Pre-date routine

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Shave, take a shower, dress nice, put some hugo boss on and make sure I have enough money on me.

Although, I've never really been on a date.
 
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Pre date routine.

As a happily married man of 25 years who had his last date 28 years ago, I would say be yourself.
What you see is what you get.

Mind you that's the beginning of courtship.

It feels good to give an impression, just make sure it's the right impression. That is 'this is me'
This isn't exclusive to a first date...do you have any things you like to do whenever you take your wife out?

I don't go on 'dates'. Hate the whole idea. I form friendships and let those blossom into romance. I avoid the whole 'putting on an act to impress a stranger' thing.
It doesn't have to be a stranger, do you do anything when you meet your lady-friend-who-blossomed-into-something-more?
 

JosephsDreams

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I was vain in my early thirties. I worked out a lot, liked nice clothes, etc. I was also agonizingly slow in getting ready. Took forever in the shower. Then my hair had to be just right, my clothes ironed to perfection, checked out the mirror about 5 times for how I looked.
I met a woman at a super market and we exchanged numbers. I called her and we had a great conversation. We arranged a date. We haggled a little over the time to meet. I wanted to meet about a hour later then she wanted to. I offered, "it takes me like 1 hour and 45 minutes to 2 and a half hours to get ready."

There was silence on the phone for about 7 seconds. When she finally spoke she said, "I don't think this is going to work out between us, we should call the date off."
 
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I was vain in my early thirties. I worked out a lot, liked nice clothes, etc. I was also agonizingly slow in getting ready. Took forever in the shower. Then my hair had to be just right, my clothes ironed to perfection, checked out the mirror about 5 times for how I looked.
I met a woman at a super market and we exchanged numbers. I called her and we had a great conversation. We arranged a date. We haggled a little over the time to meet. I wanted to meet about a hour later then she wanted to. I offered, "it takes me like 1 hour and 45 minutes to 2 and a half hours to get ready."

There was silence on the phone for about 7 seconds. When she finally spoke she said, "I don't think this is going to work out between us, we should call the date off."
Ouch:D:D:D
 

rachelsedge

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after looking at some of the comments I feel like a outsider.. I dont overdo my routine..opposite lol!!! I put the absolute least time into a dating routine. Completely me only. No makeup, all I do is some protection prayers.. No need for high heels. Especially when ur around and about like me, Im just me, not even attempting to be someone else.
Hmm, I wouldn't really say that those of us who fuss up before a date are trying to be someone else? Maybe you weren't implying that, just kind of how I read it.

I'm comfortable with who I am when I'm sans makeup, hair in a rat's nest bun and wearing my old lounge clothes, but at the same time I don't think I'm pretending to be anyone else, either, when I dress up and put on makeup.
 

JosephsDreams

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This is my usual roll out of bed don't comb the hair or worry about the torn shirt look I now usually walk around with.
Trust me, God can change anyone.

 
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Shower, makeup, perfume, dress in a presentable outfit ;)
 
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This is my usual roll out of bed don't comb the hair or worry about the torn shirt look I now usually walk around with.
Trust me, God can change anyone.

This is pre-date prep, Josephdreams, not your everyday routine! :D


Although with some of the responses I could start a whole other thread....does dating just stop altogether when you're married or in a relationship? (Am I being naive to think otherwise?) I think it's fun to dress up sometimes to go out, or put on makeup, etc. why does it have to be associated with vanity and being inauthentic?
 

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Don't forget to brush your tooth.
Yes I said tooth... just in case someone here only has one.
 

IDEAtor

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Aww, good pep talk! Nerves make us forget simple things



You really go extra miles there, asking preferred car scent of choice! And coordinating your outfits.

I can't get my car spotless unless i get it professionally detailed these days (which I don't because I'm being cheap) my dog and i track sand EVERYWHERE, (um, I don't have a driveway yet and we go to the park a lot) and I park under trees so I get all kinds of sap and seeds and stuff stuck to the outside. I used a hand vacuum to get what I can but it's a hopeless situation for now. But I do put a "new car" scented freshener in my car, so that counts for something, right?



I like to binge watch the office to distract myself :D
I also try to strike a good scent balance with perfume/lotion, seems many of us have that in common (i see all you polo sport fans)
I have an ex who wore lacoste and it fiercely reminds me of him every time I smell it. And lavender makes me queasy now after an experience I had when I was sick. Scent is so powerful.
Yes, it counts; however, for me, pungent is too much.
But a subtle and pleasing aroma is welcome to all-- I think.
As for your other comment, I get the sappy position you find yourself in. :)
Hey, does that mean you live in a seedy park of town? :(
 

Calmador

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Put on the good hair gel...

That is all! And that's all I need ;D
 
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This is my usual roll out of bed don't comb the hair or worry about the torn shirt look I now usually walk around with.
Trust me, God can change anyone.



It worked for Gene Wilder!


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JosephsDreams

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This is pre-date prep, Josephdreams, not your everyday routine! :D


Although with some of the responses I could start a whole other thread....does dating just stop altogether when you're married or in a relationship? (Am I being naive to think otherwise?) I think it's fun to dress up sometimes to go out, or put on makeup, etc. why does it have to be associated with vanity and being inauthentic?

That's my point. This is my pre date prep. That's it.
Roll out of bed, that's the look I go with on my dates.
Probably why I don't get anymore dates...
 
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I have a question = does a "date" automatically imply romantic in a woman's prospective?

i have been on a few "dates" with woman I barely know and to me it's just get to know her and I feel like I've let them down bc I wasn't romantic.