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After some convincing from my coworkers, I've been trying an online dating site, and it's been rather interesting.

So far I've been running into men who don't have much to say (other than hi, what's up, how are you) and I have to really work to keep the conversation moving , which to me means there's probably not a lot of chemistry, and then I'm encountering men who try to get sexual so fast. I've hit it off in conversation so far with one person, but the distance is pretty significant

I'm just going to keep an open mind for now.

Anyone have some good online dating stories? Success, disasters, or otherwise?
 
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After some convincing from my coworkers, I've been trying an online dating site, and it's been rather interesting.

So far I've been running into men who don't have much to say (other than hi, what's up, how are you) and I have to really work to keep the conversation moving , which to me means there's probably not a lot of chemistry, and then I'm encountering men who try to get sexual so fast. I've hit it off in conversation so far with one person, but the distance is pretty significant

I'm just going to keep an open mind for now.

Anyone have some good online dating stories? Success, disasters, or otherwise?
Oh boy, I had a lil adventure in the realm of OKCupid this summer. I have to say while it did kinda scare me into staying single I had actually quite a bit of fun.
 
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Oh boy, I had a lil adventure in the realm of OKCupid this summer. I have to say while it did kinda scare me into staying single I had actually quite a bit of fun.
Spill some okcupid stories dude. (If you dont mind, of course) What is the weirdest thing a girl revealed to you that just made you say "NOPE"
 
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Spill some okcupid stories dude. (If you dont mind, of course) What is the weirdest thing a girl revealed to you that just made you say "NOPE"
Heh all right, but I demand all of you which read this must be clement with me, though I will allow any number of jests at my expense for this. I'll share two examples which struck me for their differences. One was a Christian, even a regular church attender, she was actually my highest match in my 25 mile area, about 95% and also with small percentage of "Enemy" at about 5%. No tattoos, glasses, okay looking redhead. A lil feministy, lol she described herself as "Everyone compliments me saying I'm like Tina Fey."

The other one was definitely not Christian, very hostile to Christianity in fact, an admitted neopagan, into tarot, into witchcraft, very artsy fartsy, a poetess even. Tattooed, pretty blonde girl, a virgin, on the sex subject questions very much kinda shy like me and desiring of monogamy. Very interested in the same intellectual pursuits as myself. She matched pretty high with me also, about 86% but about 20% Enemy due to our fundamental religious differences.

Both were about my age, the Christian one was one year older than me, the neopagan was two years younger than me.

The Christian one out of the blue a hit me up and she was just after me from the get go. She was very interested in the fact that I am a virgin at my age. Flirting like pretty dang boldly, like in a way I cannot even fully repeat here. Let me put it this best way I can, she was uh how we shall say very tempting me openly calling me hot and talking about her body saying she was wearing nothing and what she wants me to do with her. She was the Christian one too mind you. She had five kids though, and that was the big turn off. I tried to deflect that I being a virgin am probably more like her kids in mentality than a proper husband. She proposed simply being "friends with benefits" without me need worrying about none of the marriage stuff. Insisting she was quite well off and able to care for herself financially. She was definitely pretty funny, her sense of humor was our biggest affiliation. I loved her sense of humor, but I resisted all her advances and she gave up saying she didn't mean to offend me, that her offers still stand and that she simply thought I deserved to be flirted with perceiving I had not been flirted with as such, and she was actually pretty right about that.

The neopagan lady I noticed looked around at me, but didn't speak with me so I initiated contact with her and sent her a message just to say hi. I actually ended up getting along with her quite well despite my preconceptions about her. We never talked about sex or anything even close to that topic. We both shared poetry with each other quite a bit and she esteemed me a great poet as I also esteemed her. We talked regularly for about two months. A very romantique soul whom I have to say I felt quite attracted to her. Very well read and into the same sort of books I was too. Similar tastes in music also, in fact she showed me my new favorite pop singer Melanie Martinez. Though when she brought up American horror romanticism, particularly Herman Melville, I brought up the Bible and recommended that she should read it even if she doesn't believe in it just for the sake of its sheer influence on literature such as with Melville's famed tale. She just stopped talking to me totally for that.

Those two I talked to the most. I tried talking to some of the other ladies but they just stop talking after one or two messages, never clicked like the others so I just deleted my account. Thus ended my OKCupid Saga.
 
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After some convincing from my coworkers, I've been trying an online dating site, and it's been rather interesting.

So far I've been running into men who don't have much to say (other than hi, what's up, how are you) and I have to really work to keep the conversation moving , which to me means there's probably not a lot of chemistry, and then I'm encountering men who try to get sexual so fast. I've hit it off in conversation so far with one person, but the distance is pretty significant

I'm just going to keep an open mind for now.

