In need of Christian Dating Advice

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Hello everyone,

I just recently joined this site and in need of some dating advice from my Christian brothers and sisters out there. I am a 46 year old Christian Male that interested in a Christian Female from my church that I attend. I have been attending my Church for about two years now. When I joined the Church I became involved in the Singles Ministry as well as volunteer in that Ministry. This is where I met the woman I am interested in as she serves on the board for the Singles Ministry too. She is a very nice, sweet person with a great personality. She caught my eyes the first time I saw her. Over time we slowly start having conversations with each other. They have been really good, positive and always flowing. We seem to connect with each other pretty well as we are the same age as well. I want to ask her out on Valentines day to get to know her even more but I am kind of nervous as I don't know what her response would be to me asking her out or if she is interested in me. Also, I am going through some financial challenges that I am trying to overcome so this is also making me hesitant in asking her out as I just feel a little embarrassed with my financial situation right now but I don't want to let the opportunity of potentially being with a good Christian woman slip away from me. I have never dated anyone from my Church before and that puts a little more pressure on me as I am very picky about the women I date and I am at a stage where I don't want to date just to date anymore. I really could use some advice as I have been thinking about this every single day for a month now. My thing is that I am ready emotionally to be with her but not financially as I am working on that. I really could use advice from some Christian brothers and sisters about this...
 
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DCrawshawJr

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First of all, I hope you've prayed to Jesus about this.

Secondly, just ask her out. Don't wait until Valentine's Day, just do it. Ask her out for a small coffee date. It doesn't have to be huge. Also, when you're doing this, please, I implore you, confess your feelings to her, and confess the challenges you have financially. Mainly, tell the truth.

But in all of this, do guard your heart.
 
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Ugly

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Asking someone out is a risk. Period. There's no way to eliminate that risk, so if you like her then take that risk.
Also, if she is the kind of woman to be so turned off from someone for a little financial trouble she may not be as great as you think. I'm in a bad situation in various areas of my life. I've been chatting with a woman who is much better off than I am, yet she doesn't let my shortcomings interfere with how she feels. Just be yourself, be honest and take a risk. Or say nothing and a year from now maybe you'll be kicking yourself saying 'what if...?'.
Only way to protect yourself is never take risks. So ask yourself if the potential reward is worth the risk.
 
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HisHolly

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It's dating not marriage right away.. don't let the financial district stop you.. personally I think the Valentine's day is cheesey especially if you're not sure that she's even interested.. may be embarrassing if she finds it too strong
 
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HisHolly

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Thats too much too soon..
DCrawshawJr said:
First of all, I hope you've prayed to Jesus about this.

Secondly, just ask her out. Don't wait until Valentine's Day, just do it. Ask her out for a small coffee date. It doesn't have to be huge. Also, when you're doing this, please, I implore you, confess your feelings to her, and confess the challenges you have financially. Mainly, tell the truth.

But in all of this, do guard your heart.
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Yes I have prayed about it. I also pray for her too. Of course once I ask her out on date I would make my intentions very clear upfront so she knows as I know she wants to find someone too. Confessing the financial challenges is the hardest part and I still need more prayer first.
 
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DCrawshawJr

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azo said:
Yes I have prayed about it. I also pray for her too. Of course once I ask her out on date I would make my intentions very clear upfront so she knows as I she wants to find someone too. Confessing the financial challenges is the hardest part and I still need more prayer first.
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Well...I can see what HisHolly meant by too much, too soon. I think a simple "I like you, wanna have coffee with me?" will suffice. The main point of my post was to just say to simply ask her out. No pressure. Sorry for any misunderstanding.
 
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Financial Advice:

Valentine's Day is one of the most expensive date nights of the year.

Always break up with a girl the day before,
and then make up with her the day after.

This will save SOOOO much money.


Let me know if you need any more advice!
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HisHolly

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:)He said he's not even sure if she's interested.. also not all women want men to unload everything they think about..
DCrawshawJr said:
How is it too much too soon? Unless the two haven't been talking long enough...
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DCrawshawJr

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HisHolly said:
He said he's not even sure if she's interested.. also not all women want men to unload everything they think about..
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That's right. Yeah, azo, don't talk about your finances right now. Just ask her out as a friend.
 
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maxwel said:
Financial Advice:

Valentine's Day is one of the most expensive date nights of the year.

Always break up with a girl the day before,
and then make up with her the day after.

This will save SOOOO much money.


Let me know if you need any more advice!
: )
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azo

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DCrawshawJr said:
That's right. Yeah, azo, don't talk about your finances right now. Just ask her out as a friend.
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Yes that might be the best course of action. I haven't really dated a lot which some people find that hard to believe. I am just trying to work up the nerve to do it.
 
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HisHolly

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He was probably speaking in general.. Financial advice being at the top.. Steer clear of V day for dates..
azo said:
We hadn't started going out yet. You confused me when you said break up with her and then make up with her..
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azo said:
We hadn't started going out yet. You confused me when you said break up with her and then make up with her..
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Well, if you're going to save money by breaking up with her on Valentine's Day...
you can hardly do that if you aren't dating her first.

You really need to get this plan moving.
 
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GODisLOVE7

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maxwel said:
Financial Advice:

Valentine's Day is one of the most expensive date nights of the year.

Always break up with a girl the day before,
and then make up with her the day after.

This will save SOOOO much money.


Let me know if you need any more advice!
: )
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Maybe she is the kind of girl who enjoys the simple things in life? With no need for fancy, expensive, pretentious stuff.

Just hanging out, drinking home-made lattes, listening to music, and talking about God.

Find the right one and you don't have to break up every February. ;)
 
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GODisLOVE7 said:
Maybe she is the kind of girl who enjoys the simple things in life? With no need for fancy, expensive, pretentious stuff.

Just hanging out, drinking home-made lattes, listening to music, and talking about God.

Find the right one and you don't have to break up every February. ;)
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She is that kind of woman. I chose Valentine's Day to make my move to show her what she means to me but I really shouldn't wait that long to do that. I just wanted to do it right but maybe trying too hard..
 
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