I need some advice!!!

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Musilany

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I have a friend that is not a christian, he is very depressed, he doesnt have many friends and I have tried everything I could to help him. I have talked to him unumerous times about God, about my testemony about all the proofs of the bible, any question he had i have done my best to explain to him.

The good thing is that he always listens to me, but its because he likes me and everytime we talk he keeps trying asking me out and sayind that i am beautiful and all that stuff.

I need some advice. I know that we cant't save anybody, but the bible tell us to witness and help our brothers so that is what o am trying to do. Sometimes I just fell like its just so pointless to talk to him anymore...And everytime i talk to him i feel like i am giving him some kind of hope and i dont want to hurt his feelings...
So should i keep being like a close friend and always talking and helping him even though its kinda anoying sometimes and i dont see any change or i should just stop all this give up...
 
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Just pray for him. If he doesn't want to come to Christ the good way. God will use “the bad way” trough sufferings (He will lose something that is really important for him) that will teach him, and someday he will become christian too.
 

zeroturbulence

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At this point I think the best thing to do is tell him you've tried your best to help him and you're sorry but there's nothing else you can do for him and that he has to figure out for himself what he must do because it is now beginning to bring u down too.

He may be trying to play the 'damsel in distress', making you (the rescuer) stick around and comfort him because he likes you. Dont answer his texts or emails or calls.

If he still wont leave u alone and u want to make him stop liking you get overly critical on him, make fun of him in front of your friends and treat him like he is stupid. (of course this is not what a chrisitan should do..but it works)
 
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Musilany

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Thanks guys!!!!
The thing is, God never gives up on us, and I know many people that came to Christ because they had a christian friend that was always there for them...I think i should still talk to HIm sometimes and let him know that he can always count on me but also keep a distance and not be as close of a friend as I used to...
 

zeroturbulence

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Thanks guys!!!!
The thing is, God never gives up on us, and I know many people that came to Christ because they had a christian friend that was always there for them...I think i should still talk to HIm sometimes and let him know that he can always count on me but also keep a distance and not be as close of a friend as I used to...
Ah, a friend with a heart of gold. There arent too many of you in this world you know. ;) He is lucky to have you.
 
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pinkie

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i think you should be his friend from a distance,explain that you are not interested in anything romantically with him but that he is very nice or kind or whatever you think he is and then be your kind self. he knows you believe in God and your testimony. the way that i found Christ was through a friend who didnt try to push me into believing but who was oh sooo kind to me and my family. her unending kindness proved to me that there must be a God because id never met a human being as lovely as her. i think if we show them how Jesus is rather than telling them alot people will break down their own barriers to the Lord. You seem like a really nice person. May God Bless You.
p.s i hope everything works out ok
 
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Musilany

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Thank you guys!!!
 

QuestionTime

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Thanks guys!!!!
The thing is, God never gives up on us, and I know many people that came to Christ because they had a christian friend that was always there for them...I think i should still talk to HIm sometimes and let him know that he can always count on me but also keep a distance and not be as close of a friend as I used to...

I agree that keeping your distance is wise.

Quest
 

zeroturbulence

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i think you should be his friend from a distance,explain that you are not interested in anything romantically with him but that he is very nice or kind or whatever you think he is and then be your kind self. he knows you believe in God and your testimony. the way that i found Christ was through a friend who didnt try to push me into believing but who was oh sooo kind to me and my family. her unending kindness proved to me that there must be a God because id never met a human being as lovely as her. i think if we show them how Jesus is rather than telling them alot people will break down their own barriers to the Lord. You seem like a really nice person. May God Bless You.
p.s i hope everything works out ok
That is awesome!! And great advice too!
 
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Dartwill

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my advice, well youve done your part by helping him out with the truth, and praying for him. now let God handle the rest. put your faith in action and let go, and let God take over. people with depression and anxiety many times have deeper issues that they themselves dont know much about. but God does. trust Him and believe.
 
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angelos

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everytime right before you talk to him pray for wisdom and guidance from the spirit. Keep watering the seed; always point him to Christ even if it seems like he isn't getting it; always shine the light within you. Be a beacon to him if you're one of the only ones showing him kindness then you are a light to him. show him the reason for the light he sees.
 
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mcubed

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I have a friend that is not a christian, he is very depressed, he doesnt have many friends and I have tried everything I could to help him. I have talked to him unumerous times about God, about my testemony about all the proofs of the bible, any question he had i have done my best to explain to him.

The good thing is that he always listens to me, but its because he likes me and everytime we talk he keeps trying asking me out and sayind that i am beautiful and all that stuff.

I need some advice. I know that we cant't save anybody, but the bible tell us to witness and help our brothers so that is what o am trying to do. Sometimes I just fell like its just so pointless to talk to him anymore...And everytime i talk to him i feel like i am giving him some kind of hope and i dont want to hurt his feelings...
So should i keep being like a close friend and always talking and helping him even though its kinda anoying sometimes and i dont see any change or i should just stop all this give up...

YESHUA IS THE LIVING HOPE NOT A FALSE HOPE; How could someone quite pointing to Yeshua unless that person said stop??