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Dear Hearts,
Our desires are known to God. He sees them right there within you and in the process He longs to shape you into an obedient woman of God when you allow him access all areas. Like an artist who carefully sculpts together a beautiful creation. His purpose is simply to grow you closer to Him in the very topic you’ve brought towards Him.
My desire is to be married one day, I believe most of us want this at some stage and it’s not to be something we feel rushed into because the world is showing us that we’re missing out on it because we’re received yet another wedding invitation from someone we went to school with. That’s too much pressure to put on yourself. God wants to lift that from your shoulders. Just breathe! Take heart in knowing that God knows where your weaknesses are and is using these very ones to shape you. No man can do that, only God. I encourage you before you enter into someone else’s life, first enter into silence with God because this is where the biggest changes begin and its for your good, and for the good of your future relationships. In my desires now I’ve learnt to be silent in God and I can see in doing has brought me wisdom and understanding in His plan for me.
I don’t just want to marry a man who goes to church, which I understand is the very reasons as to why I’ve been asked to speak on this topic again. I want to marry a man who brings the church home too, to our home, a man who can lead me in the ways the Bible speaks of and like a confident man would in a church home group. Not just because I need this in my walk but because I desire this for my future families walk too. When I was invited to write this post I found a few repetitive verse I’ve been studying to gain a deeper understanding, one is found in Proverbs 11:14 “Where there is no guidance a person falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is victory”. So basically this speaks directly to my specific desires of finding a man who will lead in a Godly way because the Bible encourages us men and women to plug into friends in our walk with Him so that we become like Him (Romans 12:2). I do know that ‘love is blind’ and so we need accountable friends to help us seek our desires how God has called us to. Be careful of which friends you do go to, I don’t want to take my ways to a friend and not be open to receiving their opinions. Or pick the ones who I know will agree with me in. This is where He might want you to change, if you’re so reluctant to change or see a glimpse of truth in it then I’m positive you’ve a prayer right there to take to God. Take this into stillness. I want my relationship to be one that submits to Gods ways and this level of faith matters and is to be met before I enter into anything serious.
I have become sensitive to the dating world because I believe God has given me His protection in it by the ones I’ve witnessed, even Christian ones. I fully understand no relationship is easy. I’ve seen just how easy it is to fall for someone who brings us happiness, security, fun and laughter above the things God desires for us. These things are for sure good feelings. I repeat, these are just feelings. It’s easy to become people pleasers in our work lives but also in the dating life too. Many might not know they’re doing it. I would imagine their are more people pleasers in the dating scene than anywhere else. I’m passionate about dating a man who worships in similar ways as I do, not just worship by singing but by serving and fellowshipping because to me this feeling of unity is important to me and again, one I desire for my family to witness too. I don’t want to be a victim of a ‘get the girl’ relationship and finding out later, that he actually only went along with those things because he wanted to make me happy because yes he does love me but not in the same way God intends me to love someone. Surely this is a selfish love because he’s trying to get the girl.
I heard a guest speaker talk about Joy last week at a church I attended in Texas, she’s a writer for Christian Women magazine and as we walked into church the large screens read ‘Your husband can’t make you happy’ and those words have stuck to me like glue since. Amusing as it was to read, it had a strong message attached to it. It has given me an understanding too that my happiness wont depend on another human. The speaker was called Sheila Wray, she is a lady I admire because she made me squirm in my seat and the Bible often has the same effect on me. I can imagine not many women like to hear such a thing, that a man can’t make them happy. I’ve found in my walk that the thing we don’t want to change is often the very thing we must change in order for it to become cleansed, the end result of this is a clear vision and that walks side-by-side with confidence. Our ways and desires become His desires and so my desire to be married to a man who is apart of the church is one God has very much blessed me in as I’m sure He’d not want anything else. Remember He knows our inner workings and where I’ve been on my journey as a small child right up to now. He doesn’t desire me to be in a relationships with someone that when I am weak, vulnerable it is where I might linger in. I desire to be constantly growing towards Him and that the first solution my other half will offer me will be with an open Bible. Yes, I have been that specific with God in this. She ended with “You can’t appreciate what’s outside of you until you’re at peace with what’s inside. And that requires focusing on God first.”
To me my wilderness experiences, where God has lead me into times of solitude have been heartbreaking, they are. I’ve needed to break in order to become a confident woman in God but this hasn’t been just for my benefit but it has benefitted in other areas of my life. I’m not ashamed of saying that I am confident in God, because I’ve made better choices for being who I’ve fought to become today. I encourage all of you and I tell my friends often, to put aside their feelings of happiness, safety and fun to see what’s left over. To me a relationship is much deeper than these things and I’m thankful to God who took away my stubbornness to s that I could be lead to His voice. This voice in the wilderness can be found in the silence 1 King 19:12 backs me up. It’s this whisper that’s calling so many of us away to be alone with Him.
I read once that a Christian man who is not open to counsel and hides from accountability is a man who is not ready to be open with a wife despite how ready she may feel. He may seem strong and independent, but he may actually be prideful.
Know His desires quietly before you take a step closer, because “till death do us part” is an awfully long time.
You are so loved.
