In need of Christian Dating Advice
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K
Its hard not to over think it. But you dont want to come on too strong and push her away. You're putting a lot of pressure on yourself by asking her out on Valentines. Id try to work up the nerve to go out before then. Then see how she feels about going further. Just relax and have fun. Keep it low key. Work on your financial issues and if you hit it off you can talk to her about it a little later down the road. Thats a little heavy for a first date.
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Great question.
If I met a Godly man, we have Christ at the centre of the relationship, and real love, nothing else matters. God takes care of my every need and I won't let money get in the way of love. Its a non-factor.
But I'm sure lots of people would disagree with me... I can only speak what's right for me.
If I met a Godly man, we have Christ at the centre of the relationship, and real love, nothing else matters. God takes care of my every need and I won't let money get in the way of love. Its a non-factor.
But I'm sure lots of people would disagree with me... I can only speak what's right for me.
K
When I met my hubby the company he worked for moved out of state. He got a job and again he lost it,not of his doing. He spent a full year going to job interviews and calling people. He was so discouraged, probably a little like you're feeling. He kept asking me to stick with him. And I did. I knew he was sincere and he wasn't lazy,it was the economy. We ate a lot of fast food and had walks in every park in a 10 mile radius.lol We found a way. Like I said,its who you're with,not where you are or how much money you spend.
Now we're married and own a home of our own. He has a good job and we really are blessed. I trusted him and knew he was a good person,sincere and a hard worker. My instincts were right. If she is mature at all she will see the same thing in you.
Now we're married and own a home of our own. He has a good job and we really are blessed. I trusted him and knew he was a good person,sincere and a hard worker. My instincts were right. If she is mature at all she will see the same thing in you.
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Haha... Well, Christians seem to always say they are up for living a simple Christ-centered life, but its only after you get to know someone and see how it plays out in their lives that you can be sure. Take your time! We are all on this journey together.
So... Make sure you keep focused on God and ask Him to direct your steps. Don't worry about circumstances and just be YOU.
Think about starting a beautiful friendship. Everyone wants to marry their best friend.
So... Make sure you keep focused on God and ask Him to direct your steps. Don't worry about circumstances and just be YOU.
Think about starting a beautiful friendship. Everyone wants to marry their best friend.
G
Well, don't let age or time make you anxious. Trust God. He knows what He is doing. He will make it happen when it should and it will not pass you by if its in His will.
Besides, you have met someone you are interested in! That's the first step. Its exciting to get to know people... That's a blessing in itself.
Besides, you have met someone you are interested in! That's the first step. Its exciting to get to know people... That's a blessing in itself.
I would suggest, as others have, to just relax a bit. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. When you do ask her out, mention some things you like about her, such as "I like the way you're so patient with the youth group kids, and how kind you are to newcomers." Let her know that something real has caught your attention.
The Valentine's Day thing... That's a tough call. Some women would think it was sweet, some would probably think it was a bit much if they didn't quite have the same feelings for the guy. If you're really hesitant to ask her out directly, you could maybe get a lighthearted Valentine's Day card and give it to her. Her reaction to the card might give you a hint about her feelings and you could ask her out if she seems happy or interested.
The money thing... as long as the money problem isn't evidence of something greater (I'm talking gambling debt, etc) then it really shouldn't be a problem, IMO. Some of my favorite people in the entire world are flat broke. Besides, it will be a while before you have to worry about being a provider for this lady, even if you two do hit it off. You have time to get back on your feet, and hopefully she will be more concerned about your heart. If she's looking at your wallet first, you probably don't want a relationship with her after all.
The Valentine's Day thing... That's a tough call. Some women would think it was sweet, some would probably think it was a bit much if they didn't quite have the same feelings for the guy. If you're really hesitant to ask her out directly, you could maybe get a lighthearted Valentine's Day card and give it to her. Her reaction to the card might give you a hint about her feelings and you could ask her out if she seems happy or interested.
The money thing... as long as the money problem isn't evidence of something greater (I'm talking gambling debt, etc) then it really shouldn't be a problem, IMO. Some of my favorite people in the entire world are flat broke. Besides, it will be a while before you have to worry about being a provider for this lady, even if you two do hit it off. You have time to get back on your feet, and hopefully she will be more concerned about your heart. If she's looking at your wallet first, you probably don't want a relationship with her after all.