Anyone have some good online dating stories? Success, disasters, or otherwise?
Dating sites mostly contain people looking for sex. I have never used one, but so many i've heard from, that's what i hear.
And the chance of meeting someone very close is less likely, so if distance is an issue for you then online dating may be a problem. Or you just have to simply refuse to talk to anyone outside of the radius you choose.
I avoid dating sites, or being too active in seeking anyone out. I just go about my business, keeping my eyes open and waiting till something with someone clicks. The more actively you seek the more people you have to deal with and sift through, like you're doing now.
 
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Dating sites mostly contain people looking for sex. I have never used one, but so many i've heard from, that's what i hear.
And the chance of meeting someone very close is less likely, so if distance is an issue for you then online dating may be a problem. Or you just have to simply refuse to talk to anyone outside of the radius you choose.
I avoid dating sites, or being too active in seeking anyone out. I just go about my business, keeping my eyes open and waiting till something with someone clicks. The more actively you seek the more people you have to deal with and sift through, like you're doing now.
Besides the one Christian lady that was after me I have to disagree. Though perhaps it is different from a male perspective. Heh Ugly I'd think you'd actually have a fun time trying out a dating website if you can keep yourself away from all the ladies falling over you. I have to say for OKCupid the majority of the enjoyment I got out of it despite never dating was just seeing all the answers and ponderings of people in my area.

A very eye opening experience indeed.
Wait a minute, did your avatar just wink at me?
 
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Besides the one Christian lady that was after me I have to disagree. Though perhaps it is different from a male perspective. Heh Ugly I'd think you'd actually have a fun time trying out a dating website if you can keep yourself away from all the ladies falling over you. I have to say for OKCupid the majority of the enjoyment I got out of it despite never dating was just seeing all the answers and ponderings of people in my area.

A very eye opening experience indeed.
Wait a minute, did your avatar just wink at me?
I abhor the 'dating scene'. I'm not a big fan of idle chit chat with strangers.
And my take on the sex focus on dating sites comes from a multitude of women i've spoken to on the subject, and some men i've seen say similar things. Not to mention various forms of media who have made similar statements. Why do you think Match.com added a section for married people?
Your 'women falling all over you' comment seemed condescending and sarcastic. Perhaps i'm wrong? That's not at all reflective of how i perceive things or my expectations.
 
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I abhor the 'dating scene'. I'm not a big fan of idle chit chat with strangers.
And my take on the sex focus on dating sites comes from a multitude of women i've spoken to on the subject, and some men i've seen say similar things. Not to mention various forms of media who have made similar statements. Why do you think Match.com added a section for married people?
Your 'women falling all over you' comment seemed condescending and sarcastic. Perhaps i'm wrong? That's not at all reflective of how i perceive things or my expectations.
Never tried match.com, thought you had to pay for it.

Not sarcastic or condescending at all Ugly, I know your screenname belies your charms. I'm pretty dang sure you've probably had more women chase you than me lol.
 
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I have female friends who also run into guys on social media with sex on the forefront of their minds. Have you tried christian dating sites because you'll mostly run in to lustful people on worldly dating sites.
 
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I have female friends who also run into guys on social media with sex on the forefront of their minds. Have you tried christian dating sites because you'll mostly run in to lustful people on worldly dating sites.
I thought you had to pay for those also, so I never tried them. Though in my opinion they're both worldly, one just has a nice façade.
 
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After some convincing from my coworkers, I've been trying an online dating site, and it's been rather interesting.

So far I've been running into men who don't have much to say (other than hi, what's up, how are you) and I have to really work to keep the conversation moving , which to me means there's probably not a lot of chemistry,
Possibly. If they won't open up a bit after a couple of exchanges, then it's probably time to move on.

and then I'm encountering men who try to get sexual so fast.
I've gotten to this topic right away with women as well. However, I have always been direct and upfront that I am a male that has - and is - waiting until marriage for sex.

I've hit it off in conversation so far with one person, but the distance is pretty significant
Long distance is very hard to do. There has to be good communication to hold it together. Also, one person has to be open to relocating. If neither person is open to that at the start, there is a good chance of the relationship ending in heartbreak and misery.

I'm just going to keep an open mind for now.

Anyone have some good online dating stories? Success, disasters, or otherwise?
Write a profile that explains/describes your interests/beliefs/positions, what you're looking for in a mate, and what you have to offer.

I did that here on CC(which is not, as many will remind us, a dating website). A gal on here took interest in my "profile write-up" and decided to strike a conversation with me. That was in April 2015.

She graduated from college in December 2016 and is about to train for a job that will have her where I live(ND) in March/April. She has been on the West Coast.
 
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Possibly. If they won't open up a bit after a couple of exchanges, then it's probably time to move on.


I've gotten to this topic right away with women as well. However, I have always been direct and upfront that I am a male that has - and is - waiting until marriage for sex.


Long distance is very hard to do. There has to be good communication to hold it together. Also, one person has to be open to relocating. If neither person is open to that at the start, there is a good chance of the relationship ending in heartbreak and misery.


Write a profile that explains/describes your interests/beliefs/positions, what you're looking for in a mate, and what you have to offer.

