :p

Maybe I need to work on my English skills. :D
 
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That definitely counts, Jenny!

C'mon, girl.

You best gets to edu-ma-cating the rest of us. :p
Did yall know that American women, compared to European women, are all but what some on here refers to as "nags"?
 
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As are all men, in that case.

Hmm.

I didn't think it would be this hard for people to understand what I meant? :(

But, there I go assuming again. :p

Maybe I need to work on my English skills. :D
Lol every woman wants a strong American male. I don't blame you for being jealous of the foreign ladies. It's a good sign that you're not a feminazi.
 
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Did yall know that American women, compared to European women are all but what some on here refers to as "nags"?
You hit it on the nose exactly. Men don't want nags, it's that simple. I'm surprised you ain't married.
 
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I don't particularly want a strong American male, but I am partial to the Irish accent and
Australian.
 

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Well, you misspelled a word in one of your recent posts...
 

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Feminazi XD Im dying LOL!!!!

Lol every woman wants a strong American male. I don't blame you for being jealous of the foreign ladies. It's a good sign that you're not a feminazi.

Lol Ill teach u some german then lol maybe ull feel better bout yourself then hehehe

As are all men, in that case.

Hmm.

I didn't think it would be this hard for people to understand what I meant? :(

But, there I go assuming again. :p

Maybe I need to work on my English skills. :D
 

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You hit it on the nose exactly. Men don't want nags, it's that simple. I'm surprised you ain't married.
Actually... She is. :)

That's probably how she knows. :cool:
 
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You hit it on the nose exactly. Men don't want nags, it's that simple. I'm surprised you ain't married.
I've been married for 14 years, mister:).
 

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Eloseus

Lol aw don't be so triggered now. We have a real leader now. It's pretty biblical for young men to follow after the real leader's example in the ways of marriage and dating.

Judges 21:16-21

[SUP]16 [/SUP]Then the elders of the congregation said, How shall we do for wives for them that remain, seeing the women are destroyed out of Benjamin?
[SUP]17 [/SUP]And they said, There must be an inheritance for them that be escaped of Benjamin, that a tribe be not destroyed out of Israel.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]Howbeit we may not give them wives of our daughters: for the children of Israel have sworn, saying, Cursed be he that giveth a wife to Benjamin.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]Then they said, Behold, there is a feast of the Lord in Shiloh yearly in a place which is on the north side of Bethel, on the east side of the highway that goeth up from Bethel to Shechem, and on the south of Lebonah.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]Therefore they commanded the children of Benjamin, saying, Go and lie in wait in the vineyards;
[SUP]21 [/SUP]And see, and, behold, if the daughters of Shiloh come out to dance in dances, then come ye out of the vineyards, and catch you every man his wife of the daughters of Shiloh, and go to the land of Benjamin.

Triggered?

The first thing you do is ascribe a word to me which is well associated with 20-year-old liberals who can't wipe their own noses?

Really.

And then you post a ridiculous passage of scripture from one of the most screwed up books in the bible, where almost no one was acting sensibly, and where it's almost impossible to find doctrinal statements because the whole book is filled with madness.


1. You just joined today.
2. Your avatar is a picture of Trump.
3. Almost every post you've made has been about Trump.
4. You're posting links to Trump's Twitter account... to get everyone over there.
5. You try to post a pertinent biblical passage to a topic, and your passage of choice is something utterly ridiculous.


You look like a political troll.
You act like a political troll.
You do NOT get a free pass to come here and troll for the RNC just because most of us are Trump supporters.






 
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