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Hello!! NOW she is more than aware that there are creepers on here.. Let me tell you a true story about a woman who used to be a member here. "She" joined here as a female. Had access to the Ladies forum and everything. Over time, "she" let it slip that "she" actually was a man. More accurately, a transgender living as a woman. Everyone here who knew "her" was shocked to learn the truth. "She" neved creeped on anyone but just the fact that a man had access to the ladies forum was kinda scary in itself. Two more true stories, both happened in the chat rooms. A male newbie got on cam butt nekkid and showed us EVERYTHING. And a pedophile openly declared that he likes boys better than girls, because in his words, "they have more meat". They both got promptly banned but the fact is, crazies like that are on here all the time. You say that telling the OP her suggestion was foolish, is wrong. I say telling her was smart because now she knows what can happen on here..
I never stated anything against simplying warning or informing others. However as I stated before there's no need to call a newcomer foolish when they have no history of what happened on this site. People make mistakes however by addressing it in the matter ya'll do people could decide to refrain from posting for help again. But you & Mag can address people however you want.
 

Magenta

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I never stated anything against simplying warning or informing others. However as I stated before there's no need to call a newcomer foolish when they have no history of what happened on this site. People make mistakes however by addressing it in the matter ya'll do people could decide to refrain from posting for help again. But you & Mag can address people however you want.
You are completely off the mark. For starters, we did not call HER foolish, but her request.
 

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Secondly, it is not about this site. What part of that do you not understand? If a young (not that we know her age) woman (not that we even know the gender of this person) wants to have creeps and pervs PMing her, that is her business, and she can have as many of them as she likes. If she does not, now she has been informed that putting out an open invitation for men to PM her on ANY site is a FOOLISH idea.
 
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Why do some people come to such negative assumptions or try to strike fear into people. I don't get it really. While pointing out something which is true 'wherever you are', it is kind of pessimistic. I like to think God is an optimist really. Someone who walks with God is quite capable of looking after themselves, I truly believe that. It's kind of like the parent that shelters their child and doesn't let them go out or have friends because 'there are bad people out there'.

You either believe you live in a hostile universe or a friendly universe. I like to think in God's view of equal love for anyone he sees it as a friendly universe. However if you are into what God judges (definitely not a reflection of what you judge right?), then you are probably going to live in a hostile universe. God is Love, God is Judgemental - these are both polar opposites in the Bible. What I've found is people tend to be more judgemental than loving, because, it's easier right? What slips out of you easier, love or judgement?

Perspective is everything.

I try not to assume someone is a naïve person, and that naïve is worse than cautious and paranoid. It's kind of like saying faith is naïvety, to some degree. If I have faith that someone is going to be fine, is that powerful, or is that naïve? Should I be telling them the world is a bad place don't trust anyone? :)
 
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You are completely off the mark. For starters, we did not call HER foolish, but her request.
it's a pretty immature response to the situation if you ask me. You would think christians would say to a newcomer, "Welcome we advise you not to make such a request because this site has a history of creeps but we will be glad to help you". Not "that's such a foolish request" & thats it.
 

blue_ladybug

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Prynce, please learn how to read. Nowhere in my initial post, did I call HER foolish.. I called her idea to have men PM her, foolish. There IS a difference..


I never stated anything against simplying warning or informing others. However as I stated before there's no need to call a newcomer foolish when they have no history of what happened on this site. People make mistakes however by addressing it in the matter ya'll do people could decide to refrain from posting for help again. But you & Mag can address people however you want.
 

blue_ladybug

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And now you're entirely misquoting posts. No one told her "that's such a foolish request". She was told by more than one person that it was a bad idea..


it's a pretty immature response to the situation if you ask me. You would think christians would say to a newcomer, "Welcome we advise you not to make such a request because this site has a history of creeps but we will be glad to help you". Not "that's such a foolish request" & thats it.
 

blue_ladybug

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Once again, in case you missed it, she didn't ask WOMEN to PM her. She specifically stated for MEN to PM her..


it's a pretty immature response to the situation if you ask me. You would think christians would say to a newcomer, "Welcome we advise you not to make such a request because this site has a history of creeps but we will be glad to help you". Not "that's such a foolish request" & thats it.
 
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Prynce, please learn how to read. Nowhere in my initial post, did I call HER foolish.. I called her idea to have men PM her, foolish. There IS a difference..
Blue please learn to read I have stated previously you said what she request was foolish. Do you think Jesus would address people like you and others do to eachother? If you do your only fooling yourself just saying.
 