I did that here on CC(which is not, as many will remind us, a dating website). A gal on here took interest in my "profile write-up" and decided to strike a conversation with me. That was in April 2015.

She graduated from college in December 2016 and is about to train for a job that will have her where I live(ND) in March/April. She has been on the West Coast.
Oooh, saucy, now everyone here is gonna be super curious who that is. I hope you well indeed. Maybe not a dating website, but I've thought many times it be wiser for people here to date than chancing an OKCupid encounter lol. I hope you the best on that quite sincerely.
 
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Never tried match.com, thought you had to pay for it.

Not sarcastic or condescending at all Ugly, I know your screenname belies your charms. I'm pretty dang sure you've probably had more women chase you than me lol.
I believe you do, i'm not sure. I saw it in the news about a month ago.

Well i'm not one to chase women, which i think women like seeing someone that isn't putting it all out there hoping to catch whoever happens to walk by.
But in reality most women who were into me just liked me because i have the whole 'counselor' thing going on. And once they are past that need, surprise, they're over me too =P


Good thing i asked, but i don't know about charming. Unless i buy some Lucky Charms cereal. Hmm...
 
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I believe you do, i'm not sure. I saw it in the news about a month ago.

Well i'm not one to chase women, which i think women like seeing someone that isn't putting it all out there hoping to catch whoever happens to walk by.
But in reality most women who were into me just liked me because i have the whole 'counselor' thing going on. And once they are past that need, surprise, they're over me too =P


Good thing i asked, but i don't know about charming. Unless i buy some Lucky Charms cereal. Hmm...
Yes, I remember.

Heh so it is true more women do chase you more than chase me heheheheh. You always did think too hardly on yourself Ugly, you're very charming, even just as a friend.

As for the dating sites, like I said I'd think you'd like it for exactly your counsellor mentality. Or in my foolish mentality, observing the human zoo. Crikey though some bite!
 
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Yes, I remember.

Heh so it is true more women do chase you more than chase me heheheheh. You always did think too hardly on yourself Ugly, you're very charming, even just as a friend.

As for the dating sites, like I said I'd think you'd like it for exactly your counsellor mentality. Or in my foolish mentality, observing the human zoo. Crikey though some bite!
Umm... do i know you?

Yeah, but it would also be very draining. And sad. And with my 'rescue the damsel in distress' i'd end up involved with yet another false relationship. No thanks.
 
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Umm... do i know you?

Yeah, but it would also be very draining. And sad. And with my 'rescue the damsel in distress' i'd end up involved with yet another false relationship. No thanks.
I feel it, am a sucker for the tales of knights and princesses as well.

Though I can't really think of how a relationship can be false, maybe flawed, but truly either people got a relationship or they don't.

As for me yea we truly had a relationship before as friends, or so I thought anyways. But that's neither here or there I suppose.
 
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Oooh, saucy, now everyone here is gonna be super curious who that is. I hope you well indeed. Maybe not a dating website, but I've thought many times it be wiser for people here to date than chancing an OKCupid encounter lol. I hope you the best on that quite sincerely.
everyone here is gonna be super curious who that is She doesn't spend much time on CC.

I've thought many times it be wiser for people here to date than chancing an OKCupid The number of non-Christians on this site are in the vast minority, I think. A Christian will have a much better chance of interacting with and finding a believer of the other gender here, then, then the secular dating websites.

Still, some of the things I read from professing Christians - even here - are baffling. Christian or not...I read things that are clearly incompatible with my view/understanding of Christianity.

One can claim to be a Christian. Definitely doesn't make the person automatically compatible.
 
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everyone here is gonna be super curious who that is She doesn't spend much time on CC.

I've thought many times it be wiser for people here to date than chancing an OKCupid The number of non-Christians on this site are in the vast minority, I think. A Christian will have a much better chance of interacting with and finding a believer of the other gender here, then, then the secular dating websites.

Still, some of the things I read from professing Christians - even here - are baffling. Christian or not...I read things that are clearly incompatible with my view/understanding of Christianity.

One can claim to be a Christian. Definitely doesn't make the person automatically compatible.
I agree, just a thought that recurs in my mind from time to time. Happy for you for sure though.

As for real flawless Christians on CC, oh I quite agree, I know it only too well and very intimately. I have to say frankly there's only 1 I can say with verity that is, and no it's not me. That's okay though, we gotta keep trying.
 
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I feel it, am a sucker for the tales of knights and princesses as well.

Though I can't really think of how a relationship can be false, maybe flawed, but truly either people got a relationship or they don't.

As for me yea we truly had a relationship before as friends, or so I thought anyways. But that's neither here or there I suppose.
Well, if someone is using you, even unintentionally, it's hard to qualify that as a real relationship.

Well, since it only shows this name as a day old i can't really speak to any previous friendship we had without knowing who you are.
 
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I've never used a dating site. If I did though I would make myself sound as
boring, ugly and poor as possibly (sorry ugly :p).

Then if someone was interested at least I would know they didn't want me just for my
body or money!