Chloe Louise
Our desires are known to God. He sees them right there within you and in the process He longs to shape you into an obedient woman of God when you allow him access all areas. Like an artist who carefully sculpts together a beautiful creation. His purpose is simply to grow you closer to Him in the very topic you’ve brought towards Him.
My desire is to be married one day, I believe most of us want this at some stage and it’s not to be something we feel rushed into because the world is showing us that we’re missing out on it because we’re received yet another wedding invitation from someone we went to school with. That’s too much pressure to put on yourself. God wants to lift that from your shoulders. Just breathe! Take heart in knowing that God knows where your weaknesses are and is using these very ones to shape you. No man can do that, only God. I encourage you before you enter into someone else’s life, first enter into silence with God because this is where the biggest changes begin and its for your good, and for the good of your future relationships. In my desires now I’ve learnt to be silent in God and I can see in doing has brought me wisdom and understanding in His plan for me.
I don’t just want to marry a man who goes to church, which I understand is the very reasons as to why I’ve been asked to speak on this topic again. I want to marry a man who brings the church home too, to our home, a man who can lead me in the ways the Bible speaks of and like a confident man would in a church home group. Not just because I need this in my walk but because I desire this for my future families walk too. When I was invited to write this post I found a few repetitive verse I’ve been studying to gain a deeper understanding, one is found in Proverbs 11:14 “Where there is no guidance a person falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is victory”. So basically this speaks directly to my specific desires of finding a man who will lead in a Godly way because the Bible encourages us men and women to plug into friends in our walk with Him so that we become like Him (Romans 12:2). I do know that ‘love is blind’ and so we need accountable friends to help us seek our desires how God has called us to. Be careful of which friends you do go to, I don’t want to take my ways to a friend and not be open to receiving their opinions. Or pick the ones who I know will agree with me in. This is where He might want you to change, if you’re so reluctant to change or see a glimpse of truth in it then I’m positive you’ve a prayer right there to take to God. Take this into stillness. I want my relationship to be one that submits to Gods ways and this level of faith matters and is to be met before I enter into anything serious.
I have become sensitive to the dating world because I believe God has given me His protection in it by the ones I’ve witnessed, even Christian ones. I fully understand no relationship is easy. I’ve seen just how easy it is to fall for someone who brings us happiness, security, fun and laughter above the things God desires for us. These things are for sure good feelings. I repeat, these are just feelings. It’s easy to become people pleasers in our work lives but also in the dating life too. Many might not know they’re doing it. I would imagine their are more people pleasers in the dating scene than anywhere else. I’m passionate about dating a man who worships in similar ways as I do, not just worship by singing but by serving and fellowshipping because to me this feeling of unity is important to me and again, one I desire for my family to witness too. I don’t want to be a victim of a ‘get the girl’ relationship and finding out later, that he actually only went along with those things because he wanted to make me happy because yes he does love me but not in the same way God intends me to love someone. Surely this is a selfish love because he’s trying to get the girl.
I heard a guest speaker talk about Joy last week at a church I attended in Texas, she’s a writer for Christian Women magazine and as we walked into church the large screens read ‘Your husband can’t make you happy’ and those words have stuck to me like glue since. Amusing as it was to read, it had a strong message attached to it. It has given me an understanding too that my happiness wont depend on another human. The speaker was called Sheila Wray, she is a lady I admire because she made me squirm in my seat and the Bible often has the same effect on me. I can imagine not many women like to hear such a thing, that a man can’t make them happy. I’ve found in my walk that the thing we don’t want to change is often the very thing we must change in order for it to become cleansed, the end result of this is a clear vision and that walks side-by-side with confidence. Our ways and desires become His desires and so my desire to be married to a man who is apart of the church is one God has very much blessed me in as I’m sure He’d not want anything else. Remember He knows our inner workings and where I’ve been on my journey as a small child right up to now. He doesn’t desire me to be in a relationships with someone that when I am weak, vulnerable it is where I might linger in. I desire to be constantly growing towards Him and that the first solution my other half will offer me will be with an open Bible. Yes, I have been that specific with God in this. She ended with “You can’t appreciate what’s outside of you until you’re at peace with what’s inside. And that requires focusing on God first.”
To me my wilderness experiences, where God has lead me into times of solitude have been heartbreaking, they are. I’ve needed to break in order to become a confident woman in God but this hasn’t been just for my benefit but it has benefitted in other areas of my life. I’m not ashamed of saying that I am confident in God, because I’ve made better choices for being who I’ve fought to become today. I encourage all of you and I tell my friends often, to put aside their feelings of happiness, safety and fun to see what’s left over. To me a relationship is much deeper than these things and I’m thankful to God who took away my stubbornness to s that I could be lead to His voice. This voice in the wilderness can be found in the silence 1 King 19:12 backs me up. It’s this whisper that’s calling so many of us away to be alone with Him.
I read once that a Christian man who is not open to counsel and hides from accountability is a man who is not ready to be open with a wife despite how ready she may feel. He may seem strong and independent, but he may actually be prideful.
Know His desires quietly before you take a step closer, because “till death do us part” is an awfully long time.
You are so loved.
Chloe Louise
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