am I undateable or have they been the wrong ones

[Justyaaveraggurl2017]

@Miriah I can so relate to what you are struggling with. I am in a similar situation. I am not that well off financially, I don't have the best education and I am by no means the prettiest in the bunch. That use to trouble me a great deal until the Lord showed me that though I trusted Him for my Salvation I was not trusting Him with my heart. By that I mean I was not trusting Him to provide the things my heart needed and longed for as a woman, as a person. I did not believe He could truly be what my heart needed Himself, by Himself. That is something you have to come to believe and experience in your life or you will always measure your worth, your value, your identity by externals and will always look to created things to experience true happiness. I encourage you to begin establishing your identity as a person and your worth as woman in Christ alone. And from their focus on who Christ is, not just on what He has done for you in Redemption but also on who He is. His character, His attributes, His beauty as the God-Man. As you do these two things you will begin to see and experience in your heart, that what you are looking for, you already have in abundance. Isaiah 54:5 For your Maker is your husband, the LORD of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called.

 

[Yeraza_Bats]

I agree with some posts here and dont agree with others.
Like, I mean you have some weight issues. Well, alot of guys do, too. Its a part of living in this modern world. And while I strongly suggest working on changing it (I can promise you that I know that struggle, I currently weigh over 200 lbs and really want to lose it), I dont believe you should judge your worth on that. I mean yeah its not good to be over weight, but many people are, this isnt something thats exclusive to you : p
If youre worried about that, its best to seek someone who understands the issue, as there are many many males who are experiencing the same issue.

I do believe you should work on bettering yourself, but like others have already posted, do it because its right for you. Your life will become better and you will feel better about yourself.

As for the original question, "am I undateable", I would say that varies with who you are asking : p Not every male is focused on the same thing, and there are some who place more importance on personality than looks. Keep yourself clean and practice good grooming habits, those things are important yeah : p But dont let yourself believe you are worthless for having a few issues to overcome, these are issues that all and every type of people deal with.

And I always tell anyone who feels any kind of sadness over not being in a relationship, seek God first. I used to be the same way, my lifes worth was completely and absolutely determined by whether or not I was in a relationship. After coming to God and asking Him for guidance and help, I have completely changed and feel at peace now, and I no longer feel its such an important thing : p

Sorry for the long post, these are just things that I have alot to say about : p

 

[pete13]

Growing up I was pretty much a trouble maker, often skipped school and if I was there I would be sent to the principal's office, I started having sex at a young age, and I became a drug addict.

Thank God saved me and forgave me even if I didn't deserve it. I repented, He got me out of my addiction, He told me and has showed me He loves me and so I started seeing me the way He sees me. BUT I still have so many things in my life that I need to work on that I did see till guys started pursuing.

First of all I am obese so hardly any guys feel attracted to me but I've had some Christian guys who actually like my personality, the way I talk about God (they have told me) but once they know I dropped out of school, I am still living with my family, I don't have a car, and when something like multiplication or where places of the world are and in the Bible studies they ask me to read out loud and they see I don't read fluently and I don't know things I should've known sense elementary school they friend zone me. The bad decisions I made in the past come back to me.

I've always wanted to get married and have a family but sense am not that attractive and the guys that do give me a chance get turned off with what I mentioned above it began to lower my self-esteem and made me feel undatable and unwanted by men.

Any advice, comments or whatever you'd like to say will be appreciated! Thank you and may God bless you all

Stay off the carbonated drinks, ice cream, candies, chocolate bars, deep fried chicken, fries, cakes and doughnuts. only then will you get a husband.lol.

 

[mj007]

You just have to love yourself just as God loves you. Find what you love, do what you love. When you can see the love from God to you, through your own love for yourself, you will find you become more what you love about you, rather than what you do not love, and you will not be needy of it so much from others, or question whether you deserve it. People who also have a more natural and spiritual love for themselves, or who can inspire you more that, will love you whether as friend or partner because you are both more aligned with God, and love each other for who you are, what you love, and your beliefs, rather than by the amount of love shown to each other - and whether you are meant to be or not becomes less important. Relationship love should never be an escape, but a sharing and a giving of love that shines outwards between you. However that kind of love is rarer. They say opposites attract, but I think two people on similar levels and path is something more Godly. You will know that person because they will be like a best friend and you will just know it with a pure conscious, just as Jesus is to the faithful one. So have faith, that person is also growing and waiting for you to be the best of you and ready to meet them.