there seems to be this idea in christianity today that God plays matchmaker between christians and he'll bring someone into your life, apart from a few exceptions in the Bible where people were brought together for specific reasons like mary and joseph there is no evidence God plays cupid.
It's unethical to promote this idea he does because it can cause christians who've ended up in abusive or terrible marriages to blame God for matching them with that person even if that person was a claimed christian.
For men especially telling them to not actively pursue relationships will result in a girl never approaching you either unless you are model good looks.
I am getting close to 40 and I was fed the lie of not pursuing a relationship and just waiting on God for a relationship and it never happened. I am never going to get an apology from the people that taught me this because they can simply tell me to be patient and trust in God and wait longer for a relationship, not till I am 100 and giving my last breath will they ever admit they were wrong but can then just easily claim I was given the gift of celibacy. That's very convenient to have a belief system to put everything in fate essentially.