My experience using dating site.

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Fromdomlove

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Hello everybody. I have been using a dating site for couples of days and my experience so far is either good or bad. I mean...no sister has answer me not sister has rejected me. I know..i know..im a joke. Not in churches..not in buses..not in supermaket...not in the street...not in internet. :( i have emailed her several times, and not even a hello. Shame on me!!!
 
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renewed_hope

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I dont want to make this sound like I am making fun of you, but your post kind of reminds me of Green Eggs and Ham. "I will not like them here or there". "I will not like them anywhere" lol.

Just remember they eventually love the Green Eggs and Ham so I know that one day you will find love, just in Gods time :)
 
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Ugly

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Women can sense desperation. It's a turn off for them. You sound desperate. And a bit whiny. Another turn off. Why not not focus on dating and instead focus on living your life? Maybe someone will come along, maybe not. But at least you won't have spent your life wallowing in self pity, desperation and empty wishes.
 
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Fromdomlove

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Yes i know that. But i cant help it. Im like that...some women would say intense..some would say desperate...some would say crazy
...some would say passionate.
 

Dino246

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Hello everybody. I have been using a dating site for couples of days and my experience so far is either good or bad. I mean...no sister has answer me not sister has rejected me. I know..i know..im a joke. Not in churches..not in buses..not in supermaket...not in the street...not in internet. :( i have emailed her several times, and not even a hello. Shame on me!!!
I was using several sites before I met my g/f (on CC, of all places!). I learned that women receive between 10 and 50 times the number of messages that men receive.... more if they happen to look like fashion models. Have patience. I messaged about 15 ladies, all of whom advertised themselves as Christian, and did not receive even a "hello" in response. Don't expect much... people on dating sites just don't have the same social manners as real life, no matter how wrong that may be.

On a loosely-related note, I recall one gal who messaged me with just, "Hi". I didn't respond right away, and she repeated the message. I tried to respond, and found she had blocked me. Go figure.
 
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Ugly

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Yes i know that. But i cant help it. Im like that...some women would say intense..some would say desperate...some would say crazy
...some would say passionate.
Dude. You reek of desperation. That is not passion or intensity. It's desperation. And to say 'that's just me' means you take no responsibility for yourself or your actions or thoughts. Victim mentality. I'm starting to see why you're having bad luck with women. You reflect a lot of negative traits that Can be changed but refuse to own them.
But you have to wait t to change for yourself and for God, not in hopes if finding a woman. Until these things happen you will continue to have problems with women.
 

zeroturbulence

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Yes i know that. But i cant help it. Im like that...some women would say intense..some would say desperate...some would say crazy
...some would say passionate.
I just want to be clear that when I suggested you go a little crazy I didn't mean to go crazy trying to get women's attention. That's just bad form and shows that you're desperate. I meant to be silly, funny and more carefree in your personality.
 
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sojames

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how old are u young man
 

tingz89

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My cousin found her husband on eharmony.com and you can try that. But really, as a counselor of family and relationship, I do think that desperation is a big turn off since it is a sign of unhealthy emotion. As a Christian, the big source of happiness comes from your close relationship with Jesus. If you have to find the one to be happy, then it is not right at the very beginning, you will attract someone else that is not right in God's sight and it will not last long without God in the center. You don't have to expect the same manner for people in the dating sites as it is in real life because time is precious and you have to be selective. My cousin gave me a really good advice, that is to complete your profile as detail as possible on aspects of what you want in a marriage and what you expect from the potential partner. Then you will attract mostly someone who is right. It has to be someone who read your profile carefully and find the merits of you to start with the talking. You don't talk about your merits on your own, but show yourself through your insight and wise words. Later on you can be known through your family or friends through social media when you get to trust each other. If your prayer is to God's please and not against His will, you will surely get what you want. I had witnessed my cousin found her godly husband and have a happy godly life with her kid from her first marriage.
 
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zeroturbulence

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My cousin found her husband on eharmony.com and you can try that. But really, as a counselor of family and relationship, I do think that desperation is a big turn off since it is a sign of unhealthy emotion. As a Christian, the big source of happiness comes from your close relationship with Jesus. If you have to find the one to be happy, then it is not right at the very beginning, you will attract someone else that is not right in God's sight and it will not last long without God in the center. You don't have to expect the same manner for people in the dating sites as it is in real life because time is precious and you have to be selective. My cousin gave me a really good advice, that is to complete your profile as detail as possible on aspects of what you want in a marriage and what you expect from the potential partner. Then you will attract mostly someone who is right. It has to be someone who read your profile carefully and find the merits of you to start with the talking. You don't talk about your merits on your own, but show yourself through your insight and wise words. Later on you can be known through your family or friends through social media when you get to trust each other. If your prayer is to God's please and not against His will, you will surely get what you want. I had witnessed my cousin found her godly husband and have a happy godly life with her kid from her first marriage.
Excellent advice! :rolleyes:
 
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Fromdomlove

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Thanks..but i already give up on dating site...i saw your advice too late.