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This situation is quite interesting. For me it is more than that. I would begin by asking for some understanding if my thoughts seem odd to you. It's not that I am saying stupid things but that I am quite troubled and confused.I met this girl. No, more properly I met her dad who is a Southern Baptist pastor and that is how I got to know his daughter.
I have not met her in person because, you see, we live in different countries. She lives in USA TX and I'm an european. I've never spoke to her and frankly she even doesn't know that I exist on this planet. I know her dad but it's not like we know each other for an eternity. We crossed paths because of our theological studies (her dad is also a theologian and I'm a student) but I don't think that he knows me very well. So, the problem is that I'm interested in his daughter but there seems to be some problems that show up at this point.You see, I'm a electrical engineer/theology student in Scotland (I study both at the same time). My life and ministry is in the North-West part of Europe but she lives in America. I mean what should I do?
There is nothing to guarentee that even if I pursue her she'd agree to have a relationship with me. Given the circumstances, especially the distance and others as well, there seem to be small chances in favor of my thoughts. You must understand that the problem it's not just the distance but also the legal, cultural, material problems and so on. I must confess that while I am interested in her I am well aware of the fact that such a potential relantionship would involve great difficulties concerning cultural, material and legal issues that would make things very stressful. Anyway it's a long way till there.
Firstly, I must get in touch with her but I can't because she does not have a FB account. She has an email address but there is no way I could find it. All that I have is my connection with her dad wich is limited.What do you think that I should do? Should I quit or should I continue? You see, in my heart I would not want to do this. I'm not interested in dating for fun, I have a purpose and a reason for why I am interested in her and I could say that I have a specific goal in my mind. I would like to be intentional but I don't know how to proceed. Everything it's so blurry at this moment. The only way I have to get to her is her dad but I am afraid of him because he might reject me. I am also afraid because I don't know how to talk to him. He does not know me well and he may be suspicious. I have friends (also in the field of theology) in the USA who are close to him and they can testify for me.
There are so many things running through my head that sometimes I just want to give up, especially when I'm thinking at how many difficulties should I face just for this quest for love. It almost seems like this quest for love is impossible. If I would not want to fight for it I wouldn't be here, so the fact that I am writing this means that if I would receive a favorable answer from her/him I would fight with all that I have for the purpose I have in my mind.I would appreciate your thoughts concerning this matter. What do you say that I should do? Quit? Continue? How? Please feel free to share your view on this thread. Please, do not troll, joke, yell on this thread. Post something only if you can give a piece of mature, christian godly advice. God bless you!
I have not met her in person because, you see, we live in different countries. She lives in USA TX and I'm an european. I've never spoke to her and frankly she even doesn't know that I exist on this planet. I know her dad but it's not like we know each other for an eternity. We crossed paths because of our theological studies (her dad is also a theologian and I'm a student) but I don't think that he knows me very well. So, the problem is that I'm interested in his daughter but there seems to be some problems that show up at this point.You see, I'm a electrical engineer/theology student in Scotland (I study both at the same time). My life and ministry is in the North-West part of Europe but she lives in America. I mean what should I do?
There is nothing to guarentee that even if I pursue her she'd agree to have a relationship with me. Given the circumstances, especially the distance and others as well, there seem to be small chances in favor of my thoughts. You must understand that the problem it's not just the distance but also the legal, cultural, material problems and so on. I must confess that while I am interested in her I am well aware of the fact that such a potential relantionship would involve great difficulties concerning cultural, material and legal issues that would make things very stressful. Anyway it's a long way till there.
Firstly, I must get in touch with her but I can't because she does not have a FB account. She has an email address but there is no way I could find it. All that I have is my connection with her dad wich is limited.What do you think that I should do? Should I quit or should I continue? You see, in my heart I would not want to do this. I'm not interested in dating for fun, I have a purpose and a reason for why I am interested in her and I could say that I have a specific goal in my mind. I would like to be intentional but I don't know how to proceed. Everything it's so blurry at this moment. The only way I have to get to her is her dad but I am afraid of him because he might reject me. I am also afraid because I don't know how to talk to him. He does not know me well and he may be suspicious. I have friends (also in the field of theology) in the USA who are close to him and they can testify for me.
There are so many things running through my head that sometimes I just want to give up, especially when I'm thinking at how many difficulties should I face just for this quest for love. It almost seems like this quest for love is impossible. If I would not want to fight for it I wouldn't be here, so the fact that I am writing this means that if I would receive a favorable answer from her/him I would fight with all that I have for the purpose I have in my mind.I would appreciate your thoughts concerning this matter. What do you say that I should do? Quit? Continue? How? Please feel free to share your view on this thread. Please, do not troll, joke, yell on this thread. Post something only if you can give a piece of mature, christian godly advice. God bless you!
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