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Unfortunately, I kind of call myself the Queen of First Dates because over the years, I've had a lot of First Dates Only with Christian guys who would talk about serving in worship that Sunday and then ask how soon a couple could start having sex after they started dating.
And now you can see why they were only first dates.
I'm definitely not stereotyping--it could be men or women who are like this. But I just personally see them as "Celibate Until Someone Says Yes," which isn't exactly voluntary celibacy. It's just waiting for an affirmative response.
However, I know you're talking about a different, conscious decision to NOT try to seek out or request sex and of course, that's what the Christian single life is supposed to strive for in the first place.
And now you can see why they were only first dates.
I'm definitely not stereotyping--it could be men or women who are like this. But I just personally see them as "Celibate Until Someone Says Yes," which isn't exactly voluntary celibacy. It's just waiting for an affirmative response.
However, I know you're talking about a different, conscious decision to NOT try to seek out or request sex and of course, that's what the Christian single life is supposed to strive for in the first place.
I went to lunch with a guy who told me during the meal about driving an hour and a half both ways to his old church even after a year, because he loved it so much.
I literally hadn't walked through my door even 15 minutes when he had already texted me, asking when we could start having sex.
Um... Never.
Thanks for making me feel like a cheap piece of meat.
Praise God I pay my own way on dates.
I don't ever want a man to say I used him for a free anything, nor do I want anything expected from me. This is but one of several horror stories I've shared here on the forums over the years.
I literally hadn't walked through my door even 15 minutes when he had already texted me, asking when we could start having sex.
Um... Never.
Thanks for making me feel like a cheap piece of meat.
Praise God I pay my own way on dates.
I don't ever want a man to say I used him for a free anything, nor do I want anything expected from me. This is but one of several horror stories I've shared here on the forums over the years.
P.S. I am NOT knocking people for having sexual desires at all. We're all human, and I've sat through quite a few stories that would make most Christian's blood curdle, just trying to be respectful and to understand what other people have been through.
However, telling me about how awesome it was to play in the worship band that week or serve on a missions trip and then asking when we can start having sex doesn't make me feel very reassured about the sincerity of one's intentions.
Not to mention how many other fish they have on the line, just waiting for someone to say yes.
However, telling me about how awesome it was to play in the worship band that week or serve on a missions trip and then asking when we can start having sex doesn't make me feel very reassured about the sincerity of one's intentions.
Not to mention how many other fish they have on the line, just waiting for someone to say yes.
I totally can't blame it all on men. I think women are becoming ever-more aggressive as well.
All the modern music today seems to be super young female pop stars singing, "Come and get me," so I understand that guys receive totally mixed messages from our culture as a whole.
The sad part is, there was one guy in particular I might have really liked, but seeing as he literally asked me to start sleeping with him minutes after the first meeting, there was no way I was going to go out with him again, as that would have obviously always been an issue. And I barely knew him! Such a shame that he didn't give a reason to want to get to know him as even just a friend.
#ForeverSingle.
All the modern music today seems to be super young female pop stars singing, "Come and get me," so I understand that guys receive totally mixed messages from our culture as a whole.
The sad part is, there was one guy in particular I might have really liked, but seeing as he literally asked me to start sleeping with him minutes after the first meeting, there was no way I was going to go out with him again, as that would have obviously always been an issue. And I barely knew him! Such a shame that he didn't give a reason to want to get to know him as even just a friend.
#ForeverSingle.
