Is love always mutual?

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Dread_Zeppelin

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#21
If you're trying too hard to love someone romantically its probably not going to happen.
 
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Matthew

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kostik said:
But we can't be husband and wife, just because we don't like each others bodies. It's so unfair. Bible says that our bodies are not important, but in this case it is important. I know that one heart burning with love sets another on fire. Maybe if you love her (but you are not her type), she will love you too. But she will love you like she loves her puppy, and this is not what you want.
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There is sooooo.....much talk in this forum about being 'equal' and 'compatible' in all ways in order to make a relationship or a marriage work, but that is all secondary and can be dealt with over time if the love is strong and both are willing.
At the core you need to feel the same love for eachother, maybe that translates into being eachothers 'type', but love is an ineffable thing and if you don't feel it the rest really doesn't matter, and that love needs to exist on all levels to some extent, emotional, spiritual and physical.

I know it's frustrating to meet someone who is so close to perfect but something is missing, it seems a cruel joke and like you've walked 9 out 10 steps and someone has stopped you there.
Sometimes it changes over time as like you say one heart can set another on fire but the only thing that can prove that is time, try to force it and you may kill it.

I have seen people go into these relationships, it's often what happens when people 'settle', they find someone who ticks the boxes of compatability but whom in truth they do not love, there is no fire in their heart and the results aren't something to envy, in the end resentment grows and either the relationship fails or both people are never truly happy and the real tragedy is minus the forced romance the two people could, and probably should have pursued what would have been a wonderful friendship.
 
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