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Guys, PrynceNY already helped me with what I needed and I am sorry I made people think I had second intentions because I didn't. And I'm feeling pretty sad right now because the topic was virginity, I didn't want to discuss with women because being a woman myself I know there are things that can bring conflicts and I just wanted the perspective from the opposite sex, is that so bad? Why did some of you assume I was going to discuss something illegal or horrible? God. I now know that the two responses that hurt me the most came from women, precisely. I'm done here. God bless you all even the ones who thought I was just a creepy dude disguised as a woman or someone with a double intention.
 
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Oh and by the way I would never post something on here to get any attention. I am not an attention seeker I just had something in my mind that was troubling me and needed someone to talk to.
 
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Guys, PrynceNY already helped me with what I needed and I am sorry I made people think I had second intentions because I didn't. And I'm feeling pretty sad right now because the topic was virginity, I didn't want to discuss with women because being a woman myself I know there are things that can bring conflicts and I just wanted the perspective from the opposite sex, is that so bad? Why did some of you assume I was going to discuss something illegal or horrible? God. I now know that the two responses that hurt me the most came from women, precisely. I'm done here. God bless you all even the ones who thought I was just a creepy dude disguised as a woman or someone with a double intention.
Theres no need for you to leave galathea, you are welcomed here
 

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Why do some people come to such negative assumptions or try to strike fear into people. I don't get it really. While pointing out something which is true 'wherever you are', it is kind of pessimistic. I like to think God is an optimist really. Someone who walks with God is quite capable of looking after themselves, I truly believe that. It's kind of like the parent that shelters their child and doesn't let them go out or have friends because 'there are bad people out there'.

You either believe you live in a hostile universe or a friendly universe. I like to think in God's view of equal love for anyone he sees it as a friendly universe. However if you are into what God judges (definitely not a reflection of what you judge right?), then you are probably going to live in a hostile universe. God is Love, God is Judgemental - these are both polar opposites in the Bible. What I've found is people tend to be more judgemental than loving, because, it's easier right? What slips out of you easier, love or judgement?

Perspective is everything.

I try not to assume someone is a naïve person, and that naïve is worse than cautious and paranoid. It's kind of like saying faith is naïvety, to some degree. If I have faith that someone is going to be fine, is that powerful, or is that naïve? Should I be telling them the world is a bad place don't trust anyone? :)
I did not assume anyone is naive. I specifically worded my posts to show I was not making any such assumption. How is telling someone something sensible trying to strike fear into them? My goodness. You say perspective is everything but completely overlook the context and what is explicitly said.
 

blue_ladybug

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The ladies forum would have been a better forum to have started this thread in. :) Had you stated that in your OP, we could have had the thread moved there. But you posted two minutes after you joined, for men to PM you. Like PennEd said, that raises red flags with us.. No one here has called you an attention seeker, nor inferred that you're a man under a female nick. So calm down and stick to asking women, not men, to PM you. :)


Oh and by the way I would never post something on here to get any attention. I am not an attention seeker I just had something in my mind that was troubling me and needed someone to talk to.
 
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galathea

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No one PM'd me with any pics, just nice offers to help. No one approached me in a weird or creepy way.
 

Magenta

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it's a pretty immature response to the situation if you ask me. You would think christians would say to a newcomer, "Welcome we advise you not to make such a request because this site has a history of creeps but we will be glad to help you". Not "that's such a foolish request" & thats it.
Well, you misrepresent what was said so you are being dishonest. I hope you are proud of yourself. You will have to deal with your lack of honesty before God, as you said.
 

blue_ladybug

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No one assumed you were going to discuss something illegal or horrible. You need to stop jumping to conclusions. And for the record, no matter how helpful Prynce may have been, it would've been better to ask a woman to PM you. You had no idea if he was a creeper or not.



Guys, PrynceNY already helped me with what I needed and I am sorry I made people think I had second intentions because I didn't. And I'm feeling pretty sad right now because the topic was virginity, I didn't want to discuss with women because being a woman myself I know there are things that can bring conflicts and I just wanted the perspective from the opposite sex, is that so bad? Why did some of you assume I was going to discuss something illegal or horrible? God. I now know that the two responses that hurt me the most came from women, precisely. I'm done here. God bless you all even the ones who thought I was just a creepy dude disguised as a woman or someone with a double intention.
 
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To tell me that I should stick to ask only women to pm me says everything. You're just assuming that at some point a man is going to message me creepy things. And I do not share that. There are men out there willing to help and they're not creepy or have other intentions. I asked and I got help. Period. And I will ask for help to whoever I consider. Thank you.
 
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